“Talking to a wall” this is what a wife feels when her husband does not talk with her.
The silence of your husband makes you feel completely lost and unloved, doesn’t it?
You are unable to express your thoughts when your husband does not talk with you. It is because communication is the most important tool to a happy marriage.
When your husband does not talk, you are all at seas about his true feelings towards you.
You spend lonely hours at home hoping that your husband will eventually open out to you.
But he does not.
Your husband is very comfortable spending his free time, browsing\watching TV\playing video games.
Spending time alone, is the simplest way your husband chooses to escape from family responsibilities. It is his trick of avoiding unwanted arguments with you.
You do not want to talk only about important family matters with your husband. You want your interaction to be intimate and highly personal. Just the two of you sort of feeling.
You want your husband to talk to you in such a way that you are able to understand his love and care for you.
But, mostly you are disappointed.
What exactly should you do when your husband does not talk?
1. Create your own world
You cannot be pining for your husband to talk to you. You have to live your life. You cannot wallow in self-pity about the non-communication of your husband.
Do not feel depressed when your husband does not talk to you. Create your very own world. You must have talent in some field. Polish that talent.
Have fun with your children. Mingle with your friends.
Go shopping.
Have a hobby. Hobbies can make feel occupied.
Spend time with your pets.
Pets are scientifically proven to be great stress busters.
2. Make your husband accountable
Do not let your husband get away from his family duties, through his silence. Be clear-cut in giving him his share of family commitments.
Even though your husband does not talk with you, make sure that he shares family commitments along with you.
You have the right to expect your husband to look after your children.
Set clear boundaries so that your husband knows that he cannot get away dodging his commitments.
3. Understand his viewpoint
Are you in any way the reason why your husband does not talk to you?
You might vehemently say no.
But unknowing to you, you do many things that hurts the male ego of your husband. When you persistently nag him, he keeps his mouth clamped to escape your wagging tongue.
When you compare him with others, your husband hates it. He shows his anger by not talking to you.
When you are too preachy, your husband feels that he is not respected by you.
This is the reason your husband stops communicating with you, as he feels you will needlessly make him feel all tensed up.
So, when you rectify your mistakes, your husband might unwind his reserved nature to talk with you.
4. Avoid confrontation
Your husband hates confrontation, as he has no capacity to defend himself. His only weapon is his silence.
This is the reason your husband uses it as his trump card, as he knows how much you hate it when he does not open his mouth.
Confrontation with your husband will yield no results. It will only make your husband even more reserved with you. It gives him an excuse to safely distance himself from you.
When you are confronting, your husband will keep mum, making you lose your peace.
Instead, you can reasonably put forth your point of view to your husband.
5. Your husband’s incapacity to deal with family problems makes him silent
You are deft in handling family issues, while your husband is basically incapable of it.
You are furious when he insensitively makes you handle all family issues alone. You would not rest until you make your husband realize his ineptness.
This situation gets too scary for your husband. So, he finds it easy to keep aloof from you.
6. Let your husband come to terms with his silence
He cannot live like a loner in his own home, can he?
He wants to communicate with you, but is not sure what he will be getting from you.
So, let your husband fight his own battle and realize that he has to communicate with you if he wants to feel like a family.
Conclusion
It is true you are angry when your husband does not talk. But, you cannot force him to interact with you.
Anything done forcefully is stilted and artificial. So, let your husband come to terms with what he wants from his marriage.
He will then realize that he has to talk to you, if he wants your love.
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