You never really understand why you should pamper your spouse , do you?
‘Is my spouse a child that I should pamper him\her?’
‘My spouse is an adult and should realize my love without me pampering him\her’.
Do you feel this way about pampering your spouse?
You are wrong.
You cannot enjoy your relationship if you do not pamper your spouse. Pampering is the easiest way to incredible happiness in your married life.
Do you know that when you pamper your spouse both become more intimate and emotionally closer to each other?
Do you think pampering your spouse means giving in to all his\her whims and wishes?
‘It would be a strain to me if I have to cater to all his\her wishes. How can I be indulgent to the childishness of my spouse with so much responsibilities on my shoulders’?
Again you are wrong.
You need not exert yourself to pamper your spouse.
Top reasons why you should pamper your spouse – It shows extra love
Do you know there lurks a child in everyone?
You too have your own childish traits. But you lose your childishness as you grow up.
As you grow you relinquish many of your childlike behavior and evolve into a mature person. Life teaches you many harsh lessons and buries your childishness under the piles of responsibilities you have to fulfill after marriage.
Though you cannot always remain a child, your childishness never dies. It is within you – lost and uncared. It is this emotionally close characteristic of yours that needs pampering.
Your parents pampered your childishness. This is why you feel emotionally inclined towards them.
But after marriage your childishness is frowned by your spouse.
- He\she feels you are foolish.
- He\she feels you are not mature and responsible enough.
Though you are married to a person you dearly love, he\she is a very different individual with a very different upbringing. Different way of upbringing means different ways of looking at relationship.
Your spouse never really pamper your childishness, does he\she?
This makes you feel terribly lost and unloved.
It happens in almost all marriages. You feel drained and sapped in fulfilling your duties as a responsible and dutiful spouse.
Though you are more than ready to play your part with dedication and sincerity you want an extra show of love from your spouse, don’t you?
You crave for pampering from your spouse.
Does this mean you want him\her to buy you lavish things?
This is not pampering in the true sense of the word.
- You want to spend some time reading a book with no interference – but your spouse never allows you.
- You want to cuddle up to him\her – he\she shoves you aside. Your mind crumbles in agony.
- You like buying your favorite things – ‘Don’t be irresponsible. There are lots of important financial commitments’. The words of your spouse crushes your childishness.
The list is endless.
Marriage relationship is very enjoyable only when you cater to the inner needs of your spouse.
Are you wondering how to pamper your spouse?
- Be indulgent.
- Be lenient.
- Be understanding.
- Be empathetic.
- Be tolerant.
Family responsibilities will always be there. Never let it bring in stress into your relationship. Pamper your spouse to show the extra love he\she needs.