Do you know there are easy ways to make your husband mature and responsible?
Why are men basically immature and irresponsible?
It is because man lives for the day and never looks beyond that.
But you look far ahead into the future of your family – more like an astrologer.
You crave for a mature and responsible husband. You want him to shoulder the family burden with you. But it never seems to happen.
Do you argue with him because of his irresponsible behavior?
Do you degrade him that he is not a worthy husband?
A grave mistake!
He cannot evolve into a mature and responsible husband if you make him feel small and unworthy. When his ego is crushed by you, he makes your life even more tensed by withdrawing from family life totally.
What is the right way to make your husband mature and responsible?
Give him responsibilities.
‘How can I trust him in family issues when he does not have dedication?’ you are convinced that your husband will always be irresponsible in family problems.
The more you trust him, the more responsible and mature he becomes.
Make your husband mature and responsible – Top easy 5 ways to achieve it!
1. Interact with friendliness
How do you interact with your immature husband?
I am sure you spend most of the time preaching him that he is not a worthy family man. You nag him that he is irresponsible and foolish. This makes your husband crumble inside in shame as his ego is completely shattered.
Do you know nagging can make your husband develop inferiority complex?
Do you keep pinpointing his drawbacks?
Your husband feels even lesser.
You should have immense patience to make him responsible.
You should trust him with certain family duties. This makes him feel involved in family commitments. Make him feel worthy by appreciating his contribution – however small it might be. You should talk pleasantly so that he feels good to interact with you.
2. Do not demean your husband before your children
Do you tell your children that their father is a worthless man?
Do you know how much you hurt him when his children look degradingly at him?
When you poison the mind of your children against him your family life plunges into a quarrelsome co-existence with your husband. He feels like an island at his own home.
You should discuss him about your children’s education and their future. This makes him feel proud that you value him as a responsible father. You should ask your children to show affection and respect to him. His crushed ego is revived. He gradually understands his duties towards his family.
3. Do not make him a pauper by draining him of all his money
Does your husband spend too much?
Does he misuse his money?
Does he not contribute to the family financial commitments?
What do you do now?
You never trust him with money. You do not discuss about family financial commitments with him. You grab his money as soon as he receives his salary. You feel that he does not have the capacity to handle money on his own.
Don’t do it.
You should make him realize his financial commitments towards the family.
You should discuss family financial problems with him. Make him understand that the family cannot be maintained by your income alone. Allocate the financial commitments which should be his sole responsibility. Be firm that he should meet it out.
Do not deplete him of money completely as it makes him feel like a pauper. This makes him feel enraged and angry. The poor man too is entitled to his own personal money.
4. Talk highly about him
Your husband adores you when you appreciate him.
Is there any person in this world who does not crave for appreciation?
Your husband also loves to hear you complimenting him before others. Do not degrade your husband before your friends\relatives\colleagues. You should boost up his ego by talking good things about him. Your appreciation makes him want to prove himself as worthy of your appreciative words. You can be sure that he will slowly become responsible and mature.
5. Respect your husband
Your husband craves for your respect. He feels let down when you do not listen to his suggestions. He feels an outsider when you take arbitrary decisions without consulting your husband.
It is sad that you often ignore and neglect your husband as you feel he is insignificant and hopeless. You make fun of him. You make demeaning comments about him. You become the boss of the family. You nag him threadbare about his irresponsibility.
When your children see your disrespect, they too follow your cue.
He feels a non-entity in his own family. You make him feel ashamed of himself. You make him feel small.
Do you feel it is impossible to make your husband mature and responsible?
You need immense patience and understanding to make your husband overcome his inferiority complex. Yes! It is his inferiority complex which makes him immature and irresponsible. If you keep pricking his ego he will never become mature.
Boost his ego. Be patient. Understand that he is struggling with his failures and defeats. Be his ardent supporter. Make him involved in family matters. Mature and responsible husband was your long time dream, wasn’t it? When you achieve it the happiness you feel will be worth the wait!