Most couples lose interest in each other few years after their marriage.
It is strange to find couples feeling bored with each other, after just a few years of togetherness.
It is indeed strange.
It is a fact, that many couples are disinterested in their married life.
Couples do not understand that feeling bored with each other makes a mockery of the love they shared together.
Are you one among such couples?
Most of you feel your relationship slipping into mediocrity, after a few years of married life.
Why does this happen to your relationship?
As years go by, you find it impossible to retain the initial glow of your love.
Where does your before-marriage excitement disappear?
Why is your post-married life, uninteresting and unexciting?
What happens in between that couples lose interest in each other?
The fault lies with both.
Shall we look at the common relationship mistakes you often make?
- Your concentration shift from displaying love for your spouse, to fulfilling family responsibilities and commitments.
- Your attention diverts towards your children.
- You drain yourself to earn lots of money to make the financial future of your family secure.
- You lead such a hectic lifestyle that you lose interest in interacting with your spouse.
A few months ago, I had gone to an eye hospital for my annual checkup.
In front of me sat a middle-aged couple. I could see that they were very well off from their looks and the way they dressed.
What amazed me was their attitude towards each other.
The wife stared in front of her with a blank look, while the husband was busy with his mobile. The couples scarcely exchanged a word in the two hours I was there.
They were a classic example of a completely disinterested couple, weren’t they?
Were the couple a lone case of disinterested couples?
No.
They are not.
Many of you nod your head in affirmative that you too fall under that category of disinterested couple.
Many of you feel that your married life is dragging on and on, monotonously and repetitively.
But this was not the case when you were in love.
You were very interested in each other during your love days, weren’t you?
This is the reason you find your dating days very thrilling and exciting.
But after marriage, your interest in your spouse slowly dwindles into nothingness.
Here are some reasons why couples lose interest in each other after marriage
- Your interest shifts from your spouse, to earning lots of money.
- You are more concentrated in making your family financially secure.
- You are not interested to notice the goodness of your spouse- This contributes to the lack of interest both display towards each other.
- You are so exhausted by your work-related tension that you no longer want to interact with your spouse.
- When you are bogged down by one responsibility after another, all you want is some time for yourself.
- You are fatigued and drained by the never ending household chores.
- Money matters makes you argue bitterly with your spouse. You find the diversified views about money that your spouse has not quite to your liking .
- Financial commitments of the family pressurizes you.
- There are lots of relationship issues between you. This makes you feel near impossible to retain the old love you had for your spouse.
- You seem to have nothing to talk to your spouse, after a few years of marriage.
Can you see the various reasons that contribute to the loss of the vivaciousness you enjoyed during your love days?
Whenever you interact with your spouse, you invariably talk about some important family issues which often ends in an argument.
So, you feel it better to talk only when necessary.
Invariably silence rules your home.
When couples lose interest in each other, they easily get addicted to TV\laptop\mobile phones\social media.
These are modern relationship destroyers.
Why do you change so drastically after marriage?
You had so much to talk with your spouse when you were in love. You talked about almost everything under the sky.
What happens after your marriage?
During the initial stages of your marriage, you are thrilled that you have married the person you ardently loved. The newness of the physical proximity of your spouse excites you.
But soon, you find your married life entirely different from your love days.
When you marry the person you passionately love, you have great expectations and hopes about a rsoy married life.
You feel that your spouse is the idealistic partner you had been searching for.
You also wrongly feel, that the excitement of your love days would continue after marriage also.
But you are in for a shock.
After marriage you see a totally different side of your spouse. A side you do not like at all. You feel your spouse is after all very mediocre and mundane.
Top relationship changes you lose interest in your spouse.
- Your care free days are gone forever.
- You become answerable to your spouse – Very frustrating and irritating to you.
- You do not have the patience to adjust, or tolerate the trivial faults of your spouse.
- You make a big issue out of your minor family problems.
- Certain habits of your spouse infuriates you.
- The gentleness in your voice gives way to roughness and toughness after marriage, making your spouse feel hostile towards you.
- You talk more in the mobile, than with your spouse.
Gradually your marriage becomes like an often watched movie- very predictable and very boring.
Never commit this relationship blunder.
Unless you keep communicating with your spouse, your married life stagnates and rusts.
Follow these easy tips to make your married life interesting
You teased your spouse with fun before marriage, didn’t you?
Do that after marriage also.
You had so much to talk to each other before marriage.
Show the same interest after marriage also.
Small talk with your spouse. – topics like movies, gadgets, sports and film stars makes your interaction fun and sporting.
Talking about interesting topics is one of the easiest way to make your married life lose its boredom and dullness.
Spend time watching your favorite shows together – cuddle up to each other.
Gardening is an excellent stress reliever.
Mutual hobbies make you converse with excitement.
Playing games together are good for your body and relationship.
Switch off your mobile phone when you are with your spouse. Never make it a substitute for your spouse.
Discussing interesting topics with humor and affability is a prime factor to retain interest in your spouse.
Conclusion
“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.” – Friedrich Nietzsche
It is so easy to ruin your relationship by losing interest in your spouse.
Couples lose interest in each other only when they do not know the laws of making their marriage work.
Married life is like a plant.
Can a plant grow when you do not take care of it?
The plant will wither if unattended.
Your marriage also needs attention like a plant.
Water your relationship with your love.
The simplest way to nourish it is with unrelenting interest for your spouse.
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