Do you know you can easily be a good husband when you listen to your wife?
Are you wondering how?
Let us see through an example.
Let us suppose you are talking before an audience.
How will you feel when you see the audience looking bored and listless when you are talking?
You lose your energy and enthusiasm to interact with them.
But suppose your audience are keenly focused on what you are saying.
How will you feel now?
Your speech becomes powerful and commanding.
This is the super power of listening.
A good husband is always a great listener.
Yes!
A good husband always listens to his wife.
Shall we look how listening to your wife makes you a good husband?
What will your reaction be if your wife looks elsewhere when you are talking with her?
You feel your wife does not respect and care for you.
You like your wife to listen to you, don’t you?
Then you should realize the simple fact that your wife too wants you to listen to her.
But the way you react to the interaction of your wife, makes her feel used and uncared by you.
What mistakes do you make when your wife converses with you?
- You maintain stoic silence while your wife talks about her problems.
- If at all you listen to your wife, your concentration is only halfhearted.
- You do not look at your wife when you talk with her.
- You mumble monosyllables as your answers to your wife. which she hates.
“I might as well be talking to a wall” your indifferent reaction makes your wife come to this negative conclusion about you.
You make your wife terribly hurt and emotionally wounded by your closed ears and clamped lips.
Why do you desist from listening to your wife?
- You feel that your wife always talks about some serious family problems.
- You are worried that your wife might get you entagled in unwanted family problems.
- You do not want get involved into issues which might create a big headache for you.
Can you see how selfish you are, in not giving your wife her much needed moral support?
When your wife talks about something which does not interest you, you show your disinterest by blatantly ignoring her.
By not listening to your wife, you make her feel ignored and neglected.
An ignored wife can be quite a handful.
You should understand that your wife comes to you with her problems, because she feels that you will support and share her feelings.
But the topics your wife talks about, does appeal to you.
You also feel that your wife is making a mountain out of a mole.
Your attitude just shows, how you do not understand your wife from her womanly perspective.
Your wife, as a woman will always be emotional. Her relationship with you will always be charged with varied emotions.
What interests your wife might not interest you. What bothers your wife might not bother you.
It is natural if you are different from your wife in many ways. But it is unnatural if the differences make you deter from listening to her.
Your wife wants nothing from you than your loving attention.
But you disappoint your wife in many ways.
You convey through your body language that you do not listen to your wife at all.
Shall we see how?
- You look away when your wife is talking to you, which makes her feel totally ignored.
- You utter monosyllables to the excited interaction of your wife, which clearly signifies that you are only half listening to her.
- Your lips are pulled down in disdain when your wife is emotionally charged about some problems. Your disdainful body language makes your wife feel that you are contemptuous towards her emotions.
- You look straight ahead when your wife interacts with you. You do not understand that you are making your wife dejected and miserable by behaving in such a callous manner.
- You hide your face pretending to read the paper when your wife is eager to talk with you. Naturally, she feels gloomy.
Why do you refuse to interact with your wife?
- You want to escape from family problems.
- You want to side step from getting involved in family financial issues.
- You do not want to be caught in family hassles.
All these are grave male mistakes
Here are some tricks that make you a good husband.
Are you watching TV\playing video games when your wife comes to you with some problem?
Switch off the TV.
This simple trick immediately conveys the message that your wife has your full attention.
You should turn your body towards your wife to show that you are willing to listen to her.
You should have direct eye contact with your wife, to signal the fact that you are interested in what she has to say.
Your eyes is a vital indicator of your thoughts. So, your eyes should not shift its attention – shifty eyes speaks volumes of your disinterest.
You should utter words of consolation to your wife.
Hug your wife to show that you love her.
Do not cut short the conversation your wife is eagerly having with you. It is the worst possible way to insult her.
Such simple tricks makes your wife feel she has married a loving and good husband.
Your listening is the key which makes your wife understand your love and care.
Conclusion
“So when you are listening to somebody, completely, attentively, then you are listening not only to the words , but also to the feeling if what is being conveyed , to the whole of it, not part of it” – Jiddu Krishnamurthy.
How does a successful marriage happen?
It is when you listen to each other’s problems.
Your wife depends on you for her mental stability. She feels that she has a friend and guide in you when you share her thoughts and feelings.
Your wife loves you when you laugh in her joy and sympathize with her woes.
In your wife’s tense moments. she needs a pillar of strength in you.
So, become the strength of your wife. It intensifies her love for you.
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