Can you say no when someone asks you to do things you do not like?
You do not have the guts to say no. Though you do not like what others are saying you to do you say yes.
Why do you always say yes when your mind is saying don’t do it?
- You feel apprehensive to say no to others.
- You feel you will be misunderstood as a person who is not helpful.
- You feel you will hurt others when you say no.
- You want to prove your goodness by saying yes though your inner mind says no.
Do you know when you say yes to everything you are stressed by the unwarranted demands put forth to you?
So the word ‘no’ is very important for your happiness. Your success depends on it. You need to say no to have your own me time.
How to say no to others – Don’t be taken for a ride
Why do you never say no?
When someone asks you a favor you feel great. ‘I am considered worthy to help others’ you pat yourself in the back. So you say ‘yes’. In the bargain you little realize that the work thrust on you is not your business. It could have been done by the person himself. The person has robbed you of your precious time.
You should be helpful to others, but your helpful nature should not be used up in a selfish manner by others.
Everyone have their own work to do. You too have your load of work. With the world turning competitive and hectic you have to race against time. Your work schedule is tight and full. Duties towards your family needs your time. You need some time for yourself also.
You are not idling the day away. Your hands are already full of your own work.
So never do the work of others. The work of other people is not your concern.
Are you forced to give money for something you do not believe in?
Don’t do it. Say no in a polite and firm manner.
Do not lend money to your friends. It breaks your friendship if the friend does not give back the money. Say no. It causes momentary rift in your friendship that is all. You can always explain the reason behind your inability to give money.
Are you promoted to a place far away from your family?
Do you not want the promotion offered to you for personal reasons?
Say no to the management in a firm manner. ‘I have my family commitments. I am afraid I cannot accept the promotion’. Simple words but means a lot to your family. Imagine spending days away from them. Your no saves you lots of confusion in your family.
When your friend or relative approach you to do some work on their behalf, you feel it is your duty to help them.
Of course, it is essential to have a helping tendency, but make sure that your basically soft nature is not selfishly lapped up by your lazy friends\ colleagues.
If your colleagues have any doubts regarding their work it is good manners to help them. One day you too might need their help. But never allow them to thrust their work on you saying that they have some other personal work to do. You should firmly say ‘no’.
If they have personal work it is their duty to come to work early and finish their pending work. Or they should plan their personal work in such a way that it does not intrude into their professional work.
When you say ‘yes’ and oblige them by doing their work, you see that thrusting work on you becomes habitual and regular. You are dragged into added and unwanted work which finally mars your own work proficiency.
Some friends keep borrowing your costly gadgets even if they have the capacity to buy it. You give it to them because you want to be amiable and agreeable.
The result is that the thing which you so eagerly bought makes its rounds among your friends and you are just its name sake owner.
You should say a big no when you are asked for your personal things. Say no by explaining pleasantly that you need it. When you refuse again and again the concerned person gets the clue that you will not lend your things.
It is better to say ‘no’ than say yes and make your relationship tense and stressed. When you say ‘no’ you send out the authentic message that you are person who cannot be taken for granted. You also avoid the unwanted tension you could have been easily avoided if only you had the guts to say ‘no’.