Pessimism is a villain to your happiness.
It wrecks your mental peace as nothing else can do.
We all feel pessimistic in some stage of our lives. It is quite normal if it is a fleeting emotion. It comes and goes away without affecting you emotionally and psychologically. But when pessimism digs deep into your mind you become negative and hopeless.
What is the nature of pessimism?
- You do not see the positive side in anything as you are totally focused on the negative aspect.
- You have zero level tolerance.
- You are cynical and skeptical.
- You look glum and gloomy.
- You never interact with people
- You lead the life of a recluse.
Phew. Your life is rather bad, isn’t it?
‘A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; the optimist sees opportunity in every difficulty’- Winston Churchill.
What makes you pessimistic?
- You feel problems in your life is a never-ending ordeal.
- Your failures make you depressed and tensed.
- Work related tension and relationship issues makes you a nervous wreck.
Is your mind always seething with unsure feelings?
Are you having negative outlook towards your life?
Typical characteristics of a pessimistic person.
When you are pessimistic your mind is never energetic and active. It finds easy excuses for your non-performance.
You have self-inflicted feeling of failure. And sure enough you are a persistent failure.
- When you are pessimistic you do not fight against your odds. Rather you meekly bow your knees to it.
- You have millions of defenses for procrastination.
- You forget to smile. Your unsmiling face makes people deviate from you.
‘I don’t think how I am going to manage this bad phase of my married life’ my servant maid looked dejected.
‘What happened’ I asked her worryingly.
‘My husband has lost his job. He is driving me mad by his pessimism. We fight daily’ she lamented.
Her husband, an excellent cook worked in a small hotel. Losing his job made him upset and disappointed.
‘He can always look for another job’ I consoled her.
‘He says he wouldn’t look for another job as he might lose that as well’ she told me tearfully.
I called her husband home. He was depressed and gloomy.
‘You are an excellent cook. You have the ability to earn more than what you made in your previous job. Start a mobile catering service. Banks now give loan for small business. You can win’ I could see he saw my point.
To make a long story short, he is now earning very well. My servant maid is a happy woman. If her husband had not overcome his pessimism he would not have geared up to start a business of his own.
You are what your mind tells you. When you feed negative thoughts into your mind it makes you an abject failure.
Feed positive thoughts into your mind. You immediately spring forth to act positively.
Do not be overwhelmed by your problems. You will drown. Fight back. Use the paddle of courage to tide over your sea of distress.
Positive actions always lead to positive results.
‘You will never find a rainbow if you are looking down’- Charles Chaplin
Top 6 ways to overcome pessimism – Villain to happiness
1. This too shall pass
Problems are not there to stay with you forever. One day your problem disappears. But days lost in despair is lost forever.
Be a fighter, not a back tracker. If you run away from your problems it is not going to disappear. Turn back and attack it. You are destined to win.
Take a realistic view that your problems will pass away one day. This feeling gives you incredible strength to fight against it.
2. When the going gets tough the tough gets going
Does pessimism make you buckle under your problems?
It signals you are a meek person.
You should go towards your problems and not away from it. When your situation turns tough and rough, you too should become tough.
It is the only way you can survive. A tough person is always a winner.
3. The hour before dawn is the darkest
Are you overwhelmed that your life is not worthy?
Are you facing persistent failures and rebuffs?
Do you feel you will suffocate under the sea of problems in your life?
Your turmoil is going to end.
Waves and waves of problems means it is pushing you towards a solution.
Does this mean you should stop trying?
Not at all.
The more you try the more closer you get to safety.
4. Interact with people
Do not shut yourself away from people in your pessimistic attitude towards life. If you do so you never know the world. You think you are the only one suffering.
But when you mingle with people you know everyone has some sort of problems. Sometimes the problem of others are so immense that you feel yours is nothing.
You now know that problems and failures are part and parcel of life.
5. Do not compare
Comparing your life with others is disastrous. You always think others are better off than you. This feeling makes you lose insight into the good things you have.
You plunge yourself into pessimism as the most unlucky person in the world.
Never do that. Other people’s life in not your business. Be concentrate on your life to make it better.
6. Practice cheerfulness
Be cheerful against odds. Your cheerfulness will act as a barrier against pessimistic feeling. When you smile you feel good.
Be well-groomed even when you are undergoing great hardships in life. Never let others see your sufferings.
Your problems are actually like sculptors, shaping your personality so that you emerge a better person.
- Be wary of the person who pulls your spirit down.
- Find a true friend who will give you positive advice.
- Regular meditation and yoga can calm your mind.
- Listen to good music. Music acts as a booster to your sagging morale.
- Give yourself a pep talk. Tell yourself that you are a worthy person.
- Congratulate your small victories as it motivates you to even greater heights.
Your mind is like a factory churning out thoughts after thoughts. If your thoughts are pessimistic and gloomy, your actions are depressing and negative. But when your thoughts are positive and bright, your actions are authentic and authoritative.