Are you bewildered that modern technology can ruin your marriage?
Surprisingly it does.
Many factors make your marriage problematic!
Lack of love, incompatibility, intolerance, indifference are all well-known marriage wreckers.
You would be stunned if you know that your craze for technology can ruin your marriage!
You are taken aback aren’t you?
Technology is after all for the improvement of your life and knowledge isn’t it?
Without technology your life would be stagnant and dull!
But hold on for a moment.
When you do not know the border line in using modern technology, its negative impact in your marriage relationship is mind-blowing and staggering!
You would be alarmed at the rapidness with which it makes your marriage lose all its glow of love and care.
‘Technology… is a queer thing. It brings you great gifts with one hand, and it stabs you in the back with the other.’ ~C.P. Snow
Is modern technology ruining your marriage?
Do you log in to your computer more than the time you spend with your spouse?
Do you talk in the mobile incessantly instead of talking with your spouse?
Do you find TV more fascinating than your family?
I am sure you would say yes to all these questions.
I point these technologies as one of the top wreckers of marriage!
Shall we have a peep into your day to day life with your spouse!
What do you do after you return from work?
You are dead tired and fatigued aren’t you?
You are bottled up with anger and resentment from your hectic day at your workplace.
You fume inwardly thinking of the harsh words spoken by your boss.
The tongue lashing you received from your high officials is all vivid and raw in your mind.
The indifferent behavior of your colleagues had made your day at work place intolerable and suffocating.
All you want is some rest and relaxation when at home.
What does relaxation mean to you?
Is it spending quality time with your family?
How nice it would if your answer was ‘ yes’.
To you relaxation means watching TV! Browsing the internet! Or talking with your friends in the mobile!
It is indeed surprising that you never want to spend your free time with your spouse or your children.
Why is it so?
‘Well, I am tired and my spouse is also tired. Our nerves are so frayed that one wrong word is enough to make us burst out in bitter anger. So it is better to spend my time on my own on things that relax me’
So you plump yourself before TV for your favorite soaps\sports.
Your spouse is in his\her laptop busy browsing or finishing his\her pending office work.
The children are of course in the mobile chatting or texting. There are also the video games which are the latest craze among the modern youngsters.
So you have a plethora of technological recreations right in your home!
Gadgets and technology have become an obsession to you!
Your obsession becomes an addiction!
Your addiction becomes a compulsive disorder!
You just cannot do without it!
- Children like mobiles better than spending fun moments with their siblings!
- Husband likes sports and internet better than interacting with his wife!
- And wife love soaps better than spending quality time with her family!
Slowly but steadily modern technologies have entered into your household as a menacing monster.
It eats up your family time!
It kills your communication with your spouse and children!
You and your spouse might exist as a family.
But do you enjoy the warmth and glow of true love and care in your relationship?
Do you have friendly interaction with your family?
In yester-years, there were no laptops, computers, mobiles or internet connections. The yester- generation did not have the benefit of worldly exposure as you do.
But they had one advantage.
Are you wondering what it is?
They never had to thirst for love and care. They were able to spend time together as a family. There was a loving bond between yester couples which seems to missing in modern couples.
It is true that you will lag behind others if you do not use modern technologies to improve your knowledge and intelligence.
But do you consider them as a replacement to your family bond?
An unpleasant blunder if you think so!
Gadgets can never replace the throbbing warmth of relationships.
Why then this propensity to give such importance to social medias, TV and the internet?
The world has changed radically and it is amazing to see the modernity of it. Everything looks plush and luxurious. It was not so a few years ago. There were no multiple TV channels some thirty to forty years ago.
There were no video games, no internet and no mobile phones. Breakfast, lunch and dinner were eaten together as a family! There was friendly interaction between family members as there were no mobiles to ring, no video games to be played and no internet to be browsed.
But the modern world has an entirely different scenario!
You and your spouse have to go for work. The children learn to be alone at home. You compensate your absence by buying them the best in latest technology and feel satisfied that you have done your duty.
You also feel that you are entitled to some relaxation when at home. You want to spend your time at home with your laptops, internet or your mobiles. You feel interacting with your family would brew up issues and problems which could make you stressed and tensed.
But strangely you react in a different way when your mobile rings! You talk excitedly with your friends\ relatives\colleagues with a smile in your face. The smile disappears as soon as you hang up. You yell at your children when they demand your attention. You glare at your spouse when he\she brings up some important family issues.
Do you assume that since you are a family, love for each other will be instant and spontaneous?
Nothing can be farther from truth.
Unless your relationship with your spouse is developed, cherished and nurtured there can be no true love between you. When you do not make your family bond blossom with love, your married life is a listless existence of living together physically. But you are too far away mentally and emotionally.
You possess most of the latest technologies and your standard of living is astonishing and astounding. Trendy furniture, swanky cars and luxurious home is something you can be proud of. You are so knowledgeable and you earn so much. You are able to provide your children with everything that is posh and latest.
So you must be very happy and fulfilled, mustn’t you?
But you are not!
You feel you lack something in your married life. You also feel that your relationship has become very mechanical and routine. There is no excitement in your marriage, just mere existence.
Why is it so?
It is because the importance you give for such modern innovations is not given to your relationship.
Modern and latest innovations are all important for you to forge ahead in life. They are weapons for your success in life, but they are not life itself. Love can never be exchanged for mobiles! Care cannot be replaced by TV! Spontaneous support and togetherness is more precious than mobiles, laptops and computers.