Do you want to know what happiness in marriage depends upon?
Most of you assume that wealth and affluence are the key ingredients for a happy relationship.
If this was really true all rich couples must enjoy good married life, mustn’t they?
Why are there so many divorces among the rich?
The truth is that richness cannot bring happiness in marriage. It is as simple as that.
The formula of a successful marriage is entirely different. In actual fact the caring and cute things you do leads to incredible happiness in marriage.
I am sure you would not agree with me.
‘Without money we cannot enjoy a good lifestyle. People respect us for the money we have’ I can hear most of you vehemently denying my statement.
- Your marriage cannot survive without money.
- You need money for the betterment of your family.
- The self-esteem of your family depends on your financial independence.
- You need money for a good standard of living.
The modern world is mercenary and money conscious. They respect you for what you are worth. They look in awe at your big bungalow. They gape at your swanky car. They ogle at the glittering diamonds you wear.
The world never cares about your love. It is totally focused on your wealth. And the envy of others make you gloat in artificial happiness.
So naturally you long for all these things. This makes you literally run after money.
The answer is a big no.
In reality it is the tiny and caring things you do that leads to big happiness in marriage
‘Modern couples think that it is wealth that bring happiness to their relationship. They never realize how wrong they are’ my mother told me when we were discussing the various aspects of relationships.
‘You do not realize that it is a mercenary world they live in. They are respected for their affluence and prosperity. So it is only natural that couples strive hard to be rich and well off’ I defended the modern couples.
‘Money is indeed important. But only to lead a good standard of living’ my mother smiled.
‘But today couples think that buying the latest gadgets, owning a big bungalow or a posh car can make them happy. I only pity them’ she continued.
‘Being rich does not bring in more love and emotional intimacy’, my mother was emphatic that wealth had no connectivity to good relationship.
‘I am not in any way saying it is wrong to work for the well-being of your family. I know that social status means a lot in this modern world. But it should not be at the cost of relationships’ she stressed.
‘Why don’t couples realize that affluence can only give them a great standard of living? Money can make them own all the good things the world can offer. But they cannot own happiness in marriage with their wealth’ my mother’s voice was sad.
‘True happiness in marriage comes from surprisingly ignored aspects’ my eighty six year old mother smiled benignly.
- Emotional well-being is the essence of a good marriage relationship.
- Small gestures of care and love are more valuable than a smart phone.
- Supporting words make you come closer to your spouse than buying the latest car.
- A warm look is worth millions of dollars than a diamond necklace.
My mother piled the list of tiny and caring that bring incredible happiness in marriage.
How true she was!
Look at what gives you happiness in marriage!
You feel happy when your spouse is indulgent and pampering.
You are energized when he\she encourages your capacity.
You adore the direct and loving look he\she gives you.
You are thrilled when your spouse appreciates your good looks.
You are fulfilled when your spouse thanks you for your care.
You are excited by the warm hug he\she gives you.
Such small things, isn’t it?
But it paves way to the happiness you keep searching in your marriage.
You might own a high-end car. You cannot enjoy your drive when you argue and fight with your spouse all along the way. Your ride gives you satisfaction only when both enjoy comfortable companionship.
You hate to talk in your costly smart phone when your spouse pesters you about your whereabouts.
You dislike the atmosphere in your big bungalow when you fight like cats and dogs with your spouse.
Do you have any nostalgic memories of your car or the gadgets you eagerly buy?
You are proud when you buy the latest car in the market. But after a few days you forget the happiness you had when you bought your car. It becomes yet another costly and lifeless possession of yours. Nothing else.
But the loving and happy moments with your spouse becomes nostalgic memories. You relive it again and again.
So materialistic things just give you a sense of well-being.
The cute gestures that decides the happiness in marriage
- Caring gestures
- An affectionate hug
- Wiping of your tears
- Hands over your shoulders
- Teasing each other
- Mischievous wink your spouse suddenly gives you
- Appreciative words
- Spontaneous emotional support
Will you ever outgrow these beautiful gestures of your spouse?
You never outgrow the happiness and contentment you feel when your spouse openly demonstrate his\her love for you.
You never feel you have had enough when your spouse takes loving care of you.
You never feel the compatibility you enjoy with your spouse is trivial and unneeded.
You are thrilled when your spouse makes your birthday\wedding anniversary memorable for you.
You look back in happiness the wonderful time you had with your family.
You adore it when your spouse gives you an affectionate hug.
You fall headlong in love with your spouse when he\she shares your problems.
You feel a lump in your throat when he\she glorifies you to his friends\relatives.
‘Enjoy the little things in life… For one day you’ll look back and realize they were the big things.”- Kurt Vonnegut
Can you now see that it is the tiny things in your relationship that gives you happiness?
Conclusion about happiness in marriage
Earn money for a good standard of living. But it is not the entirety of your marriage.
Your relationship needs tons of such small and intricate messages of love and care. They are love signals. Display it loud and clear for your spouse to feel it. You can now easily usher in the happiness in marriage you keep searching for.