Forgive yourself – you owe it to you.
Do you find it impossible to forgive yourself for having done something you are ashamed of?
You find it very difficult to live with your conscience, don’t you?
“When you initially forgive, it is like letting go of a hot iron. There is initial pain and the scars will show, but you can start living again.” –Stephen Richards.
What mistakes makes you unable to forgive yourself?
- Harsh and bitter words you uttered to hurt others.
- Inability to keep up your promise.
- Betrayal of trust to your loved ones.
- Your ignored duties towards your family.
- Callous treatment you meted out to your spouse.
- Missed golden opportunities which could have made you successful.
As a normal human being you are very prone to faults and mistakes. You commit mistakes knowingly and unknowingly. Whatever might be the reason for your faults you feel bad about yourself. The early smug satisfaction you felt soon wears off. In its place you feel you have been callous and unthinking in your attitude.
Do you have to forgive yourself?
- Absolutely! Unless you forgive yourself, you will not have a moment of peace.
Is it difficult to forgive yourself?
It is. Forgiving you is not an easy joke. You know who you truly are. You know what you are capable of. You know yourself more than anybody else.
You cannot lie to yourself, can you?
You have to live with your conscience 24\7. Though you try hard to forget what you did, you find it impossible to forgive yourself.
What happens when you are unable to forgive yourself?
- You feel guilt ridden.
- You do not have a moment of peace
- You feel ashamed that you have stooped so low.
But hurting and demeaning yourself will never help you. If you keep brooding about the mistakes you committed you fail to notice the good things about you. Life is too short to be wasted on being angry with you.
Can you point out one single perfect person in this world?
There is none. Everyone has his faults and drawbacks. How well a person deals with his minus and makes his life a plus decides the happiness quotient in his life.
Top 7 ways to forgive yourself – Makes your life peaceful
1. Accept you as you are
You should accept yourself with all your faults. But try to rectify your faulty characteristics.
Do you know you learn a lot from your mistakes?
It helps you evolve into a better person. You understand the world and the people better. You know you too have worthy characteristics in you. Acceptance is a great way to forgive yourself.
2. Change your behavior
Analyze your mistakes. Self-analysis is very important to know yourself better. Be ruthless to throw away your negative characteristics.
Change your behavior so that you never ever commit such blunders in your life.
3. Feel you are a good person.
Do you think that you are not a worthy person?
You lose your peace of mind if you do so. You too have lots of good characteristics. Think that you are a very good person.
‘I am a bad person’. ‘No one likes me’ – Shove away such negative thoughts about you.
‘I have done something out of my character. I will never commit such mistakes again’ – this is the right attitude you must cultivate.
4. Comfort your seething conscience.
No one can comfort your mind as good as you. You must be peaceful with your inner mind to have peace with the outer world.
Are you such a bad person that you degrade yourself so much?
Making mistakes is just a fraction of your character. Do not feel that you are some sort of criminal from head to foot. Comfort your seething conscience. Think that you are a far better person than what your guilty conscience made you think of.
5. Prayers help you a lot.
No one can give you better solace than God.
He forgives you when you are truly apologetic about your faults.
Confess your mistakes to Him frankly. Ask His forgiveness. Now you feel easy to forgive yourself.
6. Vow never to commit the mistakes ever again.
Do not make it a habit of making mistakes and then forgiving yourself. When you commit faults continuously it becomes a habit with you.
You slowly get used to it. When you want to forgive yourself, it is imperative that you do not repeat the same mistakes again and again.
3. Talk to your friends or parents.
If you keep your emotions locked inside you, your mind becomes a brooding place of negative thoughts about yourself. When you talk it out with people who truly love and care for you, you feel lightened. Their words of comfort makes you forgive yourself.
Your inner mind is your shadow. It follows you 24\7. If you want to have peace you should forgive yourself.
You are not a criminal, are you?
You are very human. You are a very normal person. You made mistakes and you vowed never to commit it ever again. There ends your problem. Do not make it big by demeaning yourself.
Ask forgiveness from the person who means the most to you.
Are you wondering who the person is?
It is YOU!