Most of you face boredom in marriage, don’t you?
How can you be bored with your married life when you live with your spouse whom you ardently love?’When entering into a marriage one ought to ask oneself: so you believe you are going to enjoy talking with this woman up into your old age? Everything else in marriage is transitory, but most of the time you are together will be devoted to conversation.’ –Fridedrich Nietzsche
The answer is very simple.
You do nothing new in your relationship. In the initial stages of your marriage you could not have enough of each other. Your time together was lively. You had so much to talk about. But as years goes by your marriage slowly slips into boredom.
Watch a box-office hit movie.
You are very fascinated the first time you watch it. Your interest declines when you see it the second time. You are downright bored the third time you watch it.
Everything about the movie becomes very predictable to you.
How can you be interested in seeing the same scene over and over again?
How can you hear the same dialogues over and over again?
You never want to see the movie again.
This is what happens with your married life also. Everything about your marriage is very routine and repetitive.
Your interaction with your spouse is very predictable and mundane. You are bored and fed-up when your married life is nothing but doing the same thing, day in and day out.
Have you outgrown your spouse you so avidly love?
Has your love reached a saturation point?
Your love is intact. But your interaction has slipped into boredom.
Don’t let it happen.
Bring back liveliness into your married life if you really want to enjoy it.
Top 5 sure ways to overcome boredom in marriage – Beat the routine
1. Express your love
‘I love you’ these exciting words never will lose its sheen. When in love you repeated the words an umpteenth time.
But after marriage it becomes obsolete in your vocabulary.
It is true that after marriage, you have many family responsibilities. You are stressed and tired fulfilling your never-ending duties. You are mentally famished and sapped.
Slowly you refrain from being romantic. You become so practical that you think your spouse should understand your love even if you do not utter it.
When you become practical, you become stale. Practicality makes your married life boring and dull.
You are ready to show your anger, tension, unhappiness and frustration to your spouse.
But you never show your love.
Do you know your spouse feels bored when you are not caring and loving in a demonstrative way?
Demonstrate your love by saying tender and adoring words.
Exhibit your love through small romantic physical gestures.
Hug your spouse.
Smile at him\her.
He\she loves it.
It is the easiest way to overcome boredom in marriage.
2. Be together when at home
Both are physically together in the same house but mentally you are too far away from each other.
Work related stress makes both emotionally worn-out and exhausted. You do not have the energy to talk with your spouse. All you want is some peace.
You feel interacting with your spouse will bring up arguments and fights.
You watch TV while your spouse is busy with the laptop\computer.
Your children are busy with their homework.
There is pin drop silence in your home.
You have an uninteresting dinner together, with each occupied with his\her own worries.
Is this the scenario in your married life?
Very dreary and unexciting.
Being together does not mean being physically together in the same house.
It is the emotional togetherness both should share to drive boredom in marriage.
- Spend quality time with your spouse.
- Keep communicating with him\her.
- Discuss family issues together.
- Share laughter and fun.
- Sit close to each other while watching TV.
- Interact about your day at work place with your spouse. Ask her\him about his\her day’s work.
Talk, talk and talk with your spouse. Talk about anything and everything to drive away boredom in marriage. Never let silence rule your married life.
Makes it stiflingly boring, you know.
3. Plan a family outing
Nothing like an outing to relieve the stress and drive away boredom, isn’t it?
Family outings gives you tremendous emotional security.
Save money save for a family vacation. It wipes clean boredom from marriage.
Shopping is a great boredom reliever. But be careful to shop within budget as over spending makes you indulge in accusing games when there is paucity of funds for essential family expenditure.
Going for long walks after the children are asleep.
Chill out in a restaurant.
Watch your marriage album. You will be surprised by the nostalgic memories it evokes.
4. Have common hobbies
Have some common interest. Discussing it together makes both converse about it with involvement.
Your hobbies can be movies, music, sports or gardening.
Hobbies break the monotony of your daily routine.
Cooking together is another form of boredom reliever.
Try new recipes and cook mouth-watering dishes for the family.
But the most important thing is to enjoy your togetherness.
5. Plan a date
The most romantic way to drive boredom from marriage is to plan a date together.
Plan it at least a week before hand.
You can leave your children with your parents. A day or two away from family responsibilities makes you lovers again.
The waiting for your date is very thrilling.
Forget family financial problems during your date.
Put aside worries about your children.
Your world now consists only of both.
Whisper sweet nothings.
Relive your love days.
Have excellent sex.
It is your very ordinary lifestyle that makes you feel bored with your marriage. Try different things to liven up your relationship. Beat the routine to enjoy your marred life.