You want to enjoy your married life more than anything else, don’t you?
There is one simple and most romantic tool which takes away your routine drudgery and makes you enjoy your married life.
‘If you fight like a married couple, talk like best friends, flirt like first lovers and protect each other like siblings, then you know you are meant to be together.’ – Indie Aroha Young
‘Lilliput’ I smiled when I heard my husband calling me. It was his affectionate nick name for me as I was short in stature. I always enjoyed when he called me by his special pet name for me. It was fun and romantic.
Who else can tease me like this except my husband?
Though he is no more I still have lots of fond memories of him. Our married life had so much of fun element even when we were undergoing the worst financial debacle.
In fact it was the fun part of our relationship which made us survive those nightmarish days.
But sadly most of you do not know how to enjoy your married life. You are too concentrated on your family problems that you look at your married life with morose soberness.
Why do you not enjoy your married life?
- You are worried about the future of your family.
- You have relationship problems with your spouse.
- Your financial commitments unnerve you.
- You have tons of work related tension and stress.
- Your in-laws are interfering and intruding.
All these marriage problems make you very worried and sickly.
How can you enjoy your married life if you take these family issues too much to heart?
Family problems come and go. You have to handle relationship problems all through your married life. You can never avoid it. If you wait for your family problems to subside to enjoy your married life it is not going to happen. Married life without problems does not exist anywhere in the world.
Do you really want to enjoy your married life?
Don’t worry.
Revive and energize your married life by having fun moments with your spouse.
What exactly is having fun in marriage?
Do you think making fun of your spouse is the fun element of your relationship?
You are wrong.
Making fun of your spouse is a big no. It destroys your relationship. Your interaction becomes hostile and heated up.
Do you know there is only a hair-line difference between teasing and making fun of your spouse?
What is teasing?
- It is done in a lighter vein.
- Your words make your spouse feel good.
- It is playful and friendly.
What is making fun?
- You utter words with the deliberate intention of hurting the feelings of your spouse.
- You utter harsh and wounding words intentionally.
- You make derogatory remarks about his\her physical appearance, upbringing and also his\her habits.
- You pass unwarranted comments about your spouse before your relatives\friends in the name of joke. Your poor spouse fumes and frets in anger.
Easiest way enjoy your married life – Never miss this most romantic tool.
Making fun hurts.
When you make fun of your spouse about his\her appearance\family\ religion it hurts him\her emotionally. These are very sensitive topics. Avoid it at any cost.
Never make fun of his\her religion as it is very close to his\her heart. It is also a very personal aspect of his\her life. So your spouse will never accept your snide remarks about it. If both are from different religion, it is always better to refrain from commenting about it.
Comments about the appearance of your spouse is not the way to enjoy your married life. Not all are blessed with good looks.
You have sadistic pleasure by making fun of the physical attributes of your spouse. You also compare him\her with a more beautifully blessed male\female. Your spouse is naturally resentful.
Another topic where making fun will never be tolerated by your spouse is about his\her family. Any meaningless not so funny comments from you make your spouse angry and insulted.
When you make fun of the upbringing of your spouse he\she resents such unwarranted comments. These sort of topics are better avoided in your married life.
Married life can be boring without fun.
But married life will be boring when you cannot tease your spouse. You do it out of affection and indulgence.
You cannot tease everyone you meet, can you?
You can pass breezy and humorous comments only when you are emotionally close to your spouse. It adds flavor to your marriage.
With the rush towards materialistic affluence taking an upper hand, life has become mundane and very routine. The conversation between you has become lifeless and very boring. Your relationship lacks the liveliness of love and intimacy.
You tease each other in a fun-filled manner only when both are compatible. It is friendliness to the core.
Let us have a peep into the lifestyle of two types of couples.
The first group of exemplary couples
There is one group of couples whose compatibility literally shows in the way they talk with one another.
Their marriage will never be a life of mediocre conversation and they feel their vibrant love in every second of their married life.
They tease one another in a happy mood and their home has an atmosphere of pleasantness and beautiful relationship. You never tire out of such a marriage.
The second group of boring couples
There is another group of couples for whom marriage is a matter of day-to-day survival.
Their conversations are to the point and lack the closeness which comes only if there is compatibility.
Everything about them shows how their life is dull and without laughter. They neither know the trick of having fun, nor do they know the intense happiness teasing can give them.
Always chose the first group of couples
Which group of couples do you fall into?
I am sure you will always prefer the first type of couples. With the modern world inclining towards money, it has become essential for both to go for work. Naturally both suffer from work related stress and tension.
How can you relieve yourself from this tension?
You should tease one another in a friendly manner. You should hold your hands together in whatever problems you are facing.
You can easily step into the first group of couples if you shed your work related worries and problems in your work place itself.
Take a lighter angle of everything and make your family your priority.
Small things like teasing one another in a harmless way can elevate your marriage into a haven of love and belonging. Tease one another in a fun-filled manner and feel your stress taking a retreat. Teasing in words or actions lends a happy touch to your marriage.
The great turn on
Teasing with a mischievous glint in your eyes is a great turn on for your spouse. It makes both enjoy your marriage in the true sense of the word.
It takes your relationship to the threshold of mutual happiness and you will never find your marriage turning into a routine affair. Color your interaction with fun, frolic and laughter to enjoy your married life.
Hasina says
Truly helpful
Thanks
Mathi says
Thank you Hasina.Your appreciation matter a lot to me.
Mathi says
Thank you Hasina.