Do you want a happy married life?
Rather a silly question, isn’t it?
Who doesn’t want happiness in their marriage?
‘’To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness.”- Robert Brault
Marriage is an emotional bond which gives new meaning to your life.
If marriage was so meaningful, why do most marriages fail today?
The spurt of divorce among couples is rather alarming, isn’t it?
Why is it so?
It is because you lack the drive to make your marriage work. You plan your wedding day to perfection. It is really amazing how you concentrate on even the minute details to make your wedding look picture perfect.
But sadly you do not concentrate on how to lead your married life. You let it plunge into failure because you do not understand the delicate emotions it involves.
Do you know just a few simple tricks will pave way to a happy married life?
Top 5 secrets to a happy married life!
- Demonstrate your love implicitly
- Be accountable and responsible in family issues
- Be supportive and protective towards your spouse.
- Be humorous and fun loving
- Be empathetic to the feelings of your spouse.
These are very simple secrets, aren’t they?
These are the toughest part of your marriage.
1.Demonstrate your love
You love your spouse ardently. But you never display your love openly. Most of you want your spouse to understand your love without you demonstrating it.
Do you keep your spouse play the love guessing game- he\she loves me- he\she loves me not?
Your spouse craves for implicit display of love from you. Before marriage you displayed your love openly, but after marriage you hide it.
Why does your interaction with your spouse become uninteresting and gloomy after marriage?
It is because responsibilities and family commitments make you feel pressurized. You become more focused on making your family financially secure. You feel highly stressed and tensed by your work related pressure.
You forget to display your love. You take for granted that your spouse would understand your love.
Very wrong way to live a happy married life!
Unless you show open love your spouse will never feel it.
Is it hard work to show the love for your spouse?
Not at all!
Small physical gestures does the trick.
Arms around the shoulders, looking deep into the eyes of your spouse with care, pat in the cheeks are all magic wands which build your relationship in an incredible way.
Endearing words cements your relationship more than commanding words.
Command your spouse and he\she retaliates with vengeance and hatred.
Love talk with your spouse and he\she reacts with multiplied love and care.
2. Be accountable and responsible in family issues
Do you distance yourself from family problems?
This makes your spouse feel you are very uncaring and irresponsible. Family problems can never be one sided. It is always mutual.
You marry because of the emotional security it gives you. But you fail to see the duties and responsibilities that also come along with marriage. While your mind easily accepts the emotional security and happiness married life gives you, it shies away from the responsibilities your marriage thrusts on you.
There are times when you commit certain silly mistakes which brings great trouble into your relationship.
Financial miscalculations makes your interaction highly volatile. Blaming your spouse unnecessarily only aggravates your relationship problems. Never side track from accepting your faults. When you are apologetic your spouse is ready to forgive you.
Don’t be egoistic and adamant that you never did anything wrong. Being accountable is yet another secret towards a happy marriage.
3. Be supportive and protective towards your spouse
Does your spouse look downcast and dejected?
Do you ignore it as none of your business?
This makes your spouse resent your attitude. He\she mentally deviates from you when you are not caring and supporting.
Always support your spouse instantly and spontaneously.
Do you allow you family\friends\relatives demean your spouse?
Do not ever make this mistake. You should always feel protective towards your spouse. You should never let anyone degrade him\her.
An easy secret to a happy marriage!
4. Be humorous and fun loving
How will your interaction with your spouse be when he\she is always morose and sober? You feel bored to death.
How will you feel if your spouse is very humorous and fun loving?
You are very lucky indeed.
Married life is serious business. You have many commitments and responsibilities. You have to battle family problems day in and day out. There are times when you feel you need a break from the stifling family issues.
What gives you the much needed break?
It is the humor aspect of your marriage.
Laughter and sharing fun can magically take away the pressures you face in your relationship. Take your mind off your family problems. Not a single person in this world has been lucky enough to have a problem free married life. Every couple have their own problems.
If you lose your smile because of the family problems, you can never smile. Laughing time with your family is quality time. It brings you close to your spouse emotionally.
Laugh and be fun loving to live a happy married life!
5. Be empathetic to the feelings of your spouse
Have you ever looked at family problems from the view point of your spouse?
I am sure you will shake your head negatively.
In modern marriages arguments and intolerance has become the order of the day. You are always focused on your wishes and desires. You want your spouse to dance to your tune.
Can your marriage survive such a selfish attitude?
Too much of one sided demands and too much of one sided adjustments makes your marriage a terrible strain. Your relationship becomes like a rope pulled too tight. One day it is bound to snap.
Yes, when you do not understand your spouse from his\her angle your married life is tedious, boring and listless. You cannot retreat to your love days unless you make sustained efforts to renew your relationship.
There should be mutual understanding of each other’s feelings and emotions. When you are empathetic you get reciprocal love from your spouse.
A splendid way to a happy married life!
Marriage is a mosaic you build with your spouse. Millions of tiny moments that create your love story.” –Jennifer Smith
You should go towards your spouse and your spouse should come towards you in love. When you do not love and cherish your relationship, your married life becomes chaotic and confused. Lean on each other in love and enjoy a happy marriage.