Is physical appearance in marriage more important than love?
Love is the foundation of your marriage. Physical appearance in marriage can never replace it.
But you always yearn to attract your spouse towards you, don’t you?
Only good physical appearance can do the magic for you. Unless you attract your spouse you cannot interest him\her.
Attracting your spouse is a key ingredient to a successful marriage, isn’t it?
But most of you ignore this most important aspect of your married life. You fail to understand that good physical appearance in marriage transforms your relationship from the ordinary to the extraordinary.
You feel proud when your spouse is well groomed. When he\she gives you a visual treat you enjoy it, consciously and unconsciously.
Physical appearance in marriage has the power of attracting your spouse
When you are well groomed your spouse notices you. He\she is attracted to you.
When you are presentable it has an indirect but very positive effect in your marriage.
Does this mean you have to be good looking to attract your spouse?
Not all are endowed with good looks. Do not confuse good looks with attractive physical appearance.
Physical appearance in marriage has nothing to do with beauty.
- It has to do with the neatness with which you dress at home.
- It has to do with your well-maintained body.
- It has to do with your well-groomed looks.
- It has to do with your personal hygiene.
Such easy to do things, isn’t it?
But sadly you never care for it.
Do you like watching movie in a theater which has torn seats and is littered with dirt and filth?
You do not.
You never go to that theatre.
You want to watch movie in a neat ambience. You feel comfortable watching movie when the theater is neat and well maintained.
How can it be any different in your marriage?
You were very conscious of your looks before your marriage. I know many couples who are on strict diet to look slim and trim on their wedding day.
After all they are going to be the center of attraction, aren’t they?
But after a few years of marriage, they look jaded, dull and bloated.
What happens to your physical appearance after marriage?
- You just let yourself go.
- You become flabby and obese.
- You never care to look good at home.
- You lose interest in your looks.
- The same happens to your spouse also.
When you look grubby and sweaty at home, your spouse will not be attracted to you.
After marriage you do not concentrate on the finer aspects of your married life. Looking presentable is one such most intricate aspect of your marriage. But sadly both ignore it. It is the worst form of taking your spouse for granted.
You feel your spouse should feel attracted to you without making any effort to attract him\her.
Do you feel your spouse should love you for yourself and not for your looks?
Physical appearance in marriage is not the utmost ingredient for a happy married life. But it does play a vital part in your relationship. You cannot command the attraction of your spouse when you do not look good.
I stared unbelievingly at my cousin when I went to visit her on a weekend.
She was shabbily dressed in an old an ill-fitting dress. Her hair was literally dripping with oil. I could hardly believe my eyes because she always dressed with classic taste in all family functions.
In fact she was a cynosure to every one’s eyes with apt accessories and perfect makeup.
‘Well, I am at home. I am dead tired. I am just unwinding myself. I do not feel like taking pains to look good when at home. Who is there to look at me?’ she laughingly told me when she saw my bewildered look.
‘Your husband is at home. You should look good before him, mustn’t you?’ I teased her.
‘Why? He is seeing me day in and day out. He knows I will not let him down when we go out together. I will make him proud by looking my best. But when I am home I do not have the energy to look good. It is my day off’ she concluded.
Her attitude did not surprise me. In fact this is the way most couples look when they are home. You dress for kill while going out, but look grimy and unkempt when at home. You feel home is your unwinding domain.
Unwinding does not mean looking shabby and dirty.
Good physical appearance in marriage is an easy way to attract your spouse sexually.
Does your husband insist you look good when at home?
Good! It is his right after all.
But is he unshaven, potbellied and very shabby?
You too have the right to expect your husband to look trim, toned and neat.
Good physical appearance in marriage presents visual treat to both. It makes your home vibrate with positive energy.
When your spouse looks good you feel attracted to him\her. When he\she looks piggish and dirty you feel irritated to look at him\her. It is as simple as that.
Many tiny and intricate aspects are seamlessly woven to make a near perfect marriage. One such aspect is attracting your spouse. Your good physical appearance is an awesome weapon which welds absolute charm over your spouse.
A good and well-groomed look is an enormous plus in your relationship. It makes your married life aesthetically beautiful and lovely. A visual treat is always appealing and interesting, isn’t it?