Do you know that the qualities of a good homemaker is very different from the qualities of a good wife?
You might be a good and understanding wife. You might be loving and caring towards your husband. But you could be a worse homemaker.
Are you confused?
Sadly, it is not so.
To be a good wife you need many sensitive qualities.
You need to be loving and caring towards your husband.
You must overlook his minor faults.
You must give emotional support to your husband when he direly needs it.
You must not interfere into the duties of your husband towards his family.
You must allow your husband his personsal space.
You must respect your husband.
These are some of the essential characteristics you need to be stamped as a good wife.
But, being a good homemaker needs entirely different qualities from you.
Being a good homemaker needs more of your management skills. You must be sensitive as well as be sensible.
Being a good homemaker also needs incredible will power from you.
You need to be emotionally strong and stable.
You must be assertive and confident in handling the issues your family consistently faces.
Here is a glimpse into the top 10 management qualities of a good homemaker
1. Confidence to deal with problems
Do you think you need to be confident only in your work place?
No.
You need absolute confidence in dealing with family issues that keep cropping up consistently.
Family issues can be nerve-wracking.
Family problems can exhaust you as it is emotionally draining. This is the reason most of you easily buckle under the pressures you face in your married life.
But if you want to be a good homemaker, you must have the nerves of steel. You must develop an uncanny capacity to deal with any problems that creep into your family life.
Yes!
Family problems should never deter you.
It should never make you tensed.
You should have the flair to handle it with assertiveness.
When you are a good homemaker, you will avoid running to your husband, cribbing about your inability to handle it.
You are so talented in dealing with your family issues with confidence, that you earn the respect of husband effortlessly.
2. Allocation of duties
Do you do all the family duties by yourself?
Do you feel you are being a very selfless and generous wife when you let your husband enjoy himself while you slog it all alone?
No.
You are being stupid.
Can you do all the official work in your work place?
You cannot. Work in your profession is always a team work. Your colleagues are as much accountable towards their duties as you are.
It is the same in your family life also.
Every member of your family should do their duties. Your husband is accountable just as you are. Do not slave for your family without time for yourself.
When you are consistently denied your personal space, you lose your identity. And you will find it very tough to mask your irritation and frustration against your husband for very long.
You should train your children to look after themselves.
Your husband should realize that he cannot laze around and expect you to slog alone.
You should make your husband understand his family duties as a husband and as a father. He cannot escape it.
As a good homemaker, allocate family duties to your husband also.
3. Cleanliness is next to godliness
Do you cite your tiredness and keep your house like a pigsty?
A good homemaker never does that.
Does this mean you should slog alone to keep your house clean?
Not at all.
Teach your children to keep their room tidy from their young age itself.
Make your husband assist you in cleaning the house.
A clean and tidy home is a reflection of your character.
When your home is neat and tidy, it shows your effeciency in multitasking.
And a tidy home drives away your stress and tension comprehensively.
4. Being presentable always
Do you feel the overload of your family duties gives you the leash to look shabby in dirty pajamas?
No.
It doesn’t.
You never go to your workplace, looking sweaty and shabby, do you?
Though you have a hectic work schedule, you are always presentable in your work place.
A good homemaker knows the trick to look good and presentable at home also.
5. Financial farsightedness
As a good homemaker you always look far into the financial future of your family.
As an effecient homemaker, you meticulously plan for the financial future of your family.
You plan your grocery list with care so that you do not waste your money. And you also do not buy unwanted things.
Your farsightedness as a good homemaker makes you save for your children’s education. You very well know that money is the key ingredient in providing your children with good education.
Your financial brilliance as an intelligent homemaker makes your understand the importance of owning your own house. So, you plan your own home and make it a reality.
6. Never ending enthusiasm
Yes.
Enthusiasm makes you do your household work with cheerfulness.
A smiling face is a treat to watch, isn’t it?
Without enthusiasm, you crib and fret that you are overloaded with work. You look haggard and listless when at home.
Your lack of enthusiasm gradually pulls down the energy level of your family also.
Can you see that enthusiasm is yet another quality of a good homemaker?
7. Intelligent thinking
You need 100 percent intelligence to be a good homemaker.
When you are intelligent, you never indulge in wasting money.
You are instant in solving family issues.
You bring up your children with utmost care.
You join hands with your husband for the betterment of the family.
8. Consistent work schedule
As a good homemaker, you have a regular household work schedule.
And you stick to it.
You do not do your household work in fits and jerks.
You work with perseverance day in day out.
You do your family duties with willingness.
You never stop working towards solving family problems.
9. Empathetic approach
You perfectly understand the feelings of every member of your family.
You make your children feel loved and cared because you understand their tender needs from their view-point.
You make your husband feel relaxed and comfortable by being reasonable and rational.
10. Well-mannered towards the family
You never utter profanities.
You respect your husband.
You do not abuse your children.
You never raise your voice.
You are not dominating and controlling.
You command respect from your children because of your pleasing personality. Your home has a pleasing atmosphere because there is mutual respect between all the members of the family.
CONCLUSION
“The homemaker has the ultimate career. All other careers exist for one purpose only – and that is to support the ultimate career.” – C.S.Lewis
Can you see you must be sensible and intelligent to be a good homemaker?
It is more of managing your home, isn’t it?
Do you have these qualities?
Wonderful.
You easily make a haven of your home.
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