Is your life is enjoyable or torturous if you are married to a career wife?
A working wife is different from a career wife.
A working wife works for the financial betterment of her family. She treats her job more like a livelihood. She always looks at her job as something which provides her with some useful money.
But the mentality of a career wife is entirely different.
A career wife is basically very ambitious about her profession.
So, to a career wife, her profession comes above her family.
A career wife is hungry to succeed in her profession. She lives and breathes her career. And she would never tolerate any sort of an interference into her profession.
This is the reason that being married to a career wife is tricky.
Your wife is proud about the giant strides she takes in becoming a force to reckon with in her profession.
As a husband, you are alarmed when your wife in her ambition towards her profession, treats her family as a second-hand option.
Your career wife loves you. There are no doubts about it. But there is something in the behavior of your career wife which you feel is rather overbearing to you.
How your life changes when you are married to a career wife?
- Your wife acts very decisive about family problems.
- Her voice is too high pitched for your liking.
- You feel the tone of your career wife is too authoritative and there are times you are tongue tied before her.
- Your wife has many official calls coming in during her family time.
- And your wife is always in one official call or the other, even when she is home.
- The attitude of your wife makes you often wonder if she is considering her profession a little too important than her family life.
That concentrated is your wife in her work.
The attitude of a career wife.
Your wife never divides her personal life and her professional life. She has absolutely no balance between work and family.
In fact, your career wife converts her family time into her official time as she is too focused on her work and its related problems.
Your wife keeps studying further and further to climb higher and higher up the ladder of success in her profession.
Naturally your wife leaps far ahead of you in her work status. The huge status your wife enjoys in her profession makes you feel very overshadowed by her.
You spend lonely hours at home, while your ambitious wife is busy with her hectic work schedule.
You yearn that your wife concentrates more on her family life also, don’t you?
Your career wife, has that much of her hands full of her official work that she hardly spends time with the family.
Your wife feels you should understand her tight work schedule
Living with a career wife needs an entirely different kind of attitude from you.
You are forced to live your married life in an entirely different way to make it work.
You can no longer afford to be dominating towards your wife.
Yester generation man had the luxury of his wife looking after him and the family while he had only to bring in money to run the family.
But you no longer enjoy such a comfort zone as your wife is totally focused on her work.
Your wife is completely into her official work even when she is home.
When your wife is too career oriented, her focus is on her work and her success. And not on maintaining her home or looking after your children.
You feel that your wife no longer likes taking care of the family.
But you cannot advice your wife about it. You well know that your wife will retaliate vehemently even if you open your mouth about her family duties.
When your wife is too concentrated on her work, everything about your married life become mechanical and robotic.
No more emotional bonding between you and your wife. There are no more friendly interaction between you.
Just going about your married life on a day-to-day basis without the element of love in it.
It is true that it is no longer possible to maintain your family on the income of a single person. Times have changed. The luxuries of luxury yester-years have now become a necessity.
So, you need lots of money to maintain a good standard of living.
This is the reason you wanted your wife to work so that she too can contribute towards your family needs.
Everything goes smoothly until your wife becomes more successful than you. And your relationship problems intensifies when your wife becomes very career oriented because of the success she is now enjoying in her profession.
The behavior of your wife undergoes many changes when she enjoys incredible success and financial status.
There are times when your wife dominates you in many family issues. You feel lost as you are dethroned from your crown as the lord of the family. Living with a career wife needs lots of adjustment from you.
You feel that the success of your wife has made her somewhat dominating and head strong.
You think that your wife acts pushy with you in demanding that her decision in family matters should be implemented to the dot.
Many a time you feel small before your career wife.
You feel a pinch of envy when your career wife strides ahead of you in her profession. You are overawed by her growing stature in her profession.
Though you drastically need the money your wife earns, you are unhappy when she treats her work as the entirety of her life.
You want your wife to love and care for you. You want your wife to look after your children with loving care.
You want her to respect your family. You want your wife to cook well for you. You want your wife to support you unconditionally when you need it.
You want your wife to work just for the financial betterment of your family. You do not feel knotted up when your wife treats her job as a means to bring income for the family.
But your life turns upside down when your wife comes career oriented.
How can you handle the situation when your wife becomes too career oriented?
Well, you have no other go than to adjust to the ambitions of your wife, if you want to save your marriage.
So, do not be old fashioned. You cannot expect that your wife must be the only one to look after your family. When you need her money, it is only natural that you adjust to her work-related demands.
Understand the hectic timings of your wife. Realize her work related stress and tension. Look after the children when she is away at work. Never pick up fights with her for petty reasons. Do not vent your frustration and jealousy on her.
Statistics show that a career woman is often unhappy with her family life. It is because for a career woman, her profession always comes first.
If you want your marriage to work, you should first understand this.
Adjustments and adaptions are tilted more to you. You have no other go than to adjust and adapt to your career wife.
If you work yourself up thinking about your wife’s concentration towards her profession, you might lose your marriage.
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