Do you know that unless you practice patience in your marriage, your relationship with your spouse is doomed to fail?
Patience is a virtue that makes your married life very easy to live. When you practice patience in your marriage, you forgo many unwanted habits that make your relationship heated and hostile.
But sadly, most of you are never patient with your spouse. You are so impatient that you do things that do irrevocable harm to your marriage.
Yes!
Your impatience is the root cause for your marriage plunging towards failure.
The importance of patience in married life is enormous and massive as it solves many relationship problems you have with your spouse.
What do you do when you are impatient with your spouse?
- You refuse to adjust
- You start unnecessary arguments.
- You say words which hurt your spouse.
- You make a big issue about the minor drawbacks of your spouse.
If you analyze your married life, you will understand that your impatience makes you come to rash decisions. When you talk and do things without thinking about the consequences, your marriage rocks to its very foundation.
Do you know why you should practice patience in your marriage?
Patience is actually the core to a good marriage. The level of patience may vary from one couple to the other. But the level of stability it gives your marriage remains strong and valid.
“Why should I be patient when my spouse needles me unnecessarily,” this is the common argument you hear in modern marriages.
You are wrong.
One moment of patience solves tons of your relationship problems.
“Today’s couples know how to earn money and maintain a good standard of living. But they do not know the trick to practice patience in their relationship,” my mother always tells me.
And she is right.
Here is what happens when you practice patience in your marriage
1. You cease to make your fights bitter and hostile
Do you know fights are an inevitable part of your marriage?
Though fights create unwanted resentment between you, it just cannot be avoided.
You utter harsh and wounding words against your spouse in the spurt of your anger.
When you do not have the patience to handle the minor issues that crop up in your marriage, you indulge in bitter fights with your spouse.
This is dangerous to your marriage.
But when you are patient, you hold back the hurting words you are ready to spill forth when you are agitated by your spouse.
Patience makes you refrain from giving bitter rejoinders to your already heated-up spouse. Thus, the fight between you never assumes a dangerous level.
Your spouse might behave unreasonably, and you might dislike it. But your patience makes you withhold your anger as you know the futility of it.
You handle the heated situation between you with coolness which only your patience can give you.
2. You are careful with your money
You want to enjoy all the good things in life immediately, don’t you?
Your debit cards, charge cards and credit cards make you feel rich, doesn’t it?
You feel as though you have loads of virtual money when you have multiple cards in your hand.
But in reality, you are plunging yourself into debts when you use your plastic loan shark cards recklessly.
Yes!
Your credit cards, charge cards are plastic loan sharks which you proudly hide in your wallet.
Why are you impatient to spend money?
You want to keep pace with your friends\colleagues\relatives and prove that you are equal to them in social status.
You are impatient to buy the latest gadgets and other luxurious things others have without thinking about your capacity of repayment. Your willful spending gets you embroiled into a financial mess.
But when you practice patience in your marriage, you realize that you need money for more important things. Your patience makes you realize what the need of the hour is and what can wait.
So, you spend intelligently and cleverly. You save and spend and not spend and regret.
This patience in handling your hard-earned money saves you from many untoward arguments with your spouse.
You save yourself from the unwanted disagreement which arise because of the financial mess your impatient and reckless spending plunges you in.
3. You allow your spouse to do things his\her way.
Many couples complain that their spouse does not give them time to do things their way.
You too commit the mistake of being impatient to the different way your spouse does his\her work.
Your spouse might be slow in getting ready for an outing or family function. It definitely gets on your nerves. And if you yell and shout at your spouse, it creates needless arguments between you.
But if you realize that everyone has different way of living life, you accept your spouse as he\she is.
You do not get strung up by the petty disorganization of your spouse.
And you enjoy your co-existence much better when you are patient than when you are impatient.
4. You give your marriage time to succeed
Your marriage is never a success overnight. You need incredible patience to make your relationship mature and mellow into perfect understanding between both.
Why do couples divorce after a few years of marriage?
They do not have the patience to give time to make their marriage work.
You too rashly decide that your marriage is a failure when you are impatient with your spouse. Your rashness make you come to the wrong decision that you cannot co-exist with your spouse any longer.
Impatience is one of the top reasons for the high rate of divorces you see in today’s marriages.
5. There is peace in the family
Life of impatient couples is rife with verbal and physical abuse which is not at all good for your marriage.
When you are impatient, the atmosphere at home is always heated up and an undercurrent of uneasiness exists 24\7.
But when you are patient, there is easy friendship between you. And you are ready to give in without being egoistic.
This spells success to your married life as your patience creates mutual respect between you. When there is mutual respect, everything about your marriage is a wonderful experience.
Conclusion
“Happily, ever after is not a fairy tale. It’s a choice.” –Fawn Weaver
Patience is a habit and can be developed by you.
All that is needed is your intention to make your marriage work. When your spouse is impatient, you should practice patience. And when you are temperamental your spouse should bring forth her \his patience.
Patience is a two-way path. Both you and your spouse should practice it. Patience in your relationship inevitably leads to a harmonious married life.
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