‘You should always overcome fear if you want to succeed in your life’ words of my mother which I heard umpteenth times when I was young. It is still embedded in mind.
‘You have nothing to fear if you are honest and guilt free’ was yet another precious advice she used to give us.
How true she was.
You can easily avoid fear when your conscience is clear of guilt.
But fear is an emotion you experience in some stage of your life.
What sort of fears do you have?
- You fear defeat.
- You fear rejections and rebuffs.
- You fear successful people.
- You fear you will be an abject failure.
Are your fears justified and valid?
When you are negative you feed depressing thoughts into your brain.
The output of such negativity is fear.
What happens when you have fears?
- You shirk from doing things to make you successful.
- You cringe from meeting people.
- Your self-confidence is shattered.
- Your total outlook towards life is pessimistic and miserable.
The result is that your progress in life is stalled. When you do not overcome fear it further gains momentum to finally destroy your mental peace and confidence.
Why do you develop fear?
The way you were brought up decides whether you are going to be courageous or timid.
If you were abused by your parents in your childhood you grow up with lots of complexities. One such complexity is fear.
Your thinking and discerning ability is crushed and nipped in the bud by your all-controlling parents.
But if you were brought up by understanding parents you grow up being dynamic and courageous.
‘Let us negotiate out of fear. But let us never fear to negotiate’-John.F. Kennedy.
How to overcome fear in your life – It is often your negative imagination
Fear in your work place
Do you start for work cringing with fear about the anger of your boss?
Do you have a backlog of your work because you are not confident?
Lack of confidence stems out of fear.
Take a look at your successful colleague.
He sports a smile and is deft in his work.
What makes him different from you?
The answer is quite simple.
Your successful colleague does not have unnecessary fear.
He is a go- getter. He does not fear his higher officials\boss as he is always positive in his approach. He is work efficient.
But you are totally different.
Your fear makes to freeze into inaction. You never work efficiently. And your enormous load of pending work makes you unnerved.
You are getting yourself into a mess.
Stop thinking negatively about yourself.
Never fear anyone as you are not a criminal.
You will be amazed to find yourself becoming work efficient when you go ‘towards’ your problem.
Always go ‘towards’ your problems.
Not away from it.
Never make a mountain out of a’ no problem’.
Keep your mind clear to accept suggestions.
Be friendly with your colleagues.
Do your work steadily without fear.
When you avoid fear in your workplace success is just round the corner.
Overcome fear of people
Do you fear to approach people thinking that they may not reciprocate in a proper way?
Do you shy away from meeting a person as his towering significance makes you feel small and unimportant?
You will be surprised to know that the person you fear to meet came to this position because he was fearless to experiment.
No one is born successful. Successful people worked fearlessly for their success. They achieved it with their untiring enthusiasm and zeal.
‘Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that fear has no power and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free’. – Jim Morrison
You have the capacity to be successful. Only you are not using it.
Everyone are as human as you are. Do not put people on a pedestal and feel small before them.
There was a period in my life when I feared to meet people. I put my successful relatives on a pedestal and thought I was nothing before them.
I shirked going to family functions as I thought I would be rebuffed and rejected by them.
Suddenly the advice my mother about overcoming fear came to my mind.
‘Why should I compare myself with others?’ I told myself.
I gradually came out of my shell of fear and began mingling with people.
It was a revelation to me. No one rejected me. I observed many people and felt I was also very worthy.
Today I am a very changed person. I easily make friends. I fear no one. I am content about myself. The depression which I felt when I feared people has disappeared completely.
Fear is nothing but your negative imagination.
Look at your reflection in your mirror.
Smile at your reflection, it smiles back.
Frown at your reflection, it frowns back.
It is the same with your fear also. If you give undue importance to your fear it clings to you and fetters your progress to a standstill.
On the other hand if you overcome fear it melts down to nothingness. It is all in your hands. If you have to fear something it is your conscience, nothing else.