‘Don’t you feel lonely living all alone?’ My friend asked me curiously.
‘Why should I feel lonely?’ I smiled at her.
‘Your only daughter is so far away. You have no one with you. I am sure you must be feeling very lost’ my friend was persistently implying that I was living a lonely life.
She never knew the simple truth. I was thoroughly enjoying the solitude in my life. Of course I miss my daughter. But I talk to her often. Distance has never driven us apart. In fact we are more close to each other now.
How to live alone without feeling lonely _ My experience!
I was a typical Indian wife when my husband was alive. My world revolved around my family. I had no exposure to the outside world.
But when my husband passed away I was thrown open to this merciless world. My mother was my pillar of strength during my days of agony. My brothers and sister gave me incredible moral support.
But the fact remained that I was a single parent. It was a blunt truth that I had to do my things on my own. My only daughter became my whole world. She gave me the hold to live my life.
I always had a never-say-die attitude. It was this courage that made me see through my hard times. My struggle made me evolve into a confident woman.
I clung to my inner strength to see through my daughter’s education. She is now happily married to the person she loved.
After her marriage bleak loneliness surrounded me.
This loneliness was as severe and draining as the one I experienced when my husband passed away. l felt terribly deprived without the presence of my daughter around me. Her laughter, our fights and our incessant talks became nostalgic memories.
It was as though my life line was snatched away from me. I felt my world crumbling to my feet.
‘Be satisfied and happy that you have done your duty as a mother with great aplomb single-handedly. Let your daughter lead her own life. Take a step back from her. She now has her own family to look after. Don’t make her feel guilty by telling her that you are missing her.’ My sister advised me.
It was a revelation to me. I knew I was feeling lonely for nothing. I should feel happy for my daughter I told myself.
I had my own life to lead. I had my own passion to pursue. And I had all the time in the world to do it.
Now was the time to enjoy my life.
I bid goodbye to my loneliness.
My passion was writing. I now have this blog which gives practical advice to many problems in life.
Though I am alone I lead a very active life. I do all my household work by myself. I sing my favorite songs as I work. When I write a good article I congratulate myself loudly. I concentrate on being well-groomed.
I visit my aging mother once a month. I spend three days with her – days which rejuvenated me.
I go for walk regularly and on the way I buy whatever is needed for the next day. After returning home I write articles, edit them and post them. I visit my blog regularly and see how many visitors I have had.
Do you know how happy I feel to see my viewers gradually increasing?
I am writing e-books and plan to publish it soon.
I am not telling my story to blow my own trumpet.
It is to tell you that only you can make yourself feel lonely. Don’t do that.
Are you dependent on your children for your happiness?
They will make you lonely when they move away to lead their own life.
- Live your life as you want to.
- Enjoy your life as you longed to.
- Indulge in your so far neglected passion.
I did all these. Now I no longer feel lonely as I have a best friend who guides me, talks to me, laughs with me and makes me feel I am worthy and commendable.
Want to know my best friend?
It is me!