Suspicion in marriage is like a devil which destroys your relationship.
Trust in your spouse is the topmost ingredient to a happy and peaceful married life.
All marriages are built on trust and hope. Love makes your married life stable and emotionally secure. Trust makes your relationship meaningful and worthy.
Love and trust in married life are interlinked and interconnected. You cannot enjoy your relationship without the combination of both these essential qualities.
When you truly love your spouse you trust him\her instantly and incessantly.
Mutual loyalty easily gets embedded in your relationship.
What happens to your married life now?
‘To be suspicious is not a fault. To be suspicious all the time without coming to a conclusion is the defect.’ –Lu Xun
Suspicion in marriage is the worst possible crisis which pushes your relationship to the brink of failure
Suspicion in marriage – Destructive element of your relationship
What are the negative impact of suspicion in marriage?
- You are furious when your spouse spies your whereabouts on the sly.
- You are enraged when he\she checks messages in your mobile.
- You are appalled when your spouse also has a sneak look at your emails.
What makes you angry when your spouse behaves in such a suspicious way?
Your integrity is being questioned.
Your loyalty towards your spouse is suspected.
‘When suspicion enters marriage through the back door, happiness in the family goes through the front door’ my mother always tells me.
She is hundred percent correct.
Suspicion in marriage destroys your marital happiness. When you doubt the activities of your spouse you do not have a moment of peace. Your suspicion driven mind assumes the worst about your spouse and makes you look at him\her with spying eyes.
What happens when you are suspicious about your spouse?.
- You are frenzy with anger when your spouse is late from work.
- You assume that your spouse is disloyal when he\she speaks for a long time in the mobile with his\her friends\relatives\colleagues.
- You become distrustful when he\she interacts with friendliness with the opposite sex.
- You keep calling your spouse to check his\her whereabouts.
- You doubtfully check his\her social media activities.
What makes you suspicious of your spouse?
Over possessiveness makes you have all sorts of doubts about your spouse.
When he\she is late from work your imagination runs wild.
‘He\she is having fun with his friends\colleagues’ you are decisive about the disloyalty of your spouse. You have a hostile showdown with him\her. Your tired spouse yells back at you enraged at your outrageous imagination.
Lack of confidence is yet another breeding ground for suspicion in marriage.
Suspicion actually breeds in an unhealthy and unsure mind. When your spouse is assertive and confident, your meek nature envies him\her. You misconstrue his\her friendliness as flirting. You eavesdrop when your spouse has business talk with his\her colleagues.
- Suspicion makes interaction with your spouse very tensed and heated up.
- When you ask doubting and provoking questions, he\she resents your attitude.
- Your suspicious nature makes you fight bitterly about the nonexistent betrayal of your spouse.
The bitterness and resentment your suspicious nature brings into your relationship finally destroys your marriage.
In married life mutual trust and love for each other is an absolute necessity for your relationship to thrive.
I had an excellent friendship with my husband. The trust we had in each other was as strong as iron.
A member of his family was out to destroy our relationship. I started having anonymous calls from a woman who said that she was his wife.
‘Do you know I have two sons and your husband in their father? I have equal rights over him’ she blabbered.
Yes. The woman was blabbering.
Not for one second did I doubt my husband. I trusted him implicitly and without an iota of doubt.
I did not answer back but banged the phone down.
‘So you have another family. Is she so beautiful that you married her also? But I fail to see what she sees in you’ I teased my husband after telling him about the call.
‘I cannot manage with one wife. How can I manage two wives’, he smiled back. Both of us burst out laughing. The poor woman never knew she did not bring up even a small dust of suspicion into our relationship.
That should be the faith in your spouse!
Strong and intense!
Never ever allow suspicion enter your relationship. Everything is lost in your marriage when you lose trust in your spouse.
How to avoid suspicion in marriage?
- Do not misconstrue the activities of your spouse.
- Do not wrongly assume that he\she is cheating you behind your back.
- Do not check his\her mobile phones.
- Do not eaves drop when he\she is talking with others.
- Do not try to confirm your doubts through a third person. This mistake creates terrible negative impact in your relationship.
If you really have valid reasons to suspect the fidelity of your spouse ask him\her directly. Accept his\her clarifications and explanations. Do not keep harping at your suspicious allegations again and again as it angers your spouse.
Suspicion in marriage is like an octopus which crushes your marriage by its awesome tentacles. You find it very difficult to save your marriage when you have unreasonable doubts about your spouse. Trust your spouse wholeheartedly. It makes your relationship go from strength to strength.