Most of you want to be the best friend of your spouse, don’t you?
In fact, it is the most desired dream you have in your marriage. But, it is one of your unachieved dream also.
Why does being the best friend of your spouse mean so much to you?
Friendliness makes your relationship bright and cheerful.
- You can be your true self with him\her.
- You enjoy great freedom with your spouse which only a good friendship can give.
- You can share your inner feelings with him\her as you do with your friends.
- Friendliness makes your marriage a dream relationship.
But, you find it near impossible to be friendly with your spouse. There are times you feel you cannot get along with him\her.
Why do you find it tough to be friendly with your spouse though your mind craves for it?
Marriage relationship is getting tougher day by day. You lead a hectic lifestyle. You suffer from work related stress and tension. You have to maintain a good standard of living. So, you have to earn lots of money.
You crave for fame and affluence. You drive yourself to the extreme to make yourself wealthy and rich.
What is the net result of your mad race after money and wealth?
You are drained and frustrated. You do not have the energy to interact with your spouse. If at all, you communicate with him\her, it is about routine family matters.
It is very boring.
It is very dull.
It is very argumentative.
You often vent your frustration and anger on your spouse. You are very demanding and never giving.
How can you hope to be the best friend of your spouse when you cannot adjust and tolerate him\her?
Friendliness with your spouse can never be a one way path. It needs input from both.
How can you really be the best friend of your spouse?
1. When you share everything with your spouse
The word sharing has a very large canvas in marriage relationship. It includes many things in its arena.
Your interaction with your spouse should be supportive and compassionate.
You should share his\her sorrow and problems as if it was yours.
Share your interests\hobbies with your spouse.
Share the pride of your spouse when he\she is successful in his\her work.
Share his\her anxiety.
Share his\her fears and sorrow.
Share, share and share everything in his\her life.
Your spouse should have no reservations about sharing his\her problems with you.
‘I am here for you’.
‘You have my full support’
‘You can depend on me to share your problems’
Give such support to your spouse.
This is what good friends do, don’t they?
Convey these messages through your actions. It instills an instant bond of friendship with your spouse.
2. When you are protective towards your spouse
Will your friends let others demean you?
They won’t.
You too should never allow anyone to talk low about your spouse.
When someone passes snide remarks about your spouse, the insult is not for him\her alone, but for you too.
After marriage, you should completely shelter your spouse from slighting, rebuffs and other emotionally draining experiences.
When you are protective towards your spouse, he\she feels cared by you.
Now a beautiful friendship blossoms between you.
3. When you laugh together
With work related tension and family worries growing day by day, you find it impossible to smile. In fact, you become glum and gloomy.
The time you spend with your spouse is either full of silence, or full of harsh words. The words you exchange with him\her are very matter of fact and mundane.
Were you like this when you were in love?
You talked with your spouse because you liked to. You smiled at him\her, as you adored him\her.
You always loved to be together.
Never let your relationship drift along aimlessly without laughter and humor after marriage.
Your interaction with your spouse should have easy friendliness.
Tease each other as you do your friends. Take the teasing in its true spirit, as you do with your friends.
Enjoy fun times together.
This is what a best friend does, doesn’t he\she?
4. When you give pleasant companionship
When you give easy companionship, you can easily become the best friend of your spouse.
Friendship emerges only when there is perfect sync of thoughts and emotions between you. Your interaction with your spouse must be spontaneous, vivacious, vibrant, and energetic.
Have lots of laughter, friendly repartee, and teasing.
Love being together.
When watching movies, discuss about the movie, thrash out its drawbacks, and laugh at its ridiculous scenes.
When watching sports, talk intelligently and eagerly about the outcome of the match and get into the mood of the sports as friends do.
When you are pleasant with your spouse, the atmosphere at home vibrates with compatible friendship you long for.
5. When you are nice and pleasant
Be nice to your spouse.
Never demean him\her anytime in your life.
Encourage your spouse.
Appreciate him\her.
Trust the capacity of your spouse. He\she needs it drastically.
Make him\her feel attractive.
CONCLUSION
Can you see how easy it is to be the best friend of your spouse?
Do not make family problems a big issue. Family issues will always be there. Problems are never there to stay forever. They come and go. Take every family problems in a lighter vein.
When you overlook the good points of your spouse, there can be no true friendship between you. He\she becomes resentful and hostile towards you. Never ever do that. It will make your dream of being the best friend of your spouse a pipe dream.
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