Your disinterested husband makes you feel alarmed that he has lost all his love for you, doesn’t he?
You always want to be a very special person in the life of your husband. You literally yearn for your husband to show interest in you. You want your husband to share his inner most feelings with you.
You want your husband to spend most of his free time with you. You want your husband to interact with you constantly and always.
But none of your womanly wishes come true.
On the contrary, your husband scarcely notices you, leave alone share his feelings with you. You naturally feel dejected and miserable about your married life.
A disinterested husband is the worst possible punishment for a wife, isn’t it?
How does your disinterested husband behave when he is at home?
- Your husband talks with you only when it is necessary.
- He often spends his time alone with his laptop\mobile phone.
- Your husband rarely smiles at you.
- He is often morose and glum when he is with you.
- Your husband is not humorous.
- Sex is just a physical ritual to your husband.
- He never makes you feel attractive.
Your married life is indeed very tedious when your disinterested husband makes it even more boring by behaving distantly with you.
You feel frustrated and angry by the aloof behavior of your husband, don’t you?
“Why is my husband not interested in me?” You often break your head about the behavior of your husband as you are clueless about his indifference.
But wait.
Could you be the reason behind your disinterested husband?
I can see you visibly rearing your head in anger at this accusation.
Yes.
You might be a reason why your husband is dull and boring when at home.
Checklist of reasons behind the behavior of your disinterested husband
1. You are very nagging
When you consistently nag your husband, he does not like to interact with you. If there is something your husband hates in you, it is your nagging.
You nag your husband for almost everything.
- You nag him to be responsible towards the family.
- You keep ranting about his shabbiness.
- You crib about his carelessness.
- You nag your husband about your laziness.
- You start your nagging as soon as you get up and do not end your nagging until you go to bed.
Your husband literally hates your nagging. Though your husband might be in the wrong, he feels insulted when you nag him threadbare about it.
When you are nagging, your husband literally shuts you out of his mind as he is unable to bear you harassing him with your never-ending accusations.
Nagging is the no one reason behind your disinterested husband.
You are wrong in being nagging.
You can easily make your husband feel interested in you when you are friendly and reasonable with him.
Your husband adores you when you are friendly, reasonable and rational.
2. You are very pushy
When you literally take over the life of your husband by your aggressiveness, he does not know what to do.
He hates your overbearing nature. But he does not have the courage to point it out to you.
How do you act bossy with your husband?
- You act as though you know everything and your husband knows nothing.
- You do not care to listen to the viewpoint of your husband.
- You compare your husband with your more successful colleagues\friends.
- You want your husband to earn as good as them. Your pushy attitude makes him think that you are very greedy.
- You keep on advising your husband as if he was a nitwit.
- There are times you compel your husband to change his job as you feel the salary he is earning is peanuts.
Your husband is frustrated at your blatant interference into his personal territory.
Being bossy is one of the topmost reason behind a disinterested husband.
3. You are too beauty conscious
You feel you are very beautiful and want to show it off. You preen before the mirror admiring your beauty.
You are very fashion conscious and would not wear dresses which are out of fashion. You spend tons of money on beauty that it sickens your husband.
- Your husband hates the over-made-up look you always sport.
- He dislikes it when you are very concentrated on your beauty than on him.
- Your husband is alarmed when you spend recklessly on dresses, make-up products and beauty parlor as though these were the top priority of your family.
- You are confident that your beauty will attract your husband like a magnet.
- But you are surprised when your husband scarcely look at your beauty.
Yes.
Your husband is not attracted to you when you feel your beauty is the only way to pull him towards you. Your husband does not care for your beauty when you are not loving.
4. You are very comparing
You compare your husband with your more successful colleagues and friends.
Your intention might be to motivate your husband to do better in his life. But in reality, your husband hates it.
You often crib about the lifestyle of your friends and complain that your husband does not have the capacity to give you the lifestyle you yearn for.
Your comparing attitude makes your husband feel you are not satisfied with him. As a man, your husband wants you to value him for what he is.
5. You are very shabby
Your husband hates it when you look grimy and sweaty when at home. He wants you to be presentable.
When you wear ill-fitting clothes and look disheveled at home, his mind instantly compares you with his more well-groomed female colleagues.
He wants you to take care of yourself and look good.
Your husband likes you when you look fresh and smell good.
He likes you when your hair is shiny and glossy.
Conclusion about disinterested husband
Like you your husband also has many expectations about you. When his male expectations are denied by you he is totally disinterested in you.
Understand the male needs of your husband. This is the easiest way to make your disinterested husband to be interested in you.
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Susan says
I have never heard such a stupid analysis!
Mathi says
Hi Susan,
Everyone has the right to have a diversified thought. Thank you for sharing yours.
Axelrod Brown says
You are in denial.
Mathi, shut up please says
So….let a man be as shabby and unreliable as he wants, while making sure to not be shabby and always reliable—but only if it doesn’t hurt his fragile little ego. Cool. Got it. What’s it like to live back in 1954?
Renee says
I came here looking for some well thought-out insights. And while I do fundamentally agree with a lot of the points you’ve made (for example: no one likes a smelly, disheveled wife or wasteful spending) I felt my defenses going up almost immediately upon detecting the accusatory tone you have, blaming wives for all the problematic attitudes and behaviors of their husbands.
The way this article is written sounds as if you KNOW the women reading it are guilty of these behaviors, and that their husbands are merely responding naturally… and that once the wives get their sh*t together, the husband’s will be all better and everything will be as it should.
Marriage matters can be very delicate and deeply complex. Reminding wives of areas they may be overlooking is certainly helpful. But the way this article reads…. feels like getting whomped over the head with a baseball bat.
Mathi says
Hi Renee,
This post is not a justification of the expectations of a husband. It is just a fair analysis of a male expectation. If you go through my posts, you would see many articles about the expectations of a wife.
This blog does not favor a husband nor a wife.
It is all about the expectations of a male and a female. I have a relationship channel as well. “Marriage Realities” It talks in favor of husband. It talks in favor of wife also.
Marriage is not all about a husband. It is also not all about a wife. A Relationship concerns both.
If you want, you can have a glimpse of my channel to understand that I am fair to both, husband and wife.
Here is the link!
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCNrT3KOkTU5ITQMyYnVsxGQ
SS says
Holy crap is this subservient. I feel bad for whoever wrote this. Now I agree with nagging. And I agree with comparing being a poor choice, and all the psychological stuff, but get off the appearance nonsense. I have known the hottest grunge men and the most disgusting perfumed metro men.