Is sex in marriage really important?
The uniqueness of sex is that you share it only with your spouse. This distinctiveness makes sex very important in marriage.
Imagine married life without sex!
- You do not branch out as family.
- Both might as well be roommates if there is no sexual life between you.
- There is no romance in your relationship.
- There is no enjoyable attraction between you.
Your honeymoon days are heavenly because you are excited by the physical proximity of your spouse.
But why are you unable to sustain your sexual drive after a few years of marriage?
In fact many couples become physically averse to each other.
If at all they have sex it is a routine act with no true intimacy.
Why does your frenzied physical attraction disappear after a few years of marriage?
- Your family responsibilities and commitments make you drained and fatigued.
- You are stressed and tensed by your hectic work schedule.
- Your concentration shifts from your spouse to your children.
- You become so used to each other that there is nothing exciting about your relationship.
- You drift away from each other mentally and physically.
You are doing it all wrong.
Emotional intimacy makes your marriage stable and lasting. Sexual intimacy makes your attraction towards each other alive and kicking.
Sex in marriage – Enjoyable or compulsive?
To your husband sex in marriage means obsessive enjoyment. It is more of an animal instinct with him.
To your wife sex in marriage means emotional togetherness. The sexual act means less to her. She wants emotional display of your love. She feels disappointed when you satisfy your lust and turn over to sleep.
‘The main problem in marriage is that for a man sex is a hunger like eating. If the man is hungry and can’t get to a fancy restaurant, he goes to a hot dog stand. For a woman, what is important is love and romance.’- Joan Fontaine
This different outlook towards the physical aspect of marriage makes your sexual life very stressful and boring.
Greatest sexual blunder of your husband
The sexual urge of your husband is more physical. He demands it when he is in the need not worrying about your mood.
Does your husband insist on sex even if you are not in the mood for it?
Does he get immediately into action without really making you feel sexually aroused?
More like an animal in the jungle, isn’t he?
He is into the act without any further delay. More like a half-cooked meal – tasteless and unpalatable.
You feel completely unsatisfied when your husband concentrates on your body without thinking of your emotional cravings for small intricate physical gestures of love.
Greatest sexual blunder of your wife
Does your wife makes sex a weapon to meet her demands?
Does she hold back sex in anger and deny you your rightful pleasure?
You are angry when your wife misuses your weakest moment to make her demands met.
You hate your wife for her callousness, don’t you?
Physical intimacy is one of the main ingredients of a happy marriage.
Sexual intimacy is worthless when you are not emotionally close to your spouse. Your emotional intimacy means nothing when you are not physically intimate with your spouse.
Emotional and physical closeness are interlinked. You need both.
When you lose interest in sex you lose interest in your spouse.
Why does sex in marriage lose its glow so soon?
- Your work schedule completely drains you – mentally and physically.
- You take your work tension right into your home.
- You make much ado about minor differences with your spouse.
- You outgrow your spouse very easily.
- You are overwhelmed by your responsibilities and commitments.
You do not overcome your mental tension by being emotionally and physically close to your spouse. Instead you isolate yourself from him\her. You plunge into a miserable world of depressive thoughts about your relationship.
Sex is no longer in your thoughts as you do not find anything exciting about your spouse.
You make tension from your outside world rob you of the euphoric excitement sex in marriage can give you. Never let the intimacy between you become mundane and practical. It should be a spontaneous, exciting and electrifying need for one another.
Sex in marriage is very personal to both, isn’t it?
Just the two of you!
In your own world of wild and frenzied excitement.
Never make it routine and compulsory. Make it differently exhilarating.