But you are often a mediocre husband as you never make your wife feel loved.
- Your uncaring attitude towards her makes her feel uncared and unloved.
- You have the uncanny trick of keeping your love hidden from her.
In fact you make your wife play the love guessing game- ‘he love me’- he loves me not’.
Why are you averse of displaying your love for her?
You feel she should be mature enough to understand your love through your actions.
Far from it.
Your behavior towards her is very matter-of-fact and routine. This makes your poor wife often break her head whether you love her at all.
You make your marriage relationship boring and dull by being boring and dull.
You lose the excitement and thrill of your love days in the midst of never-ending family responsibilities and commitments. You live a mediocre life of going to work and returning home tired and famished. You spend listless hours before laptop\computer\TV.
This is not the way marriage works.
Be a better husband to make your wife feel truly loved by you. You owe it to her.
Be a better husband by understanding the needs of your wife
1. Appreciate her contribution for the family
You want appreciation from your wife, don’t you?
- You want her to appreciate your looks.
- You want her to appreciate your ability.
But you never appreciate your wife.
You eat the delicious dish prepared by her without uttering a word. You fail to notice the crumpled face of your wife.
All she wanted was a word of appreciation from you.
You make sneering comments about the appearance of your wife when she looks grubby and shabby at home.
But what do you do when she takes pain to look good before you?
You coolly overlook it.
Can you manage your family as good as your wife?
The simple trick to be a better husband is to appreciate your wife for being the pillar of your family.
2. Demonstrate your love.
Before marriage, you can be awarded a doctorate for your demonstrative love. You shower your wife with gifts. You demonstrate your love openly.
But after marriage your attitude towards your wife take an about turn. You fail abjectly in demonstrating your love.
Do you know small physical gestures makes your wife feel you are a better husband than what her friends\relatives have?
Hug her when she takes care of you.
Kiss her many times a day.
A pat in the cheeks make your wife feel incredibly happy.
Shower her with gifts.
She does not expect you to spend tons of money on gifts.
- A surprise outing to buy her favorite ice cream doesn’t cost you much. But it is sheer magic for her.
- An occasional candle light dinner makes her feel specially loved by you.
- Celebrating her birthday and wedding anniversary as a special day makes her feel she is very special to you.
Easy way to make your wife feel absolutely thrilled and excited.
Demonstrate love for your wife – openly and expressively.
3. Listen to her
Do you listen to what your wife has to say?
Family is her whole world. So there are times when she feels overwhelmed by family problems. She wants to share her worries with you. But sadly you do not have patience to listen to her as you feel she is making much ado about nothing.
Do you know how much you hurt her when you turn a deaf ear to her problems?
Your wife feels used and uncared.
Men do not usually listen to their wives as they do not want to be tangled in any family problems. Do not be one among them.
Your wife’s world is totally emotional. When you ignore her emotions she feels deeply hurt.
- Listen attentively when your wife wants to share her feelings with you.
- Turn your body towards her to convey the message that she has got your total attention. Show your care by uttering words of consolation.
- Look into her eyes to convey the message that you are always there for her – any time and for any problem – hallmark of a better husband.
If you listen halfheartedly, your wife will immediately sense it. She feels emotionally shattered that you do not care for her feelings.
4. Respect your wife and her family.
Your wife has her roots in her family. You cannot expect her to forget them and look upon your family as hers after marriage.
It makes her resentful and angry when you try to deviate her from her family.
Respect her parents and her family members.
When they come to visit you treat them as one of your own family members. It makes your wife glow with love.
Respect her for what she is.
Never give her up before your friends\family.
Be protective towards her.
No one should have the guts to criticize or make fun of her in your presence.
5. Discuss financial matters with your wife
Do you feel your wife is incapable of handling financial dealings of the family?
Do you completely ignore her while making financial investments?
You are very wrong.
Your wife can be your best financial adviser.
No one knows what is good for the family better than her. She can help you take right financial decisions.
So discuss your plans of financial investments with her.
If she gives you better option don’t feel egoistic in accepting it. Makes her feel proud that she has your confidence and trust.
Your wife is your better half. She is your pillar of strength. Treat her as such. Convey the message that she is the most important person in your life.
When you make your wife feel loved your marriage transforms from mundane to the extraordinary. You would love living it.