There are times you want to spank your child, don’t you?
You feel it is very needed to discipline your child.
You quote many reasons for spanking your child.
- He misbehaves.
- He doesn’t listen to me.
- He back answers me.
- He is uncontrollable.
- He never tells the truth.
These behavioral disobedience by your child makes you furious and wild with anger. So you think the only option towards discipline is to spank your child.
‘My son lies to me. And he always disobeys me’ my friend lamented.
‘What do you do when he lies to you? ‘I asked her.
‘I spank him. But this does not seem to frighten him. He is getting aggressive day by day’ she looked frustrated.
‘You are doing wrong. Spanking will never discipline your son. It will make him feel you are unkind and harsh. When you persistently spank him, he will try to escape it by lying to you.’ I advised her.
‘How to make my son behave himself if I don’t spank him’ my friend was confused.
‘Try being kind to him. Explain why you are angry with him. Be friendly with your son. If you do these things you will see a positive change in the behavior of your son.’ my friend still wasn’t convinced. She felt justified in spanking her son.
My mother never spanked us. She was kind and selfless. We all obeyed her to the dot. If she had been strict and stringent I don’t think we would have evolved into a good personality she wanted us to be.
Can you spank your child? Don’t – Has adverse impact
Analyze whether you are right or wrong when you spank your child.
Often it is wrong.
- You see everything from your angle.
- You never realize that you too had gone through the phase your child is going through.
- You frequently vent your frustration on your child by spanking him.
- Your tiredness makes you spank your child.
- You are unable to cope up with your hyper active child.
- You were spanked by your parents. So you feel justified in following suit.
- You never understand that your child is in a learning process.
Do you know when you spank your child you leave sediments of resentment in him?
Your child feels insulted and hurt when you time and again spank him.
Would you listen to your spouse if he\she was dictatorial in his\her interaction with you?
You hate it, don’t you?
It is the same with your child. When you spank him he might obey you out of fear. But this is not long-standing. Obeying out of love and respect is the best way to bring up your child. He grows up to be loving and caring towards you.
Do you know when you spank your child he lies to you to escape corporal punishment?
Thus the very reason why you spank your child is lost, isn’t it?
What should you do instead of resorting to spank your child?
You can easily discipline your child by explaining to him why you are angry with him.
Of course you cannot pamper your child when he misbehaves. You should definitely correct him. But do it a positive way.
- Keep your voice firm and not scowling.
- Don’t go on and on in advising him. He never listens.
- Give him a hug after you scold him so that he does not feel unloved.
What to do if your child does not listen to your advice?
You can spank him – not as if he was a criminal. In a mild way which makes him feel he has done something which his usually understanding parents does not like.
Spanking should be your last resort. Don’t make it your venting tool to cool down your stress and tension. It has a very adverse impact on the tender mind of your child.