Living with a career wife is tricky.
You spend lonely hours at home while your ambitious wife is busy with her hectic work schedule.
You yearn that your wife concentrate more time on her family life, don’t you?
Are you married to a career wife? Empathize with her
Living with a career wife needs different kind of attitude. You cannot expect her to be at your beck and call. You should be tolerant to her erratic work timings.
Years ago man had the luxury of his wife looking after him while he had only to bring in money to run the family. But you do not enjoy such a comfort zone as your wife also works. She too has work related stress. Her hectic work schedule compels her to spend long hours away from home.
Times have changed. What was considered as a luxury yester year has now become a necessity. You need lots of money to maintain a good standard of living. It is no longer possible to run the family on the income of a single person.
So your wife also goes to work to contribute for the family needs. In some cases your wife might be more successful than you.
- Do you feel your wife is too concentrated on her career than looking after her family?
- Does her success make her somewhat dominating and head strong?
- Does she want her decision in family matters implemented to the dot?
- Do you feel small before her?
Your wife becomes very confident when her success makes her enjoy incredible financial freedom. There are times you feel your wife dominates you in many family decisions. You feel lost as you are dethroned from your crown as the lord of the family. Living with a career wife needs lots of adjustment from you.
You feel a pinch of envy when your career wife strides ahead of you in her profession. You are overawed when she achieves incredible stature in her profession. You need the money your wife earns to maintain a good status. But you feel uncertain when she becomes too aggressive for you to handle her.
As a man what do you want from your wife?
- She must love and care for me.
- She must look after the children with loving care.
- She must respect my family.
- She must cook well for me.
- She must support me unconditionally when I need it.
Very predictable answers.
You never say you want your wife to earn lots of money.
But why is it you are unable to say no to the money your career wife brings home?
The answer is simple.
You need the money for maintaining good standard of living.
You are often caught up in a dilemma of wanting money and also wanting the comfort of a caring wife. This makes you confused and muddled up.
You should change with the changes modern world brings in.
Do not be old-fashioned. Do not expect your wife to be the one to look after your family. When you need her money, it is only natural that you adjust to her work related demands. If you play the role of an uncaring husband, your wife feels mentally tired and worried.
- Understand her hectic timings.
- Realize her work related stress and tension.
- Look after the children when she is away at work.
- Never pick up fights with her for petty reasons.
- Do not vent your frustration and jealousy on her.
It makes her very unhappy.
How can she equally please you with her care and the management with her dedicated work?
Do you know that an effective way of showing your love is to make her realize that you understand her work related problems, timings and stress?
Don’t ever let economic alone determine your career or how you spend the majority of your time.’- Denis Waitley
Your working wife should also know how to balance between work and family. Showing no dedication to work is wrong. But ignoring family is worse.