Divorce –unthinkable before your marriage.
But very possible after a few years of marriage.
Love – the word you used often before marriage.
The most forgotten word after marriage.
What makes you utter the word divorce frequently after marriage?
What happened to the intense love you had for each other?
Why do you become so bitter in your relationship that you think of divorce?
The answer is very simple.
Your love days are carefree and breezy – full of fun and humor.
But your married life is entirely different. Responsibilities and commitments make you tensed and stressed.
When your dreamy expectations are shattered, crushed and thrashed to nothingness you feel ‘I should not have married him\her. I think I have made a terrible mistake. I must get out of this relationship.’
Your mind easily discards your marriage as if it was a dress you do not like.
Why do you opt for divorce when you could easily avoid it?
Top 10 easy ways to avoid divorce – Make your marriage work
1. Nurture your relationship
Your married life cannot be a success unless you nurture your relationship.
Can a seedling grow without water?
It dies if you do not water it, doesn’t it?
Love and care are like water to your marriage. Your married life cannot survive if you do not care for your spouse.
Undemonstrative love creates a big rift between you. A rift that leads you to the divorce court.
2. Communicate and keep communicating.
When your relationship lacks communication it makes your married life an intolerable existence.
Why is it after marriage you forget to communicate?
You might say that you do communicate with your spouse. Talking about routine family problems is not the real communication to make your love grow.
Family issues are often argumentative communication.
Very dull and boring.
- Rekindle your love by talking about your courtship days.
- Spend fun moments with your children.
- Talk about your problems.
- Talk about your happiness.
- Talk about your success.
- Talk about your failures
Keep on communicating about everything under the sky.
3. Don’t be too focused on yourself
Do not be selfish and self-centered as it makes your spouse feel lonely and alone in your relationship.
- Empathize with your spouse if you want your married life to be successful.
- Never demand everything to be done your way.
- Never expect your spouse to change according your liking after marriage.
If you do so your spouse feels resentment against you snowballing into irrevocable hatred. Your spouse is an individual with his\her own inclinations and whims. Your married life becomes beautiful when you adjust to the diversified thoughts of each other.
4. Spend quality time together
Do not return from work to spend your free time either before the TV or recline in the bed to have a quick nap before dinner.
Nowadays video games, mobile phones and TV has barged into the ‘we time’ very needed to make your relationship work.
Your time at home is your family time. Spend it in interacting with your spouse and children. Do not talk about routine things.
Very boring and very dull.
You interaction should be about minor and innocuous things. Lace your conversation with humor.
Humor is always fun, isn’t it?
5. Are you indifferent? A marriage wrecker!
Do not be indifferent to the feelings of your spouse.
It makes him\her feel unloved, unattended and uncared by you.
Is your spouse looking sad and off-color?
- Say consoling words.
- Show your spontaneous support.
- Show him\he that you will always be there for him\her.
- Reassure your depressed spouse.
- Wipe the tears of your spouse. Be attentive and caring.
6. A big ‘no’ to degrading comments
Do you tease your spouse in an affectionate manner?
It is pure fun.
But degrading comments evokes understandable sadness in your spouse.
Never compare your spouse with other good-looking colleague\friend\relative.
Your spouse rightfully feels insulted and angry.
Never ever make derisive comments about the capacity of your spouse. He\she hates it.
7. Never overlook the goodness of your spouse
Appreciation is the manna of your married life.
Appreciate the good qualities of your spouse. Enjoy the happiness and emotional intimacy it gives.
When you appreciate your spouse, he\she feels happy that you acknowledge the contribution he\she makes towards the family.
8. Never have too many expectations
Do not have too much expectations in your married life as your expectations will never be met. Your expectations are always dreamy and unrealistic.
You feel frustrated and disappointed when your spouse does not act according to unrealistic expectations.
A great marriage wrecker.
9. Take care of your appearance
Maintaining and grooming yourself is another way of making your marriage a success.
When you look good, your spouse feels attracted to you. Physical attraction is a magnet which pulls your spouse towards you.
If you look shabby and grubby your spouse does not feel the pulling attraction very much-needed to make him\her glued to you. .
10. Never feel egoistic in asking forgiveness
Asking forgiveness when you are in the wrong minimizes the hurt and resentment your spouse feels.
Never feel egoistic to say sorry. When you say sorry it shows you care for his\her feelings that it makes your spouse reassured of your love.
Do not let the love you had for each other dry up. Keep the embers of your love alive and active. Divorce makes you feel lost. Your children lose either a loving mother or a caring father.
Why do you opt for divorce when there are such easy ways to make your marriage work?