In the initial years of your marriage, you never forget to gift your spouse for his\her birthday\wedding anniversary.
In fact, you make great show of your love by lavishly gifting him\her.
But, as years go by you forget to gift your spouse. You never think gifting your spouse as something which is very needed in your relationship. You presume that your spouse should understand your love without buying him\her gifts.
This is where you go wrong.
Your spouse links your gifting to the love you have for him\her.
So, gift your spouse if you want to prove your love.
Don’t you agree with me?
I will elaborate.
You will definitely feel you should gift your spouse after reading the story of Della and Jim.
I am sure you have heard about the famous writer O. Henry.
Though he has written many stories, I still cannot forget his short story – The story of the Magi.
Jim and Della were husband and wife. Though they were poor, both loved each other ardently. Christmas was only a day away. Della wanted to buy her husband a surprising gift. She wanted to buy a gold chain for his gold watch. But she had no money.
How could a poor girl afford to buy a gold chain?
All that Della could boast of was her beautiful long hair. She decides to sell her long hair to a woman who made wigs. After selling her hair, Della had enough money to buy the gold chain for Jim’s gold watch.
She prepares dinner for her husband and eagerly awaits his return from work. She is worried how he would react when he saw her long lustrous hair cut short.
Jim returns from work. He looks strangely at the short hair of his wife.
Della tells him that she sold her hair to buy his gold watch a gold chain. She gives him the gold chain she had lovingly bought for him. Jim smiles and gives Della a present. She opens it to see a set of beautiful combs. She had always wanted it. But they were very expensive. So, she could not afford it.
She wondered how Jim could have afforded it. He told her that he had sold his gold watch to buy the combs for her hair.
Such was the love Della and Jim had towards each other that they were ready to forgo their most precious possessions.
This story is an epitome of love.
Della and Jim had no money. They could have just wished each other merry Christmas. But they wanted to prove their love more emphatically – by gifting.
Such is the power of gifting.
This is the reason I say that you should gift your spouse.
In your workplace, you constantly compare yourself with your colleagues. You want whatever they have. When they tell you how their spouse gifted them costly things for their birthday, you feel that your non-gifting spouse does not love you enough to buy you things. You feel utterly disappointed.
Is gifting really a show of love?
Does your spouse lack love when he\she does not gift you anything?
Yes and no.
It is true you love your spouse and he\she also loves you back. But love for each other is an emotion. It is felt and not seen.
You are very human to seek tangible proof of the love your spouse has for you.
That tangible proof is the loving gift he\she buys for you; you feel his\her love through it.
Should you gift your spouse only costly things to make him\her feel good?
Not at all. It is your remembering that makes him\her feel totally loved by you. But, do not buy something which he\she cannot use and becomes an unused item. When you buy gifts, always think of his\her needs and tastes. When you buy something, which he\she craved for, your spouse feels extremely satisfied.
What can you gift your husband? – Costly ones
- Laptop
- Home theatre
- Latest music systems
- Smart phones
Well, what should you gift if your budget was small?
- Wallets
- Leather belts
- Shoes
- Shirts
- Or even a ticket to his favorite matches
What can you gift your wife? – Costly ones
- Jewelry
- Diamond rings
- Smart phones
- Trendy dresses.
Low budget gifts for your wife
- Handbags
- Shoes and slippers
- Fashion jewelry
When you gift your spouse, your money will not go wasted. You display your love openly and explicitly.
Yes.
Your spouse feels completely loved by you when you remember his\her tiny wishes and fulfill it by gifting him\her.
Leave a Reply