Household chores! A literal battleground between couples.
Years ago it was thought that a wife should look after her family and do all the household chores by herself.
But today it is no longer so. Your wife wants you to share household chores equally with her.
Your wife argues with you bitterly when you laze around while she has to slog in her workplace and again at home.
‘Can you bring me some water?’
I was in the kitchen when I heard my husband call out. I immediately rushed to him with a glass of water. The thought that my husband was ordering me never registered in my mind. I thought it was my duty as a good wife to do such small services to him. I am talking about my married life some twenty five years ago.
Can you imagine this happening in modern marriages?
How times have changed!
Women can no longer be taken for granted by her husband.
Does your wife demand you share her household chores?
Are you a husband who thinks that your wife should slave at home while you do nothing?
She often argues with you when you do not help her in household chores, doesn’t she?
Sharing household chores has become one of the top reasons for argument between you.
It is surprising it is also one of the top reasons for divorce among modern couples.
Why does your wife demand your help in household chores?
During yester year’s husband was the sole earning member of the family. The wife stayed back at home to look after her family. She did her household work by herself. But she had time to relax till her husband and children returned home.
But mind you, yester year woman had tons of household chores as there were no modern gadgets to ease her work! She had to do every household chores manually.
But modern woman has double edged duty. An earning wife who contributes for the financial commitments of her family and a home maker looking after her husband and children. She has no rest time at all. She slaves at her workplace and slogs at home also.
Your wife earns as good as you. She contributes equally to the financial betterment of your family. She does not depend on you for her personal needs as she has her own money. Her financial independence has made her very confident and demanding. Your wife demands equal rights in almost everything.
Her one such demand is that you should share her household chores.
Quiet a normal wish, isn’t it?
You can no longer treat your wife as your maid born to do service to you. She is a highly independent individual.
Today inflation is at its peak.
- You have a good standard of living.
- You live in a big bungalow.
- You drive around in a swanky car.
- You own all the latest modern electronic gadgets.
- You dine in high end restaurants.
- You are very fashionable and wear trendy dresses.
- You give your children the best education.
You cannot make all this happen with your earnings alone. You need the earnings of your wife for the financial well-being of your family.
Your wife works for the sake of the family.
- She has work related stress just like you.
- She is tired and fatigued just like you.
- She needs rest just like you.
How can you expect her to slave in her workplace to come back to slave at home also?
Is she a machine to mechanically do her household chores without tiredness after a hectic day in her workplace?
Do you hide yourself behind the newspaper or plump yourself before the laptop\TV after returning from work?
Your tired wife literally fumes with frenzied anger at your callous behavior. This is the reason why she erupts in fury when you do not share her household chores.
You need her earnings for the betterment of the family, don’t you?
You do not have any prestige issue in accepting her financial help.
But why do you feel it demeaning to share her household work?
Your wife wants you to care and sympathize with her tiredness.
- Share her household chores willingly.
- Help her in looking after your children.
- Assist her in keeping the house clean.
- Give her reprieve from kitchen duty by showing your culinary talents.
Your wife loves you when you share her household chores. Change along with the changed trends in married life. Acknowledge that your wife is your equal partner and not your maid.