The marriage scenario has completely changed.
Do you want to know how?
During yester years husband was the supreme power of the family.
Modern women would find it strange and amusing that their yester sisters were submissive and docile and followed the orders of their husband to the dot.
You also would find the scenario of the yester generation married life completely out of tune to your modern mindset.
- During yester years husband was the supreme power of the family.
- His word was the final decision and there was no questioning his authority.
- His wife had to bow to his commands and demands.
- She had no great say in any important family issues.
Can husband hold such a massive power in a modern marriage?
Why was man glorified as the lord of the family many years ago?
Long ago it was the husband who went to work and it was his wife who looked after the family.
So the husband always felt that he should be listened to by his wife. He also thought that his wife’s only duty was to look after him and his children.
Husband vs wife – Who emerges the winner? – Changed marriage scenario
I still think back in amusement about what I studied as a student some forty years ago.
Do you want to have a look?
Who is a father?
The answer invariably was:
Father is the head of the family and he also earns for the family.
The next question?
Who is a mother?
The answer was always;
Mother cooks for the family and looks after the children.
This definition of a father and mother can never find a place in the modern educational syllabus.
The role of father and mother has undergone a world of changes also.
The father is no longer the total authority as his wife now challenges his monopoly as the head of the family.
In fact the role of the father is now looked in a rather lesser light.
- Why has your husband lost his foothold in the family?
- Is it alright that he is given a lower berth in family matters?
- Are you more capable of running the family?
- Are you right in questioning the domination of your husband?
Your yester sisters have been jailed to home for a long period of time. But you have now risen in your financial status so much that your husband has to accept that you are more than equal to him in contributing for the betterment of the family.
This transformation that you have undergone has changed the perception of marriage and there is no longer the head of the family concept.
When you feel that your husband does not listen to you have bitter arguments with him to prove that you are worth his attention.
Are you a wife who clamor for identical rights?
Of course you are more than equal to your husband in maintaining your family. In fact you are the pillar of the family. Your husband is incapable of running the family with the effortless efficiency you display.
- You are financially independent.
- You are as successful as your husband.
- You are more assertive than him.
But in the bargain you have forgotten a main thing. Your husband is a man and so is basically egoistic. You have gone a little too overboard in making your husband’s ego bruised and wounded. But he has no other go than to bow his knees to you as you would not budge from your demands of equal rights.
Now begins the clash between his egoism and your newly found aggressiveness.
Who emerges victorious?
You or your husband!
The result is utter chaos in the family. There were no such clashes in marriages in my days as a wife easily gave in to the anger of her husband. So there was truce in the family.
But in modern marriages there is constant fight for supremacy between you. You not prepared to give in to your husband thinking that it is a sign of slavery if he is allowed to have an upper hand. I do not know where slavery comes into marriage.
Is boosting the ego of your husband slavery?
Your husband likes it when his ego is boosted and hates it when it is wounded.
The core of a man is to dominate!
- Your husband likes it when he is respected by you.
- He likes a little service from you.
- He wants you to agree with him.
- Your husband is angry when he feels there is slackness in your attention.
- He hates it when you nag him about rights.
- He feels edgy when you preach about his duties.
When the ego of your husband is crushed and demolished by you it creates unhappiness and discontentment in your married life.
You yearn for the love and attention of your husband, don’t you?
It is your normal womanly need.
A great marriage is when the core of the husband and wife is pampered by each other. But in modern marriages there is no such pampering. There is only confrontation and disagreement between you. You oppose the views of your husband and he opposes your viewpoint.
This is the main reason for failed marriages!
When your husband feels that he is respected by you he feels happy and content. His male ego is boosted and he adores you for the special attention you give him.
When your husband displays his love and care for you, you feel content and pleased with your married life.
This is the simple trick to make a grand success of your marriage. It is very easy to follow also.
You should be an understanding wife and your husband should reciprocate by being the same. A successful marriage means mutual happiness. It can be achieved only when you feel the emotional pulse of each other.