How to handle top 3 kinds of bully in your work place? Are you wondering who the 3 kinds of bully are?
Your boss can be the number one bully.
Your higher officials can bully you.
Do you know your colleague can also be a bully?
In fact there are these types of bullies almost everywhere.
Who is a bully?
A bully is a tormentor. If you are not in his good books he makes life in your work place very oppressive and boring.
You are literally terrified of him, aren’t you?
Why do you fear the bully?
You want peace in your workplace so that you can concentrate on your work.
But the bully torments you by not cooperating with you. He deliberately makes your work time torturous by giving you unnecessary troubles. So you want to stay miles away from him.
Let us suppose you are in a meeting.
- Does a person keep on interrupting you?
- Does he make snide remarks about your suggestions?
- Does he slyly whisper about you to others?
- Does he have a mocking look in his face?
He is a typical bully!
If he is a true professional he would never interrupt you. If at all he disagrees with you he would wait for you to finish talking and then put forth his suggestions. Such a person gains your respect and admiration.
But when someone deliberately sets forth to ruin your name in your workplace he is definitely a bully.
How to handle top 3 kinds of bully in your workplace?
1. Your bully boss torments you!
What does your bully boss do to make you highly stressed?
- He is never satisfied with your work.
- He insults you before others.
- He rolls his eyes at you in contempt to show that you are dimwit.
- He makes you do the same work again and again saying your work is not perfect.
- He compares you in lesser light with your junior colleagues.
It is very tough working with a boss who is a torturous bully. Though he might be your boss, you should not be too meek and submissive. Do not confront him. But when you feel your work is perfect you can ask him what he expects from you. Your voice must be firm and assertive. Believe me! When your bully boss knows you cannot be toyed with, he begins to treat you with respect.
2. Your higher officials could be a bully also!
There are some higher officials who misuse their post.
If you are not in their good books, God forbid!
- They create a negative image about you to the management.
- They make you feel small before others.
- They vent their anger and frustration on you if you are timid and humble.
- They spy on you and report negative things about you to the boss.
Do not buckle under such bullies who use their position to torture you.
His position and authority should not overwhelm you. He might be influential and powerful. It is his duty to make you work with proficiency. But he has no right to bully you.
You should be confident when you interact with the higher official who is a bully. You must tell him firmly that he should be specific in pointing out your mistakes. Never ever bow to his high post. Give him your respect and not your fear.
3. Your co-worker can be a bully too!
How do you identify him?
- He does not hold himself accountable
- He back bites about you a lot
- He does not cooperate with you
- He uses expletives when interacting with you
- He interferes in your work
- He passes negative comments about you within your ear shot.
- He shifts the mistake he made on you.
- He makes friends with the higher officials and acts arrogantly towards you.
- He forms a group against you.
Rather a handful, isn’t he?
Your work becomes tensed if you have to face such bullies day in and day out in your work place.
It would be silly to leave your job fearing the bully. You might face the same situation in another work place too. You cannot keep on changing your job in fear of a bully, can you?
Do you know you can easily handle him?
All you need is pure guts and assertiveness.
When you demonstrate that you are rattled by him, the bully has a field day harassing you. It is more like a cat and mouse game. If you behave like a mouse and whimper he becomes a cat chasing you hither and thither making your work time a hell. But when you behave like a dog he becomes the cat terrified of your bark.
This is how it works. When you are ready to be chased, he chases you. When you are ready to fight back he tucks his tails and whimpers away.
Does this mean you should always confront him and make yourself the Mr. Right?
It is as bad a behavior as his bullying.
You should not give lengthy lecture as to how you would not tolerate him.
You should be right on target telling him that he cannot take you for granted. Give him a stern warning that you would not tolerate his misdemeanor in any way.
If he still persists in harassing you, you can report to your higher officials or the management.
You should overlook the bully as if he did not exist and do your work with dedication and involvement- a death blow to the bully.
Do you know when you flex your muscles, the bully deviates from you? He does not have the power to handle someone who acts aggressive than him.
How do you handle such bullies?
Let your bully boss realize your talent. Your work should be so proficient that he should acknowledge that you are invaluable to the company. Respect him, but do not bow your knees before him!
Make it known to your bully higher official that you will report him to the management if he keeps insulting you. You should try to have excellent relationship with your colleagues so that the higher official is completely isolated.
Tell your bully colleague that you will never tolerate his tormenting.
It is your positive attitude that will eventually bring the bully to his knees. Assertiveness and confidence are keys to the comfort level in your work place. It is your fear that is the trump card of the bully. Take it away from him. When you do it he loses his steam and lets you off his bullying hook.
Treat him with professional ethics! Make it known that you would not take his bullying without giving back to him. He scoots away from you. Never to look at your side!