There are many insensitive mistakes most husbands make without knowing about its drastic repercussions in their marriage.
Are you one such insensitive husband?
If so, your wife fumes with anger and frustration.
As a man you are very practical, aren’t you?
But when your practicality clashes with the emotional world of your wife you make lot of unthinking and insensitive mistakes most husbands make. Mistakes that make your wife feel unloved and uncared.
When she married you she had great dreams that you would care and love her for eternity. Invariably you shatter her expectations by being wooden and deadpan with her. You act in a manner which makes your wife feel you are not loving enough.
Does this mean you do not love her?
Of course you do. But you never know the simple trick of making your wife feel your love.
Your practicality makes you interact in a very matter of fact manner with her. This makes your emotional wife think that you are wooden and unfeeling.
‘Make women rational creatures and free citizens and they will quickly become good wives; – that is, if men do not neglect the duties of husbands and fathers.’ – Mary Wollstonecraft.
You have great expectations about your wife, don’t you?
- You want her to mother you.
- You want her to look presentable.
- You want her to treat you with respect.
- You want her to look after your home and children.
- You want her to handle family issues all by herself.
- You want her to support you unconditionally.
- You want her to cook dishes you adore.
How strange that you have so much expectations about your wife. It is amazing that you never know that she too has expectations about you.
You are committing the insensitive mistakes most husbands make in a relationship – you coolly ignore her expectations.
Your practicality is indeed important to balance your married life. When both are emotional it makes your married life very demanding and oppressive.
But sometimes your practicality borders on indifference and your wife feels emotionally uncared by your apathetic behavior.
There are many things in the list of insensitive mistakes most husbands make
1. You do not listen to your wife
This is a complaint almost all wives have about their husbands all around the world.
What do you do when your wife comes to you with a problem?
Do you listen to her?
You think she is making a big deal about nothing. Your male mind feels she is making a mountain out of a mole.
So, when she comes to you with her problems, your attention wavers as you are bored to listen to her.
Your eyes become shifty and you make it very obvious that she is being unreasonably complaining.
Your eyes are on the TV or newspaper and not once do you look at your wife. Your inattentive body language shows her that you are unresponsive to her sensitive feelings. Your wife shrinks in agony for being callously treated by you.
Why does she come to you with her woes?
Her love for you is so intense that she feels you will support her instantly and spontaneously.
What is the best way to listen to your wife?
- Have direct eye contact with your wife when she is talking with you.
- Give her apt reactions.
- Your body language should show that she has your full attention.
- Your words should convey the message that you care for her.
These simple tricks makes your wife feel happy and secure.
2. You do not consult her in financial decisions.
Do you make this most common of the insensitive mistakes most husbands make?
You feel that your wife knows nothing about financial investments.
So, you never consult her before taking major financial decisions.
This is insulting the intelligence of your wife.
Will it surprise you if I say that your wife is as intelligent as you in dealing with financial investments and transactions?
You live for today whereas your wife lives and saves for tomorrow. You always look at the day-to-day financial needs of your family.
You think you can handle the future financial family commitments as and when it comes. You are lavish in your spending whereas your wife is judicious in it.
She always has the welfare of her family in her mind. Her far-reaching thoughts about the financial security of the family makes her take sensible decisions about money investments.
3. You do not appreciate her.
Your wife slaves 24\7 for the family. She lovingly looks after you and your children.
Do you appreciate her for her contribution to the family?
You often commit the insensitive mistakes most husbands make – you never utter a word of appreciation.
When you do not appreciate, your wife feels that you do not value her selfless contribution towards the family.
Let us assume she falls sick for one day.
Will you be able to manage your home on your own for a single day?
You will fail miserably. But your wife does it constantly and relentlessly.
What does she expect in return?
Just a word of appreciation will make her fulfilled that you care for her.
Does she cook your favorite dish?
Does she do her duties with unfailing dedication?
She takes your appreciation as a token of love you have for her. It does not cost you a dime. Do it.
4. You do not demonstrate love
During your courtship days you said ‘l love you’ an umpteenth time.
But you never utter these magic words after marriage – yet another of the insensitive mistakes most husbands make.
Your wife never outgrows these loving words. She wants to hear it from you – always, every time.
You love your children, don’t you?
You show your love for them emphatically. You take them in your arms, cuddle them to your heart and kiss them affectionately.
Why do you do it?
You want your children to feel your love. Just like your children, your wife too wants to feel your love.
Small physical gestures can communicate your love in a very telling way. A warm hug, pat in the cheeks, arms around the shoulders – these are some of the loving physical gestures your wife needs.
It easily conveys the message that you love her from the depth of your heart.
Your wife yearns for it. Give her this simple pleasure.
5. You do not share household chores
Again you feel that it is the duty of your wife to look after the family. You do not want to have anything to do with it.
So, you spend your time before TV\laptop while your wife slogs with her never ending household chores.
You never realize that she too will be tired from work. Don’t make this silly insensitive mistakes of most husbands make.
When you help her in household chores you can visibly feel her warm glow of love.
She feels she has married the best man on earth.
That is a very good complement from your wife, isn’t it?
You can definitely avoid these insensitive mistakes most husbands make.
When you view everything from a male viewpoint, you feel what you do is right. But when you look at your actions from the viewpoint of your wife, you know how indifferent you have been.
Enter into her world and satisfy her sensitive need for love. When you do it, she places you in a pedestal of respect and high esteem.