You long to be a good wife to your husband, don’t you?
Like a dream girl.
But mostly you find it impossible to fulfill his expectations of a good wife.
Of course not.
It is very easy provided you understand the expectations of your husband.
‘Of all the home remedies, a good wife is best.’ – Kin Hubbard.
As a good wife you make the life of your husband easy and comfortable. Being comfortable and easy–to- live –with- wife is his dream girl.
- Your inner grit makes you his pillar of strength.
- Your support makes him easily overcome his stress and tension.
- He sees a mother in you.
- He becomes dependent on you for his emotional stability.
- He trusts and believes you.
If you fulfill such expectations of your husband, he feels completely drawn towards you. Do not take the expectancy of your husband lightly as it is these essential characteristics which make you his dream girl.
Do you have these top 10 qualities of a good wife? If so, you are his dream girl
1. You are easy to get along with
You husband likes you when you are compatible.
What exactly is the compatibility?
It is an art of co-existing in peace with your husband even though you might have diversified thoughts. You cannot expect both to have unified thoughts.
You are not a Xerox copy of each other, are you?
Both are different individuals with your own wishes and desires.
When you respect the individuality of your husband he adores you. When you respect his desires you become a wonderful wife in his eyes.
Do you willingly make compromises and give him easy companionship in his rest time?
He now feels you are his dream girl.
2. You do not nag
Your husband hates nagging. You make him furious when you keep on commenting about whatever he does.
Why do you feel like nagging him?
- You feel that your husband is irresponsible.
- You resent when he does not help you while you slog with your household chores.
- You are furious at his laziness.
- You are unhappy when he does not listen to you.
So you keep listing your complaints from morning till the night when he is at home. Your poor husband hates it.
Why don’t you behave differently?
Has your husband done something wrong?
Advice him mildly and leave it at that. This is what he expects from you. He gives you the right to point out his mistakes in a soft way. He just hates your biting tongue.
3. Giving him enough spacing
A man is a man, whether he is married or not. Your husband is very protective about his private space. He likes to do whatever he feels like doing irrespective of whether you like it or not.
An outing with friends.
A day of sports.
Even lazing around the house watching his favorite shows on TV.
These are things he likes doing. Do not expect him to be at your beck and call always. Let him have his own space once in a while.
A good wife never intrudes into the private zone of her husband. Be it.
4. You are always smiling
Your husband likes you when you are smiling and pleasant.
‘I have so much of work to do and how can you expect me to smile with such a work load?’ A fair enough argument from you.
You have heavy work load at your work place, don’t you?
You go about your work with a smiling face and show yourself as a cool and composed person.
Then why is it you are always edgy when at home?
It is true that home is your unwinding place and you cannot put on an act to show yourself as a robotically smiling wife.
Do you know that your husband is completely put off when you raise your voice?
You can never make your husband listen to you when you are shrewish. But you can make him listen to you when you say every thing with a smile.
5. You are capable to overcome family problems
Your husband as a man is basically carefree. He lives for the day and does not have the capacity to look beyond it. He cracks under the pressure of problems you face in your family. He feels that his duty ends when he earns for the family.
Rather a selfish of him, isn’t it?
Your husband lacks your competence to run the family.
He feels comfortable when you manage household commitments so that he is not burdened by family issues. He adores you as a good wife when you handle family problems with confidence.
6. You have a great sense of humor
Do you have excellent sense of humor?
Do you take the teasing of your husband in the right spirit and keep smiling?
He feels absolutely comfortable with you.
Your husband likes it when you crack jokes. He feels good when you laugh with him. He adores it when you share his sense of humor.
You make his time at home pure fun- a dream girl quality.
7. You look after your home with care
Are you aware of the fact that your husband links your love with the way you keep your home neat?
Is your home littered with things strewn around?
Is your furniture coated with dust and grime?
Is your kitchen sink overflowing with unwashed dishes?
Your husband feels his nerves creep in anger and irritation.
But his tiredness and fatigue disappears when he sees his home looking clean and sparkling.
8. You are always presentable and well groomed
A man always looks for visual treat. Your husband is no different. He wants you to look well groomed at home also.
Your husband feels a twinge of revulsion going through him when he sees you sweaty and grimy.
Look gorgeous before him. He cannot take his eyes off you.
A small, but effective tip to be a good wife is to look good.
9. You boost his ego
As a man your husband is egoistic. When you bruise his ego by comparing him in lesser light with others he is frustrated and angry.
When you appreciate his ability he loves you.
When you admire his small success he feels energized.
When you do not brag about your success he likes it.
10. You are supportive
Do you know that your husband is vulnerable and sensitive to family problems?
Though he is physically strong he needs your support when he is depressed and dejected. He is easily pulled down by problems and issues. A supporting hand on his sagging shoulders is all that he seeks from you.
He might be in the wrong, but do not aggravate his mental tiredness by blaming him.
When you support him without any reservations, he feels secure and sheltered. Be the first person he seeks when he is stressed. It is your winning shot as a good wife.
‘Successful marriage is an edifice that must be rebuilt every day.’ – André Maurois
Support your husband in his times of need. Give him warm shoulders to lean in his times of stress. Smile lovingly at him when he is tired. Be seductive to his male needs. Be motherly to his childish cravings. Be an excellent cook to his hungry stomach. Now you are easily his dream girl.