Your all controlling wife literally rules over your life like a dictator, doesn’t she?
You are so terrified of your wife that you dare not open your mouth when she is around.
- “Where have you been?”
- “Why are you late from work?”
- “Why was your mobile always busy today?”
- “Whom were you talking to?”
- “Are you helping your parents without telling me?”
Well, these are the many doubting questions your controlling wife has for you. You feel like a school boy when she bombards with her never-ending questions.
When your wife takes total control of your life. you feel slavish in your relationship.
Your wife makes you cringe in aversion by her bossy nature, doesn’t she?
How do you feel when your wife dominates you?
- You dislike the lashing tongue of your wife.
- You hate her dominance.
- You abhor the nagging of your wife.
- You detest her spying.
The controlling nature of your wife suffocates you. You are browbeaten time and again by your wife. You do not enjoy your married life as you do have even a small basic freedom.
When your wife literally takes over your life, slowly but surely your love for her dies. All you feel is resentment and bitterness against your dictator wife.
There are times you want to yell at your controlling wife to stop her domination. But you dare not do it, as you know she will blast you with venomous words about your irresponsibility and ineptness.
You are angry that your wife treats like a nitwit. You are resentful that your wife never listens to you. You become bitter against your wife when she leeches you off your freedom and personal space.
How does your controlling wife destroy your happiness?
- She bulldozes you like a tornado and literally takes over your life.
- You cannot do anything without the consent of your wife.
- She makes derisive comments about whatever you do.
- You become voiceless when at home.
Here are the 5 terror signs that you are married to an all controlling wife.
1. She controls interaction with your parents
Your wife does not like you to spend time with your parents.
She thrashes you with hating words when you help them.
She keeps a watchful eye on you when you interact with your parents.
Your wife makes unwarranted and degrading comments about them.
They are your parents and you are duty bound to help them. But your all controlling wife feels they are thieves out to fleece you.
The unreasonable intrusion of your wife into your relationship with your parents makes you wild with helpless anger.
2. She controls your free time
You might be dead tired from your work. Your bones might ache in fatigue. You might want to take rest.
But your all controlling wife has different ideas.
“Let us go out” she booms loudly.
You have no other go than to meekly follow her command.
Of course, inwardly you curse your wife.
You have to take her out whenever she demands it. She only thinks of her wishes and desires.
Your wife lives your life that you feel you are no longer yourself.
3. She controls your friendship
You cannot spend fun time with your friends. Your controlling wife comes in between your friendship with them.
She eavesdrops into the conversation you have with your friends.
She asks you suspicious questions about them.
Your friends are not welcomed by your wife. In fact, she makes you to sever your friendship with them.
“They are no good” she insists.
Your wife makes your friends feel ill at ease by her unwelcome behavior.
You feel completely lost. But you dare not open your mouth as you know she will turn her ferocious anger on you.
4. She controls your shopping
Your all controlling wife literally takes over your shopping also.
She becomes your fashion designer and selects dresses which you inwardly hate.
The brand of your mobile phone, car and the dress you wear has the all controlling stamp on your wife in it.
You cringe in shame when your wife bosses you around before the sales person.
You cannot update your gadgets without the permission of your wife.
Your dominating wife cites many other financial commitments and coolly says no to your wishes. Your money is that much in her command.
You literally have to coax your wife to part with your hard-earned money for your personal wishes.
5. She controls your entertainment.
Your wife decides about the movie you must watch.
The TV remote is invariably in the hands of your wife. She watches her favorite soaps while you fume within yourself at her selfishness.
Even when your wife gives you the remote, you are unable to enjoy any programme because of her dominating presence.
You literally want to flee away from the place.
“Can’t you lower the volume” she screeches. You hurriedly lower the volume as you know if you do not do it she will lash out at you with venomous anger.
You hate interacting with your wife, as she does all the talking. All you have to do is to keep listening and nodding your head in agreement.
Conclusion
‘A man’s best fortune, or his worst, is his wife’ –Thomas Fuller
When you are dominated unreasonably by your wife your married life is boring and tedious. Your denied rights and the never ending domination of your wife makes you feel like an outsider in your own house.
The critical eyes of your wife, makes you feel as though you are forever living under a scanner.
The lashing tongue of your wife makes your ears jar with irritation. And her unwanted trespassing into your personal space makes you want to get out of your relationship.
Can you see how unlucky you are if you are married to an all controlling wife?
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Brian says
Reading this I realise how controlling my wife is. Im not allowed to talk to friends I’ve had for over 20yrs. She has nothing to do with any of her children, all adults now. I work 50hrs a week and she has all the money, I’m given an allowance to spend as I want. I earn over £400, I get £30-40, if I’m lucky. Its getting to the point life’s not worth living anymore.
Mathi says
Brian,
Just like an all controlling husband, an all controlling wife is terrible to live with.
I don’t understand why you are giving all your earnings to your wife. It is mistake number one. You should never allow your wife to dictate terms and conditions to you. This is mistake number two.
Understand one simple trick. Your wife will dominate and control you only if you allow her to do. You should take the intiative. I am not telling you to pick fights with her. But show her that you are not a person to be played around with.
Tell her in no uncertain terms that you will never tolerate her meddling with your emotions. When your anger is dignified your wife will definetly change a wee bit. When you become indifferent towards her temper, she will lose her steam. Everything has to with your attitude. Act firmly. Otherwise you might become a nervous wreck.