Do you know that angry outbursts against your spouse literally destroy your marriage to nothingness?
You often indulge in unwanted angry outbursts for the most innocuous reasons when you interact with your spouse.
You feel it natural to burst out in ferocious anger when things do not go your way in your married life, isn’t it?
Very immature behavior.
You spill forth hurting words with venomous force without knowing its negative impact in your relationship.
Do you know that bitter words you unthinkingly utter can also make your relationship bitter?
‘Anger will never disappear so long as thoughts of resentment are cherished in the mind. Anger will disappear just as soon as thoughts of resentment are forgotten.’ – Buddha quotes.
The effect of angry outbursts in your relationship is instant and immediate. Inconsiderate words with the deliberate intention of degrading your spouse shows you in a very negative light.
When you are persistently angry with your spouse and continuously abuse him\her, verbally and physically, there is nothing worthy in your relationship.
Never make your marriage a failure by displaying non-stop angry bursts.
- Why exactly are you angry with your spouse?
- Why do you always make your interaction with your spouse stressed and tensed?
Shall we see the harmful impact of your angry outbursts in your marriage?
1. Your children are the most affected!
‘Don’t worry that children never listen to you; worry that they are always watching you’ Robert Fulghum
When you fight with your spouse you forget that there is a silent spectator to your war of words.
Do you know that your child watches in horror when you fight with your spouse as if you were enemies?
The poor thing does not understand the reason for the continuous fights you have with your spouse. But he feels terrified by the heat of your angry outbursts.
When your child grows under such negative atmosphere of persistent angry outbursts he develops complex characteristics. It makes his future very complicated and insecure.
Children are always great imitators and they imitate your behavior with gusto without knowing its repercussions. If you persistently argue with your spouse, he grows up watching it.
He draws example from your temperament and learns the trick to become a spoiled brat.
2. You lose the love of your spouse
Loving words speak volumes of the care you have for your spouse.
‘I love you’ the magic words of your relationship.
It instantly conveys your message of love to your spouse. It is a positive emotion which cements your marriage with stability and solidity.
But words of abuse and neglect drive in the message that you do not care for your spouse. This feeling causes resentment and bitterness in the family. Slowly but surely the happiness in your married life is destroyed.
Occasional spurt of anger is quite natural and easily forgotten by your spouse. But constant use of demeaning words makes your spouse lose the love he\she has for you.
3. You lose the respect of your spouse
Mutual respect is very important for your marriage to survive and stabilize.
Let us suppose you thrust your work related tension on your spouse and scream profanities at him\her.
What do you think his\her reaction would be?
Initially he\she is bewildered about the reason behind your angry outbursts and tries to reason with you.
But how long do you think he\she will tolerate your unreasonable angry outbursts?
Your spouse finally decides that you are not worthy of attention as he\she feels completely put off by your immature and unreasonable behavior.
4. You become lonely and lost
How can there be happiness in your marriage when you fight with your spouse for everything?
You are angry but not happy.
It is strange you find it easy to fight bitterly with your spouse but find it impossible to show your love for him\her.
Your angry outbursts make the atmosphere at home sickeningly boring and tedious. Sounds of laughter are not heard in your home.
But it echoes with your voice yelling and shouting in anger at your spouse. You finally feel lonely when he\she refrains from interacting with you.
5. Your marriage finally ends
When you display your angry outbursts regularly you shake the foundation of your marriage. Your spouse draws away from you in contempt and resentment as he\she has had enough of abuse from you.
How long do you think your marriage can survive on thin ice of lost love?
It crumbles under the pressure of your anger. You can literally feel the days of your marriage being numbered.
Isn’t it sad that you are the reason behind your failed marriage just because you could not control your angry outbursts?
Superficial anger can always be forgiven as it is not an outburst of hatred against your spouse. It is a momentary display of irritability due to the external pressures you face in life.
But intolerable anger and volatile loss of temperament on regular basis makes your spouse bitter and angry.
Why do you show anger when you can make your marriage happy by displaying your love?
Displaying love is the most easy way to make your marriage successful and fulfilled. Angry outbursts are as explosive as an atom bomb which can explode your marriage to nothingness.