Your yelling and screaming husband makes you cringe with shame and humiliation, doesn’t he? A clear sign of your husband’s immaturity.
A normal husband does not yell and scream at his wife, does he?
Of course fights and arguments are common in all marriage relationships.
But yelling and screaming is uncommon.
Your yelling and screaming husband clearly shows that he chips under pressure. He vents his frustrations and disappointments on you. He has no right to do that.
Would he tolerate if you yell and scream at him?
He would not. He would retaliate with vengeance.
It is the same with you.
Why should you accept his abuse as a part of your marred married life?
When you tolerate your yelling and screaming husband he makes your married life abusive, nightmarish and dreadful to live through.
He is being silly and immature like a child. Do not accept it.
Why does a child yell and scream often?
When the child is denied something he shows his anger by yelling and screaming. The young child does not have control over his emotions. This is the reason why he displays his anger in no uncertain terms. As he grows up he becomes mellow and shows his displeasure in a mature way.
Your yelling and screaming husband never matures.
Your husband might be temperamental. He might be undergoing terrible stress and tension in his work place. This in no way justifies your husband yelling and screaming at you in full public view.
When he abuses you in the privacy of your home you can argue back to put him in his place.
Yes! Your yelling and screaming husband must be shown that you would not tolerate such ugly behavior from him.
You can also freeze him by you indifferent silence to his temperamental tantrums. You can go to another room to show him that his anger does not affect you.
He cannot yell and scream at the wall, can he? He soon loses his steam.
But what if your yelling and screaming husband creates scenes before full public view?
How will you feel when he calls you names right in front of others?
You feel ashamed and degraded, don’t you?
What should you do when you experience such an abusive behavior from your husband?
Ignore his temperamental tantrums with dignified silence. You should move away from the place. No one will support his ugly display of anger. Finally the shame is on him.
You inwardly curse him for the shame he inflicts on you. When you are back home you want to give him tit for tat. But you should control yourself. Do not stoop to his low level of displaying anger. Show him that you are dignified and mature, unlike him- ever so immature.
When you shout and yell back at him your relationship becomes very abusive and offensive.
Your husband thinks that physical abuse is the only abuse. No! Verbal abuse also hurts you very badly. It is unpleasant and intolerable to you. Physical abuse and verbal abuse should never be tolerated by you.
Your husband can be angry with your behavior. He can argue with you to set forth his point of view. But he has no rights to yell and scream at you.
When your husband uses abusive words it is as bad as physically injuring you. You feel terribly hurt at his audacity.
Your yelling and screaming husband – how he makes your married life torturous.
- He uses expletives to abuse your family.
- He insults your parents when they visit you.
- He yells at the childishness of your children. They hate him.
- He thrusts his work related tension on you.
Your married life has an abusive atmosphere. Your children are silent and resentful witness to the atrocious behavior of their father.
Of course anger and arguments are part and parcel of married life. You cannot always be smiling and humorous. When your husband has difference of opinion he feels angered and irritated. This is all very normal and natural in almost all marriages.
But there are rules and regulations in marriage relationship. Unless these rules are followed there can be no happiness in your married life. Both have rights to privacy. Spacing is the essence of good married life. Do not tread too close to the personal territory of each other.
These are basic etiquette of marriage.
- Do not let your screaming and yelling husband abuse you with vulgar words.
- He cannot yell at you in public places
- He should respect your views.
- He cannot vent his frustrations on you.
- He cannot drag your family into his arguments with the deliberate intention of hurting you.
He should understand that you too have feelings and you too have work related tension and stress. He cannot go on abusing you thinking that he can get away with it. You might adjust for the sake of your children, but not for long.
When your yelling and screaming husband makes your married life abusive and offensive you want to break free of him. He should rectify his behavior. Otherwise he will repent his lost married life.