Do you have the patience and understanding to take back your cheating husband?
Do you feel you cannot live with him after he cheated your trust by having extramarital affairs behind your back?
You are naturally revolted and furious with your husband.
‘You had the audacity to run off with another woman. Now you have come back to me because you are fed up with her.’
The high pitched voice of my mother’s friend broke the silence of the still afternoon.
‘What sort of a man are you? Can you compensate for the hardships I underwent to bring up our children all by myself?’ she yelled at the top of her voice.
Her husband had left her for another woman and now he had returned home after some years. My mother had witnessed the hardships her friend faced as a single parent. She felt that her friend was fully justified in her anger.
The next day she came to see my mother, ‘I accepted him. I could have easily rejected him, but I did not want him to get away that easily. This is his last chance and I will see to it that he does all I expect him to do for the family’ she told my mother with grim determination.
She made good her words and her husband was tamed and subdued to do his duties. Hers is a case of practical acceptance of a cheating husband.
This happened some years ago when women were more conservative and traditional.
Now times have changed.
You have become more aggressive and more assertive. Your husband can no longer take you for granted. You do not have the patience to take back your cheating husband. You need not too. When you are loyal to your husband it is only natural you expect the same from him.
In your furious anger you mentally throw him away from your life.
What would you do if he comes back red faced and asks for an apology?
Living again with your husband who left you to live with another woman is not an easy joke. You cannot easily forget the bitterness and grief he caused you.
You are now in a dilemma whether you should take back your cheating husband, aren’t you?
Unless you are sure you can make your relationship work again, do not accept him.
But if the embers of your love for him is still alive, you have a chance to restart your married life again.
Shall we see the reasons when you can take back your cheating husband?
1. When he feels really sorry
It is mostly physical attraction that makes your husband take such a drastic step. When he is lured by physical attraction he loses all control over his senses and becomes a prey to the needs of his flesh.
But the sly relationship of your husband is very short lived and fragile. He soon loses his interest in the other woman and the woman loses her interest in him. As there was no no true love between them, their relationship loses its newness and freshness quickly.
After coming to his senses the first thought that comes to your husband’s mind is you and the children.
Your husband wants your love back. He wants his family back. He wants the warm togetherness with his children back.
If you are ready to accept his apologies you can give your married life another lease of life.
2. When you feel he has really changed
You are in two minds about him. One half of your mind says not to accept him.
But the other half of your mind tells you to accept him. If you feel you cannot live with him again you should never consider taking him back.
But suppose you feel he has really changed and would never cheat you again you can take your cheating husband back.
You do not disown your children even if they commit grave mistakes, do you?
You overlook their mistakes and forgive them because your love for them is very intense and powerful.
Do you remember the case of a world famous personality who cheated his wife?
He was a world leader also. He was accepted by his wife because she loved him that much. She had a very forgiving nature. His cheating is a thing of past in their life and now they are together.
You too can take back your cheating husband if you really feel he would never cheat you any time in his life.
3. When you still love him
You are angry when your husband leaves you for another woman. Your agony at his betrayal cannot be easily described. The days and nights your spent in tears is like a vivid wound in your mind.
But above all that your love for him is still not dead. You are sure your husband still loves you. You yearn to live with him again.
So, when he begs for forgiveness , you relent and take back your cheating husband.
4. When you can forget and forgive
Unless you have the capacity to forget, you will not be able to forgive your husband. If you have an unforgiving nature, your truce with your husband will not last.
You bring up his cheating again and again in your interaction that you find it impossible to be normal with him.
‘Can I really begin a new life with him?’
‘Can I forget what happened between us?’
Ask yourself these questions.
If you feel you can forget and forgive you can take back your cheating husband.
5. When your children love him
Did he love his children?
Was he a good parent?
Do your children still love him and want him back?
Being with their father means a lot to them.
When he was away, your children had looked longingly at their friends having enjoyable time with their father. They too want their father back as they still remember the fun times they had with him.
When you see the longing of your children, you too want to be a family- you, your husband and your children.
Nothing to beat the secured feeling of a family, is there?
You want the laughter back in your children’s face.
You are sure that reunion with your husband can make them emotionally stable.
5. When you are practical
As a practical person you know that you cannot meet the expenses of the family alone.
You want your husband to fulfill his commitments for the family.
‘He has done an unforgivable mistake. If I let him off the hook, he will get away easily. He has to be stopped from having fun and now is the time for him to do some real duties for the family’.
Does your mind compel you that your husband must be trapped to do his duties?
You are also practical to the fact that if you go in for divorce, you lose your peace, your emotional security and the happiness of your children.
So, you harden your mind to take him back.
You forgive him because you are practical and determined to make him aware of his duties.
Your husband made a fool of himself by listening to the needs of his flesh. When he came to his senses, all he wanted was to come back to you.
Now the ball is in your court. The decision whether to accept your husband or reject him is entirely yours.
If you reject him, you are completely justified.
But when you take back your cheating husband wipe his betrayal clean from your mind. Start your married life afresh with the hope of reviving your lost love.