Lack of sexual interest in couples makes married life very boring and stressful.
Before marriage, you long for the physical proximity of your spouse. In the initial days of your marriage, you enjoy your sexual relationship intensely. You feel highly excited by thought of making love to your spouse.
But strangely, a few years after marriage, your sex life dwindles to once a month and further decreases to once a year. Sexual interest in your spouse gradually becomes a compulsion to you.
Why?
There are many reasons for the lack of sexual interest among couples.
Let us have a peep into the top 5 reasons.
1. Stress and tension
Your carefree life is lost forever after marriage. Now, you have many responsibilities thrust on you.
You lead a very hectic lifestyle. You have immense work related stress.
You are compelled to be on your toes to deal with the competition you face in your workplace. You have a lot of worries about your family. You feel that if you have money, you can lead a happy married life.
So, your attention shifts from spending quality time with your spouse to earning money. You want a good standard of living. You work yourself to dead tiredness to lead an enviable life style.
When you return home tired, all you want is rest. Sex is far from your thoughts. You want to fall in the bed for a few hours of sleep to have some breather. Already your mind is cringing in alarm that you have to wake up for another day of hectic work.
You do not have the energy to satisfy your spouse sexually.
2. Getting too used to it
Do you like eating the same food daily?
You don’t.
Do you like watching the same movie daily?
You don’t.
Do you like wearing the same dress daily?
You don’t.
Do you like having sex daily?
You don’t.
It is as simple as that.
You get so used to each other that having sex no longer excites you. If at all you have sex, it has nothing to do with your emotional fulfillment. It becomes a hurried ritual of fulfilling your physical urgency. Nothing else.
How boring can it get?
Getting used to your spouse is the topmost reason for your lack of sexual interest.
3. Lack of privacy
Sexual interest needs privacy. When you live in a joint family, you do not have personal time with your spouse. You have to be formal with him\her in front of your in-laws.
This makes you feel tensed.
Sexual interest actually starts emotionally. The private moments you enjoy with your spouse, gradually makes you feel sexually inclined to him\her.
The close proximity you enjoy while watching TV, the secret signature signs you have when you are with your children makes you wait for your romantic time together.
The atmosphere existing at your home directly affects your sexual interest.
Children are innocent to your secret romantic signals to your spouse. Your in-laws are not.
4. Not being attractive enough
You take your spouse for granted. This is the reason you never make yourself presentable to him\her.
For husbands
It is complete audacity when you link your lack of sexual interest with the shabbiness of your wife.
Does it mean your wife should tolerate your grimy look and smelly body?
Your wife also wants you to look presentable.
For wives
Your husband feels repulsed when you look shabby and smell kitchen.
Attract your husband by looking good in a neat dress. Simplest way to draw him towards you.
Attractiveness paves way for mutual sexual interest. So take care of your personal appearance.
Have bath in the night. Smelling good is very important to kindle sexual interest in your spouse.
5. When it becomes a compulsion
The inclination towards sex is different in wife and husband.
For a husband it is more of a physical act. He wants sex and must have it.
But for a wife it is more of an emotional act. She must feel emotionally aroused before she is ready for bed.
The impatience of husband and the emotional longing of wife clash to make sex a compulsive and disinterested act. Very boring and unexciting.
Conclusion
Sex is a unique relationship you share only with your spouse. Do not make it boring and dull. Revive the excitement and pleasure by being permanently interested in each other.
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