Most of you that feel your wife is money-minded, don’t you?
You also feel that she cannot have enough of the money you earn and wants more and more from you.
“Marriage, like money, is still with us; and, like money, progressively devalued.” –Robert Graves
How a talk show showed that most wives are money-minded?
The other day I was watching a talk show about the views a wife has about the profession of her husband. The show was a sort of revelation to me.
Almost all wives in the talk show felt that the earnings of their husband was well below their expectations. They complained that their husbands did not work smart. They criticized that their husbands did not have a worthy profession which they can be proud of.
They also grumbled that their husbands were not willing to change their company, even if they earned less than what was due to them.
I was particularly moved when one man complained about his wife.
“My wife is money-minded. She never confesses about my profession to her colleagues. Since she is a teacher, she feels that my job as a welder is below her dignity” the man’s voice choked with anger and depression.
“I was a driver when my wife married me. I encouraged her to do her Master’s degree. I worked hard to pay her education fees. Now she works in a prestigious corporate company. Now, she feels that my job as a driver is demeaning to her. So, I feel that my wife is money-minded” this was the sad story of yet another man.
Women are indeed becoming very money conscious.
You feel your wife is money-minded when she is not satisfied with your earnings, don’t you?
But is she as money calculative as you assume her to be?
Your wife craves for the financial security of your family more than anything else. She knows that you need money for your old age. She wants to give your children the best of education. She wants to have a good standard of living.
You too want the same for your family, don’t you?
But you are prepared to wait, whereas your wife is impatient to want it to happen immediately. This is the reason she demands that you earn more.
She also compares your earnings with that of your friends\colleagues\relatives. It makes her feel that you are not earning as much as they do.
She feels that you are not ambitious and determined to succeed in life. She is frustrated that you stagnate at one company even though you know that there is no scope for your success if you work there.
Your wife does not understand that you as a man wants satisfaction and comfort in the company you work. This does not mean you are not ambitious. You are indeed very ambitious. But, you will never let go your comfort for some other job where you do not know what is in store for you.
When you are liked by the management and respected for your efficiency, you do not like to leave your present job. You are prepared to wait for your success.
You like working in your comfortable pace. You do not want to rush things and make yourself a nervous wreck. When your wife nags you about your inability to earn enough for the family, you feel frustrated. When she mocks your profession, your hackles raise in resentment and aggravated anger.
This is the reason you feel your wife is money-minded and too ambitious for your liking.
It is true your wife is always a step ahead of you in wanting more and more money. She wants your income to be big. She wants your profession to be something she can boast of. She wants you to succeed instantly and immediately.
She argues that she is demanding more money for the betterment of your family. But you don’t like it a wee bit. In fact, your wife makes you feel very unhappy by nagging you about your inability to strike gold for the family.
You become tensed when your wife goes on and on about how you lag behind your friends\relatives in being successful and in making more money. When she compares you with others, you feel completely discouraged and demoralized.
You are resentful that your wife does not love you enough and is more concentrated on your earnings.
- When your wife does not understand your feelings and insists on being money minded it makes you withdraw from her in disappointment and discontentment.
- When your wife feels that your profession is not dignified, you feel that her love is not deep enough to accept you for what you are.
- When she feels that manual work is low in status and white collared job is a good status symbol, you stamp that your wife is money minded.
Conclusion
Your wife must understand that all professions except the dishonest ones are worthy of respect. If only she respects you as who are you, your love for your wife will grow and thrive. Only she must understand it before she loses your love.
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