People’s skill is the easiest gateway to success.
What exactly is people’s skill?
- It is your ability to communicate with people with uncanny fluency.
- It is the way you empathize with people.
- It is your ability to understand the problems of others.
- It is the easy friendliness you extend when you talk with others.
Do you possess these qualities?
You mostly don’t.
I am sure most of you never think a big deal about people’s skill.
- You never want to interact with people you do not know.
- You do not smile when you talk with strangers.
- You freeze with self-consciousness when you are in a crowd.
In fact most of us are like this. There was a time in my life when I never even glanced at people I did not know. If someone with whom I was not familiar interacted with me I was very formal and very straight.
I was completely lacking in people’s skill.
But now I know that you need people to be successful. You just cannot exist on your own. You have to be communicative to pluck the tantalizing flower of success.
So I developed people’s skill. It opened me a new world. I was astonished to see that almost all people like to communicate. I now easily communicate with strangers with ease.
Does this mean it is other people who decide your success?
Of course not.
But they are an indirect root cause for your success.
Do you want an example?
You might have great creativity in writing. But unless people read your writing you fade into obscurity.
James Cameron is a great film director. His films Titanic is a classic. His film Avatar is yet another classic movie. But his greatness would not have created ripples if people did not watch his movies avidly, again and again. So he owes his success to his fans.
People’s skill is also just like that. It is the gateway to your success.
Is it very difficult to cultivate people’s skill?
Top 10 effective tips to develop people’s skill – Gateway to success
1. Smile when you talk.
When you interact with people you do not smile. This puts off others from talking with you.
But when you smile at people it instantly conveys the message that you are very friendly and helpful. It draws people towards you. You should smile with your eyes as it reflects your friendliness.
2. Let others have their say
Do not keep interrupting when you are interacting with others. It puts people off.
Give them the space to view out their thoughts. Do not barge into the conversation to show off your knowledge.
3. Listen to what others say
Be a great listener. People like to talk about themselves. They want someone to pour out their feelings.
Listen with empathy to what they say and give apt answers.
Your head should be tilted towards them so that it shows they have your full attention.
4. Remember names
Remember names. Do not take this aspect very lightly. When you remember a person by his name it makes him feel very important.
I filed a FIR to trace a missing certificate of mine. When I went to the police station to collect the FIR the policeman remembered me by my name. He laughingly told me to keep my certificates in a safe place. He interconnected instantly with me because of his friendliness – a good example of people’s skill.
5. Be trusting
Trust others. When you ask probing and doubting questions it creates adversity in the mind of the person.
If you trust others they trust you. A mutual way to people’s skill.
6. Be flexible
Are you rigid in your thoughts and activities?
Do you want people to tow your line?
You cannot expect people to act to your liking. Be flexible and pliable when there is need.
But if you are too pliable you become meek and submissive. People trample you. When you are too rigid people deviate from you.
Strike the right balance.
7. Be humorous
Are you always moody and gloomy?
It puts people off from you.
When you have a great sense of humor people are attracted towards you. People like it when you talk with humor intermingled seamlessly in your interaction.
8. Develop excellent body language
Do you watch your body language?
It talks for you. Your actions speak volumes. They convey incredible messages.
If your body is slumped and droopy you are judged as a person lacking confidence. But when your posture is straight and your voice firm and friendly people like you.
9. Never be commanding
Do not act in a commanding manner with others. You have no right to command others.
No one is your slave.
Be humble and down to earth.
One of the topmost aspect of people’s skill.
10. Honesty is still the best policy
Be honest to make people trust you. Do not give false promises and coolly forget your promise. This creates instant distrust in you. People become wary of you.
You can make more friends in two months by becoming really interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you. Which is just another way of saying that the way to make a friend is to be one.
Can you see how people’s skill is actually how you interact with others in a way that produces positive reaction from people around you?
It is the easiest thing in the world. Develop it. See your life change for the better.