Extra marital affair of your spouse can literally turn your married life into a battlefield.
Do you know why?
Loyalty towards each other is the core to a happy marriage. So, when your spouse crosses his\her boundary and cheats you, you feel deceived and betrayed.
You are sad that all niceties of your marriage has been lost when your spouse cheats your absolute trust in him\her.
You are quite right in feeling so.
The extra marital of your spouse shakes the very foundation of your marriage. You feel furious at the injustice meted out to you by your cheating spouse.
“My husband was always late from work. When I questioned him about it, he said he had a backlog of work to finish. Since I trusted him, I believed in whatever he said. But I was in for the shock of my life when I saw my husband with another woman in a shopping plaza” my friend unhappily told me.
“And you know what? He had the audacity to tell me that the woman was his colleague and had met her by chance. But when I talked with his friends they told me that my husband always left his office as usual and that he did not have any pending official work. I now know that he had been cheating me behind my back. Nowadays I hate to see his face. I never talk to him. I am staying with him for the sake of my children” my friend went on with tear filled eyes.
I am sure many of you must have experienced the same agony of my friend when you find out that your spouse is cheating your trust in him\her.
Do you know your spouse leaves behind a trail of clues that he\she is cheating you?
Here are the top signs of the extra marital affair of your spouse
- Sudden and unexplained indifference your spouse shows towards you.
- Complete lack of communication that happens between you.
- Secrecy that surrounds everything your spouse does.
- The long hours of hush-hush talk he\she has in the mobile.
- Contemptuous neglect of duties as a husband\wife.
- Unexplained absence from home.
- Refusal to have sex with you.
- Unneccessary change of password of social media accounts.
You are in utter confusion whether to end your marriage, or live through it for the sake of your children.
Extra marital affair of your spouse should be dealt firmly by you.
Here are the sensible ways!
1. Never play the victim
You are often silent and mum even if you know that your spouse is cheating you behind your back. You say you resist from confronting your spouse for the sake of the society\ for the sake of your children.
Society is not undergoing your mental agony. Your children are better off than be a witness to the cheating of their insensitive mother\father.
So, have the guts to question your spouse about his\her extra marital affair.
Yes!
Never let things drift along by playing the all suffering victim. You only prolong your agony by suffering in silence while your spouse is having all the fun.
Never forget that you have absolute right towards the loyalty of your spouse.
2. Don’t be all doubting and all suspecting
In this modern age, both have to work amongst the opposite sex.
Your husband has many female colleagues. Your wife has many male colleagues. So, it is common to see your spouse interacting with friendliness with them.
It is a purely professional relationship. Sometimes your spouse might have to stay in the office beyond working hours.
Do not visualize things that is not happening in the office. Do not suspect that your spouse is staying behind because of his\her closeness to his\her colleague.
Never convert true friendship into an extra marital affair. This creates unnecessary resentment and hostility in your relationship to finally destroy it.
Unless you are hundred percent sure that your spouse is cheating you, do not confront him\her.
3. Are you the reason behind the extra marital affair?
What made your spouse jump into an extra marital affair?
Could you have been the reason behind the cheating of your spouse?
Did you neglect the emotional needs of your spouse?
Was he\she sexually deprived?
Extra marital affair has two sides, just like the two sides of a coin. It is true that there can be no justification to the cheating of your spouse. But the fact remains that you are not always right and your spouse is not always wrong.
When there is an emotional distance between you, your spouse easily finds solace in someone who touches his\her emotional chord. When you deny your spouse sex, his\her raging physical needs easily seeks pleasure outside the wedlock.
Rectify your relationship mistakes. Your spouse will never cross his\her limits.
4. Talk it out
You should definitely have a frank talk with your spouse. If your doubts are confirmed, you have every right to confront him\her.
Your spouse owes you an explanation. He\she can never escape without apologizing to you.
Have a blunt talk with your spouse. Tell your spouse that you will never tolerate his\her cheating.
Tell your spouse point blankly that his\her choice should only be you.
5. Should you accept or reject your spouse?
It depends entirely on your mindset.
Can you forget the betrayal of your spouse and lead a normal married life with him\her?
Do you love your spouse so much that you are ready to forgive him\her?
If you say yes, you can take your spouse back. Before forgiving him\her, you must be firm and ruthless in showing that you will never take another affair lightly.
But if the bitterness still remains with you, you should definitely opt for a divorce.
If you stay together with bitterness and resentment loaded in your mind, your married life would be full of indifference and hostility. You would never have a moment of peace.
This is something you do not want to happen in your marriage, do you?
Conclusion
Faithfulness is the string that ties your marriage together.
Extra marital affair of your spouse cuts the string.
What is left behind is a destroyed marriage and emotionally shattered children.
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