Loneliness – dreadful, isn’t it?
You want sharing of your emotions more than anything else, don’t you?
Can you live in this world with no one to love and no one to love you?
The impact of loneliness can be devastating when you do not have the will power to withstand it.
What is loneliness exactly?
- It is a depressive feeling when you feel all alone and secluded from your family\friends\relatives.
- You feel miserable that no one cares for you.
What are your feelings when you are lonely?
- You feel emotionally shattered.
- You are demoralized that you cannot share your inner feelings with anyone.
- Your heart aches for someone to listen to your woes.
- You feel suicidal.
Of course you can.
Why do you feel lonely even when you have your spouse and children with you?
Physical presence of your family will not take away your loneliness if you do not have emotional support from them.
Why is it so?
Like happiness loneliness is also a mindset.
Human mind is very complex and emotional. It demands attention all the time. When you feel that there is no one to support and care for you, you feel unwanted and unloved.
Failures and defeats makes you feel completely washed out.
You can feel lonely in your work place\with family\with friends. Anywhere.
‘Loneliness is never more cruel than when it is felt in close propinquity with someone who has ceased to communicate’ – Germaine Greer
Top 5 ways to overcome loneliness – Simple and practical tips
1. DON’T DEPEND ON OTHERS FOR YOUR HAPPINESS
When you depend on others for your happiness you are invariably disappointed. Your happiness should generate from you.
No one can make you happy except yourself.
Do you depend on your children for emotional support?
You will feel lonely when they leave you to lead their own life.
Do you feel your spouse does not truly love?
Demanding love is depressive and gloomy when it is not forthcoming from your spouse.
Don’t do it.
You are inviting loneliness.
Seeking happiness from others is a big no.
If you keep on depending on others to make you happy your life is full of crashed and thrashed expectations. You crumble inside in abject loneliness.
2. BE MENTALLY STRONG
Loneliness thrives in an unstable mind. When you are mentally strong you are not dependent on others. You are mentally strong enough to handle your problems yourself.
You know how to control your emotions. Your mental strength keeps your mind occupied.
Mental strength is the number one key to do away with your loneliness.
3. TALK TO YOURSELF
What is talking to yourself?
You should talk to your mind.
Do you know your mind can be your best friend?
And it can be your worst enemy. When you feed negative thoughts into your mind you feel lonely and left out. Never ever do that. Give yourself a pep talk when you feel dejected and depressed.
When you talk to yourself you understand life in its proper perspective. You know whether you are really justified in your loneliness or it is just a fabrication of your mind.
4. LIKE YOURSELF
When you like yourself a new world opens up to you. You can be your best friend. When you have a true friend in you, you cannot feel lonely.
Let anyone desert you. Never ever desert yourself. Take a great liking towards you. When you like yourself you never feel out of contact with the world. Your pride makes you feel happy and content.
5. MINGLE WITH PEOPLE
Do not isolate yourself from people as you feel completely left out. Do not be overawed by the success of others and shrink yourself in a lonely world of low self-esteem.
There are no super beings around that you should hesitate to mingle with people. Everyone is ordinary people like you and me. Go forward to meet them. You will be amazed how it drives your loneliness away.
Do not see the world from your viewpoint. Take an aerial view of your life.
Your life is not that bad, isn’t it?
Take life as it comes. Practice mental detachment. Love people. Drive your loneliness away.