Marriage between an emotional spouse and a practical spouse is always contrastingly interesting.
Their relationship always blows hot and cold.
While one gets emotional very easily, the other is practical to the core.
Yes!
The behavior of an emotional spouse is in exact contrast to a practical spouse.
But this opposite characteristics that exists between you makes your married life interesting and enthralling.
Are you wondering how?
How will your married life be if both are very emotional?
Your relationship will be very boring, taxing and tedious.
When both are emotional, you make the atmosphere between you charged with never ending procession of emotions.
There will be too much anger, too much expectations, too much dissent and too much of every emotions.
This makes your relationship tensed as both feel the other is not caring enough.
What happens when both are very practical towards each other?
Your interaction is very routine and very uninteresting.
There is no emotions between you. Only practicality about everything in your relationship.
If there is too much practicality in your relationship, you cannot enjoy your togetherness as both are too practical and emotionless.
But couples being identical in behavior does not often happen in most marriages. In almost all marriages couples do not have the same characteristics.
While one is emotional, the other is practical.
Why do you and your spouse have such diversified outlook towards marriage?
Married life is a beautiful relationship between two people with two diversified characters.
It is this opposite characteristics that makes your marriage unique and wonderful.
And it makes it very challenging too.
While you are practical, your spouse differs from you in being very emotional.
Or, you might be emotional while your spouse might be very practical.
Shall we see how emotional spouse vs a practical spouse marriage is interestingly opposite.
What are the characteristics of your emotional spouse?
- Your emotional spouse always wants your open display of love and care.
- He\she is very anxious about your success\well-being\ health.
- Your emotional spouse is easily hurt when you utter harsh words in your momentary flash of anger.
- He\she is spontaneously supportive and protective towards you.
- Your emotionally charged spouse is appreciative to whatever you do for him\her.
- He\she is very pampering and indulgent towards you.
Can you see you need such a caring and emotional spouse to make your marriage happy?
But there are many mistakes your emotional spouse makes.
- When your spouse is emotional, he\she is very impulsive and rash in his\her decisions.
- He\she acts without thinking and rues his\her decisions later.
- Often your emotional spouse makes decisions based on his\her emotions towards you.
What are the characteristics of your practical spouse?
- Your spouse is very pragmatic and down to earth.
- He\she is not flustered about emotions as you are.
- Your spouse is not very appreciative as he\she is very casual about everything.
- His\her decisions are always sensible and result oriented.
- Your practical spouse often feels you make much ado about nothing.
There are times when you feel your practical spouse should be more appreciative and demonstrative, don’t you?
What are the mistakes your practical spouse makes?
- Your spouse is too logical and rational that you sometimes feel he\she is insensitive towards your tender feelings.
- You feel he\she overlooks your good aspects without really noticing it.
- Your practical spouse always criticizes your emotions as impractical and unrealistic.
Can you see how different both are in your attitude and behavior?
But strangely such marriages work fine.
How?
Your emotional spouse makes your marriage very loving and caring. Emotional well-being is very important to make your married life worthwhile, meaningful and fulfilled.
You need instant support from your spouse, however practical you might be. Your emotional spouse more than gives it to you.
But when your spouse is too emotional, your relationship turns highly demanding and clinging. His\her decisions are always emotional and impulsive. Your emotional spouse does not think and act, but act and regret.
Marriage is not always about being emotional.
Your married life needs practical approach also.
Your practical spouse takes the much needed hardcore decisions to make your family secure and stable. He\she looks far ahead into the future. He\she is very rational and logical about family responsibilities and obligations.
Who is the emotional spouse and who is the practical spouse?
The mentality of a wife and a husband is very contradictory and clashing.
A wife is often emotional and impulsive. She always needs the emotional back up from her husband.
An emotional wife feels deprived and lost when her husband takes practical view of her contribution towards the family. She feels upset when he is not appreciative of her care.
But a husband is completely different in his mental attitude. He is always pragmatic and rational in his approach towards his family.
A practical husband feels bored when his wife is too sentimental and emotional. He feels the pressure of making her understand the practical aspect of married life.
When you are too emotionally demanding your married life is very quarrelsome, hyper sensitive and combative.
But when you are too practical your married life is tiresome, boring and dull.
“I feel emotionally deprived when my husband does not support me when I am tensed and stressed” my friend lamented.
She felt lonely and alone because her husband did not emotionally support her.
Her’s was an emotional craving!
“My wife wants me to mother her always. Can’t she understand that I cannot always be proving my love?” her husband retorted back with mild irritation.
This is hardcore practicality for you.
So, when two mentally different persons unite together in the loving bond of marriage there are bound to be conflicts and clashes.
A very normal marriage scenario.
How should an emotional spouse and practical spouse live their married life?
Your married life should be a combination of both emotional well-being and practical approach.
You should be practical when the situation demands it. You should also be emotional to make your married life near perfect.
Can you be practical when your spouse is undergoing intense sorrow and grief?
No!
You cannot and you should not.
Your spouse needs your emotional support to feel loved and cared by you. Your matter of fact approach makes your spouse feel lonely and used. Too much practicality kills the happiness in your married life.
Are you demanding too much attention from your practical spouse?
His\her practical approach rebels against your seemingly immature behavior.
So, strike a perfect balance between practicality and emotional craving.
How to fulfill the inner needs of your emotional spouse?
- Looking directly at your spouse when he\she is talking to you. – It signals that he\she has your full attention.
- Small physical gestures like a pat in the cheeks, arms over shoulders, a warm hug gives your emotional spouse a great sense of emotional well-being.
- Communicating in a friendly manner makes your interaction fun and interesting.
How to fulfill the inner needs of your practical spouse?
- Help your practical spouse to face your family problems rationally and sensibly.
- Be down to earth and reasonable like him\her.
- Do not be impulsive
- Think twice before you do anything. Listen to your practical spouse.
- Face the ups and downs in your married life realistically.
Practicality does not mean your spouse lacks love. It just means he\she takes life as it comes. Emotional craving of your spouse does not mean he\she is unrealistic and idealistic. It just means he\she loves you that intensely.
Both aspects are very needed to make your marriage a loving shelter. Combination of practicality and emotional well-being makes you a near perfect couple.
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Rahul says
Very crisp and clear. Relatable specially when you are going through something similar and nothing seems to work. Will start all over again.
Jermaine says
This is exactly me and my lady,im practical,she’s emotional
I’m starting to realize that we both have to find a middle ground, because we are on the verge of splitting up