There are times you feel cheated by your spouse in money matters, don’t you?
Do you know money is the topmost cause for divorce among modern couples?
Why is it so?
Money has awesome power in your marriage. Though it has no emotional power, it has great stabilizing power in your relationship. In fact satisfaction in your married life greatly depends on money.
You cannot survive on love alone. You need the rustle of virtual currency to live with self-respect.
Money gives you immense financial security and great buying capacity. And great buying capacity is very much-needed in today’s mercenary world. With the world market flooded with flashy things you want almost everything.
You want to display your wealth openly. And you need money for that.
When there is no money for luxury your interaction with your spouse is hostile and aggressive. This is the bitter truth of modern marriages.
Do you know that most of your arguments with your spouse is about money?
- You frequently fight over family financial commitments.
- You fight over sharing the money you earn.
- You often feel cheated by your spouse in money matters.
- You feel your spouse is hiding his\her savings and investments.
- You think he\she lies to you about his\her increment and promotion.
- You are wild with anger that your spouse does not help you financially even if he\she has money.
- You also feel that the money you earn is yours and feel reluctant to part with it.
Why does this happen in most marriages?
Why have you become selfish in parting with the money you earn?
Why can’t you share your money mutually for family commitments?
Though you earn lots of money, you feel it is not enough. You want more and more of it.
You never have mutual discussion about the financial commitments you must share.
Do you feel cheated by your spouse in money matters? Many are
Do you feel your spouse does not help you financially even if he\she has the money you drastically need?
Do you feel angry when your spouse demands you contribute more for family commitments just because you earn more than him\her?
Do you feel he\she leeches you off your hard-earned money?
Do you feel your spouse keeps you in the dark about his\her real income?
Does this make you hide your real income also?
It is tragic that the money which should in actual fact give you financial stability often become the cause for bitter fights between you and your spouse.
Actually you earn for the betterment of your family, don’t you?
Then why this cheating about money matters?
Why can’t you be frank and honest about the money you earn?
The reason why you cheat your spouse in money matters is simple.
You as an individual like the power of money. When there is one-sided bearing of essential family commitments you feel angered that you are being taken for a ride by your spouse.
What are the topmost reasons why you feel cheated in money matters by your spouse?
- He\she has credit card loans I do not know of.
- He\she has withdrawn money from the joint account without discussing it with me.
- He\she never tells his\her real income.
- He\she has debts because of his\her reckless spending and now demands that I take care of it. I think it is plain unfair.
- He\she is tight fisted when spending for me, but expects that I should be liberal in my spending.
- He\she never shares the hotel bills and wants me to bear the brunt.
- My spouse expects me to bear most of the family financial commitments.
These are just the few of the money related pressures you face in your relationship. If you let this misunderstanding snowball into a big fight it eventually diverts your marriage towards defeat.
How to do away with feeling of being cheated by your spouse in money matters?
- Hesitancy in discussing your financial dealings with your spouse is a big no.
- Never spy on the earnings of your spouse.
- Never ask doubting questions as this makes your spouse reasonably angered.
- Have your own personal money. Let your spouse also have the same liberty.
- Both should have your own personal savings.
But helps your marriage in a big way as you are not tensed about being fleeced by your spouse of all your money. Your spouse also feels the same.