Top 5 easy tips to nurture the relationship with your spouse can change your married life from the ordinary to the extraordinary.
You want a good married life. But you never understand the topmost touch to make your relationship blossom with love.
I was in my usual walking session. I paused for a second before a big bungalow. It was dilapidated and had a forlorn look.
What has this bungalow have to do with nurturing relationships, you might wonder.
Please wait! I am coming to that.
An old couple lived there. They were interested in gardening. Their garden literally bloomed with colorful plants. They always had visitors. Their house was full of fun and excellent hospitality.
‘We are going to settle abroad. Our only daughter has called us to stay with her. If there is a good offer we are going to sell this house’ the couple told me when I was chitchatting with them.
Now the once lively house looked lonely and barren. The lawn had dried out, the plants had shriveled and the house itself had a deserted look.
How did this house take a changeover from vivacious laughter to ominous silence?
The bungalow had lost its life because it was left uncared and unattended.
I linked the decayed look of the deserted house to marriage relationship as well!
Unless you nurture your relationship your marriage will fall to pieces.
What does nurturing relationship actually mean?
Shall we look at an example!
You stay hale and healthy only when you take care of your body. So you eat nutritive food; do regular exercises to sustain your health. Suppose you do not care for your body! You lose your well-being and you are plagued by lots of health related problems. So you realize that you must maintain your body!
It needs tons of love, care, adjustment and tolerance to make it work.
Do you expect your marriage to work on its own?
Your relationship needs regular care. It needs your attention. It needs intense hard work from both to make your married life a success.
Top 5 easy tips to nurture the relationship with your spouse!
1. Never take your spouse for granted.
Do you take your spouse for granted?
Never ever do that.
You should understand that your spouse is an individual with his\her own wishes and inclinations.
Do you think that your husband must love you, care for you, protect you and buy you things?
‘It is his duty and he must make me feel his concern and love’, these are your wifely expectations.
‘She must take care of me and my home. She must respect me and give me pleasure as and when I like’ these are your male chauvinistic expectations.
Do you realize that your thoughts are too concentrated on your own viewpoint?
Do you know such thoughts wreck marriages?
You should look at everything from the angle of your spouse. This simple trick makes you understand the inner feelings of him\her. Your interaction with your spouse should instantly deliver the message that you care and support him\her.
When you do that your marriage blossoms into a beautiful relationship of excellent companionship and friendship.
2. Always small talk.
You find it very easy to interact with your friends, don’t you?
You seem to have lots to talk to them!
Why is it so?
It is because you do not talk about serious issues with them. You do not censor and talk! You are not frightened to argue with them! You talk about movies, sports, film stars, hobbies and fashions! This makes your conversation very exciting and interesting. You never feel bored talking with your friends.
But why is it you talk only about serious family issues with your spouse?
You censor and talk! You are frightened to talk about your viewpoint as you do not want to start an argument.
You miss lots of excitement when your conversation with your spouse is always about family issues and problems.
- Small talk about mild and light topics with your spouse.
- Talk about your mutual hobbies.
- Visit places of mutual interest.
- Argue about movies, film stars, sports and innocuous things.
Have lots of laughter, teasing and fun.
3. Do not fail to attract your spouse!
What does ‘failing to attract’ mean in marriage?
It means you lose interest in your spouse. He\she no longer excites you. Your conversation is boring and routine.
You no longer feel inclined to attract your spouse. Boredom and monotony sets into your relationship.
Why does this happen to your marriage?
The fault lies with both.
Do you know that appearance plays a great part in attracting your spouse?
You do not take care of your appearance after a few years of marriage. You look shabby and grimy when at home while your spouse recoils back in revulsion.
Why did you look your best during your dating days?
You wanted to attract your spouse. So you took pains to look handsome\beautiful. When your spouse become all yours you relax back in smugness. You let your appearance become faded and jaded.
Unless you attract your spouse, he\she loses his\her interest in you.
4. Demonstrate your love.
Do you demonstrate the love for your spouse absolutely and openly?
This is yet another important criterion for nurturing your relationship!
Demonstrate implicitly that your spouse means a lot to you.
- Appreciate him\her.
- Smile at each other often.
- Always have direct eye contact.
- Hugging your spouse with affection and love makes a world of positive differences in your relationship.
- Sit close to one another while watching TV. It instills a sense of emotional closeness in you.
- You can cook together
- Tease each other in fun.
- Go for long walks holding hands.
- Talk about everything under the sky.
5. Have healthy physical relationship.
Your sexual relationship binds your emotional relationship. In marriage one cannot do without the other. But with your hectic work schedule you lose interest in sex very soon.
This is bad omen for your relationship. Healthy sexual relationship makes your marriage strong and stable.
These tips are just top of the icing as far as nurturing relationship in marriage is concerned. There are tons of other ways to build a good married life.
Take care of your marriage as you would a baby!
You relationship is that tender and vulnerable!
When you ignore it, your marriage slips to failure. But when you nurture it your relationship goes from strength to strength. It blesses you with many years of loving married life.