Your cheating husband makes you miss your heartbeat many a time by his disloyalty, doesn’t he?
Disloyalty in married life has a devastating impact on your relationship. You are depressed when your husband cheats you, ignoring your intense love for him.
You want nothing else from your husband than the emotional security that you are the only woman in his life.
A very natural feeling as a wife, isn’t it?
“I am living with my husband for the sake of my children. He has time and again cheated me. Whenever I confront my husband about his cheating, he asks me to forgive him. But after a few days he again belies my trust by having yet another affair with another woman” Neetu, my friend looked tearful.
“Will my husband tolerate it if I cheated on him? I do not know how he forgets that I too will find it impossible to forgive him. Nowadays I never talk with my husband. And I am not bothered about his feelings. I am staying with him because I do not want my children to grow up without a father” Neetu’s anger was justified I thought.
The damage your cheating husband does to your relationship is devastating and destructive. He says he loves you. But he consistently cheats you without showing any regret.
How can your husband be so uncaring towards your feelings by having an affair behind your back?
This is how your cheating husband justifies himself.
- It’s just a physical thing.
- It’s nothing to do with love. It is my wife I love and care for.
- My wife does not satisfy me sexually and so I satisfied my physical hunger elsewhere.
- It is just a casual fling and it is nothing serious.
- I just wanted to have some variety.
Can you see how your cheating husband defends his disloyalty?
To you, loyalty means being faithful to your husband, physically as well as emotionally.
But the mentality of your cheating husband is entirely different. As a man he has roving eyes and lustful mind. And the sad thing is that your husband feels there is nothing wrong in having a casual fling.
Even though your husband loves you, he can be disloyal to you also. He feels that his love for you is not destroyed if he is physically intimate with another woman.
So, when he is not physically satisfied by you, your cheating husband crosses his limits to have a casual affair with another woman. It could be his friend\colleague\relative.
There are times when his incompatible relationship with you could drive him into another woman’s arms.
How can your husband be so casual about his cheating?
As a woman, your family is your entire world.
But your husband has a different mentality. As a man, your husband does not focus his entire life around his family as you do.
You and your children are only part of his life and not the entirety of his world.
Often you will find your husband only physically present at home but mentally his mind would be elsewhere.
Your husband does not mix his profession with his family.
Your husband does not mix his friendship with his family life.
He does not mix his fun time with his family time.
Your husband does not mix his love for you with the physical attraction he has for another woman.
When your husband is physically unsatisfied with you, he never thinks twice before sexually satisfying himself elsewhere.
When your husband wants variety, he crosses his border.
When the other woman reciprocates willingly to the overtures of your husband, he is more than ready to accept it.
When your husband cannot share his emotions with you, he immediately strikes an emotional chord with a woman who shares his feelings.
Incompatibility, nagging, domination and deprived sex can make your husband gloomy, frustrated and miserable in his family life.
So, he seeks an outlet for his suppressed emotions and deprived sexual needs without a second thought.
Your cheating husband feels sex and love are two different things.
You are emotionally shattered when you know about the disloyalty of your husband, aren’t you?
What does your husband do when you confront him about his cheating?
Your cheating husband dares to defend himself.
- He says you are uncaring and unloving whereas the other woman was very caring and loving.
- He elaborates that you do not satisfy his sexual needs whereas the other woman eagerly matched his sexual fervor.
- He says the other woman listens to him whereas you don’t.
When he is sexually dissatisfied at home, he satisfies his lust elsewhere without any reservations or guilt. When you are not presentable before him, he looks slyly at his female friends\colleagues.
Conclusion
‘Cheating on anyone is deeper than people realize, it destroys their outlook on love, their future relationships and peace within themselves’-Unknown quotes
When your husband does not get emotional back up from you, he is easily drawn towards an emotionally supportive woman.
When you do not satisfy his lust, he seeks it somewhere else.
But the complaints of your husband cannot justify his cheating.
His complaints about you are easily solvable relationship problems. It does not give him the right to stray and cross his limits as and when he likes.
The relationship issues he has about you does not give him any ground to be unfaithful to you.
Should you overlook cheating of your husband as part of a male character?
You should never accept the infidelity of your cheating husband. You are not his stop-gap bond to him. He is duty bound to his family just as you are. He is accountable to you and your family.
Your husband owes his loyalty to you. He cannot stray around and return to the family fold as and when he likes.
Loyalty is mutual to both. When your husband demands you to be faithful to him, you too have all the rights to expect the same from him.
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