Dave,
Your married life becomes boring and tense when your spouse does not understand you. It is indeed sad that your wife does not emotionally understand you. But do not lose patience. It is so easy to destroy your marriage but very difficult to rebuild it. Do not see everything from your point of view.Make her feel loved. Women are very emotional and want to feel that she is the most important person in your life. Have a frank and friendly talk with her. Do you know most couples never sort out their differences? It can do away with lots of differences that crop up in your married life. Keep trying. Good luck.

She doesn’t have shame, she doesn’t feel guilt and although she could see there are areas she could change, she will say that there is nothing wrong with her. I know divorce isn’t the answer, but I feel that I have no other recourse.

I stayed in the beginning because I loved her and i didn’t want to lose her. Then I lost my job, made things worse and I stayed because I had no where to go. Now that I have an income that is more than hers things are getting better, but we still have stretches of this hate towards one another.

I don’t wanna have her come home from work and feel her hostility, it makes the environment intolerable.