Transparency in marriage is very essential to make your relationship tension free and comfortable.
How do you feel about your relationship with your spouse?
- Is it very open and transparent?
- Or is it very secretive and guarded?
Are you wondering what these qualities have got to do with the goodness of your relationship?
The satisfaction you enjoy in your married life depends on the level of transparency you have with your spouse.
Is transparency in marriage that important?
Yes! It is!
Let us suppose you are driving a car!
You like driving when you see the road in front of you clearly.
But suppose it is misty and foggy around you?
Do you enjoy driving now?
You hate driving is such a smoggy weather as you are not sure what is in the road. Nothing is clear! Everything is murky and shadowy.
It makes your marriage journey enjoyable!
Being secretive and mysterious is like driving in a misty and foggy weather.
Your relationship becomes all confusing and all bewildering!
Transparency in marriage! Is it really needed?
Transparency in marriage signifies your frankness, honesty and loyalty in your interaction with your spouse. It makes your married life lot easier to live. There is lot less tension and frustration between you as both are sure about the activities and whereabouts of the other.
Believe me! It helps you have immense peace at home.
Signs of your lack of transparency in marriage.
- You have an air of secrecy in your behavior towards your spouse.
- You talk in a hushed tone whenever you speak in the mobile.
- You are persistently late from work without giving any valid reasons.
- Your spouse is in the dark about your financial dealings.
- He\she does not know about your whereabouts.
What happens now?
Your relationship suffers! Your spouse has all sorts of doubts about you as you do everything behind his\her back.
Transparency in your marriage should as clear and reflective as a mirror!
Transparency in your marriage does away with unnecessary doubts and suspicion in your relationship.
How to be transparent in your marriage
Explanation is a fantastic way to be transparent in your married life. If you explain to your spouse any misgivings he\she might have about your activities it makes your interaction comfortable and relaxed.
Are you late from work?
You must have some valid reasons for it. Do not keep it within yourself and leave your spouse furious and worrying about the reason behind your late coming. When you give your spouse prior information that you will be late he\she feels relieved. Explaining to your spouse inculcates pronounced trust and faith in your relationship.
Informing your spouse is an easy thing which delivers great results in your marriage!
Why don’t you do it?
Let us suppose your mobile rings when you are with your spouse!
Do you talk in a normal tone?
This is transparency with your spouse.
Do you explain to your spouse whom you were speaking to?
Yet another healthy sign of transparency in your marriage.
Or do you move away from him\her and talk in a hush-hush voice for a very long time.
This is lack of transparency. Makes your married life very tense and suspicious. When you do not explain whom you were talking to it makes your spouse doubtful and wary.
Lack of transparency in your money dealings might lead your marriage towards failure. When you do not explain to your spouse about your loans, commitments and repayments it causes tremendous bitterness and resentment in your relationship.
Do you have the duty of looking after your parents?
Inform your spouse. It is your hard earned money and you have every right to help your parents. But do not hide it from your spouse. Do it openly and tell him\her about your financial duty towards your parents. He\she will feel never refuse when you do it openly.
Do not have stealthy friendship with your friends\colleagues without your spouse knowing it. You should always maintain a dignified distance from the opposite sex.
Spending out- of- work- time with your colleagues\friends without the knowledge of your spouse is a big no. Such secretive relationships do irrevocable damage to your marriage.
Does this mean you or your spouse can have no privacy or freedom to do your own personal things?
Of course you should have privacy!
But privacy is entirely different from secrecy!
Secrecy is lack of transparency.
- Your spouse is all in the dark about you.
- You are mysterious.
- Your activities are full of suspense and intrigue.
Mystery might be good for movies. Not for married life.
Privacy is space for yourself and your spouse.
Both are two different persons with diverse wishes and desires. The need to fulfill your own personal wishes should be respected by your spouse. You should respect the same of him\her.
It is always better to have frank discussion with your spouse than make your own decision without informing him\her. When you are secretive, your spouse too hides everything about him\her from you.
Such married life is very boring and very tedious.
When there is transparency in your marriage there is absolute frankness and honesty in your interaction. This avoids many problems that arise when you are sneaky and sly with your spouse.
A lack of transparency results in distrust and a deep sense of insecurity.’ –Dalai Lama
Give enough freedom to your spouse! He\she gives the same to you. Explain, discuss and inform your spouse about yourself. Your married life should have the transparency of clear water. Makes your marriage very refreshing and very energizing!