Anger – Do you think it shows you in a negative light?
You should in fact cultivate anger.
It usually destroys relationship, doesn’t it?
After many bitter experiences I realized rather late in my life that unless you are angry where it is needed you will be crushed and thrashed by this mercenary world.
If you are angry for petty and selfish reasons you will not be respected.
When you display anger to a problem that needs patience, you will spoil it by your temperamental display. In such a situation you should be patient and calm.
But if you do not react when someone deliberately hurts you, you will be thrust aside as a supine and meek person.
This world has seen many dictators because the people lacked anger.
Actually it was lack of anger that made these dictators thrive and flourish, thereby making a mockery of humanity.
Remaining silent when humanity is butchered has led to the death of many innocent people.
Why is anger not always wrong? Be reasonably angry
Adolf Hitler, Saddam Hussein, Mummer Qaddafi were all by products of meekness of the people. These dictators thrived in the comfort zone of the submissiveness of their countrymen.
But you know what happened when people got angry. These destroyers of humanity were killed when people rose in revolt against them.
Can you see the power of anger?
My brother was always a soft-spoken man.
He was once standing in a queue to pay the electric bill. The crowd was moving very slowly. People were restless in the sweltering heat.
My brother saw that the girl in the counter was talking in her cell phone for a long time little caring for the impatient crowd waiting.
My generally good natured brother became angry. He went to the counter and told the girl ‘will you please switch off your cell phone and attend the customers. Otherwise I have to make a complaint’.
Needless to say the girl got flustered and switched off her mobile immediately and started attending the customers.
The crowd moved fast and my brother got the appreciation of the people there.
Was my brother wrong in being angry?
He was absolutely justified in showing his wrath to a girl who was not duty conscious.
Yes, my brother practiced anger because the situation demanded it.
You too should show opposition when your situation demands it.
Anger is a beautiful emotion provided it is for correcting the wrong. Without it you become a dull personality devoid of spirit and guts. Being angry is actually your rightful reaction to the wrong done to you.
In day-to-day life there are many incidents that make you angry. In your work place you often face a bully who tortures you mentally and makes stressed and tensed. If you do not retort back the bully will take an upper hand. You become the sufferer because of your meekness.
You should be reasonably angry to show the bully his place. Your anger is needed here. Unless you react with anger you will never get out of the stressed situation. When the bully understands that he cannot take you for granted he will never cross your line unnecessarily.
In bringing up your children also you should show anger when needed. It helps to mold them into good human beings. Unless you reprimand them when they do something wrong they will never realize their mistakes. Your reasonable anger conveys the message that they must rectify themselves.
But know the dividing line between unreasonable and reasonable anger.
When you are angry without valid reason it destroys relationships and you are thrust aside as a mean person. It shows you in poor light. It also shows your immaturity.
Cultivate anger for reasonable reasons. The power of such anger is awesome and immense. It helps you live your life with self-respect and self-esteem. No one dares to enter your personal boundary as they know they will be driven them off.