Comments on: Top 5 initial problems in the first year of marriage – New responsibilities and crashed expectations https://www.breezystorm.com/initial-problems-in-the-first-year-of-marriage/ Love forever until death do us part Fri, 14 May 2021 11:01:59 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=5.6.10 By: Mathi https://www.breezystorm.com/initial-problems-in-the-first-year-of-marriage/#comment-13632 Fri, 14 May 2021 11:01:59 +0000 https://www.breezystorm.com/?p=3451#comment-13632 In reply to Kanak.

Hi Kanak,
Your husband is a classic example of a man suffering from some sort of a complex. When a person blames others for his problems, it obviously means he is suffering from some serious issue.
A normal person with some sort of a decency will never make others a scapegoat.
If the parents of your husband are unable to do nothing about his behavior, it just means he is a negative person. You should not be too patient towards his abuse. You should go to the root cause of his anger.
Is he suffering from work related stress?
Is he facing other problems which you are unaware?
No one becomes cynical without any valid reason.
You must find it out.
You should never be cowed down by the anger of your husband. You need not give tit for tat to his anger. At least you should show him that you will not take his anger too submissively.
I hope your husband does not drink. If he does, he might become angry for no reason just to hide his wrong.
His parents can do nothing about the anger of your husband.
8 months is too early to say that your marriage is a failure. Your marriage will take time to settle down. Do not lose heart. Talk to your husband. Initial troubles in marriage are more like teething problems. If you attend to it, you can easily solve it. But if you let things drift along without taking action, your relationship issues will turn cancerous. So, act now.

]]> By: Kanak https://www.breezystorm.com/initial-problems-in-the-first-year-of-marriage/#comment-13588 Sun, 09 May 2021 19:59:02 +0000 https://www.breezystorm.com/?p=3451#comment-13588 I am 8 months into marriage and faced all the above mentioned points. Situation is getting worse even after putting continuous efforts by both partners. The love is fading,and we do not want to sort out the differences anymore,growing weary of the efforts and emotional drainage it causes. My husband is narcissist, and cynic who blames very person in his family including me for his problems. He has shown signs of mental breakdowns as well not less than 4 times in 8 months. Despite being quite to his verbal abuses and attacks, and keeping patience for the phase to pass, it just seems never ending. This is emotionally draining for me. He suffers from anger issues and refuses to take any help . His own parents are helpless. They have no choice but to bear his actions. What can be done to lead a peaceful married life?

]]> By: Mathi https://www.breezystorm.com/initial-problems-in-the-first-year-of-marriage/#comment-6750 Mon, 07 Mar 2016 18:19:55 +0000 https://www.breezystorm.com/?p=3451#comment-6750 In reply to Vandana.

Vandana,
You are in an abusive relationship. Your husband cannot have fun with other woman and think you should be loyal to him. Loyalty in marriage is for both. You say you are a chartered accountant. How can you allow your mother in law to call you names? Show them you cannot be taken for granted. Do not give them money if they demand it. They have no rights to do it. You are married only for 6 months. Can you wait for sometime to make your married life settle down a bit?
Are you living in a joint family? This creates lots of problems in your married life as your in laws turn your husband against you by giving him wrong advises.
But if this scenario continues get out of your married life. Nowadays society is more understanding. If at all you divorce, do not marry in a hurry. You should wait for the right person so that you do not face the same problems again. GOOD LUCK!

]]> By: Vandana https://www.breezystorm.com/initial-problems-in-the-first-year-of-marriage/#comment-6729 Sun, 06 Mar 2016 03:42:43 +0000 https://www.breezystorm.com/?p=3451#comment-6729 ma’am my husband commited adultery with another married woman, a mother of two and still staying with her husband. in other words she came to my house n slept with my husband when i went to ofc n then at night writes to him that she was not able to perform the act with her husband as she was reminded of him. at this my husband replies, this is life . dont think so much.
i have been six months into marriage. i also came to knw that he is very friendly with another female collegue from office as informed by our driver. he treats me very shabbily n his mother also mistreat me calling names. henever takes me shoping or till date didnt gift me a single gift on valentine or birthday, however i gifted him. but he gifts his mom sarrees n his sister(who is married) gifts, also to sisters husband. he demands gifts from me. also his parents demand money from me as gifts for various occasions..
I am a chartered accountant. should i get divorce? my parents are supporting me mentally. Are there better prospects for me to marry again? will the society accept me again……
i also came to knw that prior to marriage he was also involved in such acts and mostly with aunties including his neighbour.
what should i do?

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