You want to save your failing marriage at any cost, don’t you?
But you are all at seas not knowing the ways to save your failing marriage.
Don’t worry.
All you have to do is to analyze your relationship with your spouse after your marriage.
There are a lot of changes in your relationship after you marry him\her. And the changes your marriage undergoes are often negative and unwanted.
- You communicated constantly before marriage.
- You cease to communicate after a few years of marriage.
- You easily forgave your spouse before marriage.
- You never forgive him\her after marriage.
- You appreciated your spouse before marriage.
- You scarcely notice him\her after marriage.
- Love was the word you used often before marriage.
- It becomes the most forgotten word after marriage.
Can you see the drastic changes your relationship undergoes after marriage?
These undesirable changes in your feelings towards your spouse makes you bitter and disillusion about your marriage.
‘I think I have made a terrible mistake by marrying my spouse. he\she is not like the person l loved.’
Your mind easily discards your marriage as if it was a dress you do not like.
Never ever do this.
The aftermath of divorce is regret that you did not make real efforts to save your failing marriage.
Here are the magic formulas for a successful marriage.
1. Nurture your relationship
Your married life cannot be a success unless you nurture your relationship.
Can a seedling grow without water?
It dies if you do not water it, doesn’t it?
Love and care are like water to your marriage. Your married life cannot survive if you do not care for your spouse.
Undemonstrative love creates a big rift between you. A rift that leads you to the divorce court.
2. Communicate and keep communicating.
When your relationship lacks communication it makes your married life an intolerable existence.
Why is it after marriage you forget to communicate with your spouse?
You might say that you do communicate with your spouse. Talking about routine family problems is not the real communication to make your love grow.
Family issues are often argumentative communication.
Very dull and boring.
- Rekindle your love by talking about your courtship days.
- Spend fun moments with your children.
- Talk about your problems.
- Talk about your happiness.
- Talk about your success.
- Talk about your failures.
Keep on communicating about everything under the sky.
3. Don’t be too focused on yourself
Do not be selfish and self-centered. It makes your spouse feel lonely and alone in your relationship.
- Empathize with your spouse. He\she likes you for this.
- Never demand everything to be done your way.
- Never expect your spouse to change according your liking after marriage.
If you do so, your spouse feels resentment against you snowballing into irrevocable hatred. Your spouse is an individual with his\her own inclinations and whims. Your married life becomes beautiful when you adjust to the diversified thoughts of each other.
4. Spend quality time together
Do not return from work to either spend your free time before the TV or recline in the bed to have a quick nap before dinner.
Nowadays video games, mobile phones and TV has barged into the ‘we time’ you need to make your relationship work.
Your time at home is your family time. Spend it in interacting with your spouse and children. Do not talk about routine things.
You interaction should be humorous and funny.
Humor is always fun, isn’t it?
5.Never, be indifferent
Do not be indifferent to the feelings of your spouse.
It makes him\her feel unloved, unattended, and uncared by you.
Is your spouse looking sad and off-color?
- Say consoling words.
- Show your spontaneous support.
- Show him\he that you will always be there for him\her.
- Reassure your depressed spouse.
- Wipe the tears of your spouse. Be attentive and caring.
6. A big ‘no’ to degrading comments
Do you tease your spouse in an affectionate manner?
It is pure fun.
But degrading comments evokes understandable sadness in your spouse.
Never compare your spouse with other good-looking colleague\friend\relative.
Your spouse rightfully feels insulted and angry.
Never ever, make derisive comments about the capacity of your spouse. He\she hates it.
7. Never, overlook the goodness of your spouse
Appreciation is the manna of your married life.
Appreciate the good qualities of your spouse. Enjoy the happiness and emotional intimacy it gives.
When you appreciate your spouse, he\she feels happy that you acknowledge the contribution he\she makes towards the family.
8. Never have too many expectations
Do not have too many expectations in your married life, as they will never happen.
Why?
Your expectations are always dreamy and unrealistic.
Your spouse can never be what you want him\her to be.
You feel frustrated and disappointed when your spouse does not act according to unrealistic expectations.
A great marriage wrecker.
9. Take care of your appearance
Taking care of your personal appearance is an emphatic way to save your failing marriage.
When you look good, your spouse feels attracted to you. Physical attraction is a magnet which pulls your spouse towards you.
If you look shabby and grubby your spouse does not feel the pulling attraction, very much-needed to make him\her glued to you.
10. Never, feel egoistic in asking forgiveness
Asking forgiveness when you are in the wrong minimizes the hurt and resentment your spouse feels.
Never feel egoistic to say sorry. When you say sorry, it shows you care for his\her feelings that it makes your spouse reassured of your love.
CONCLUSION
Do not let the love you had for each other dry up. Keep the embers of your love alive and active. Divorce makes you feel lost. Your children lose either a loving mother or a caring father.
Why do you opt for divorce when there are such easy ways to save your failing marriage?
Leave a Reply